Eamon
18-05-14, 13:35
Hi all,
I have a few problems at the moment. The social anxiety problems. I avoid socialising now nearly all the time unless i really have to and then i get drunk to cope. At work i avoid sitting in cafe's with others. I do sit outside at this place with the lads on a Friday but have been avoiding that lately too.
I just seem to and do get really flushed and feel bloody awful and cant stop it and it lasts for ages even through the night it seems. I just want to run and get home. I drive a vehicle for work and without that i don't think i would be working, as i panic on public transport and feel isolated from home. Fear leads to fear. I like this job beacause i can avoid lots of interactions as i work alone or with an apprentice but i think avoiding things has made me find other things to be frightened of. I now worry about people thinking i am staring in their eyes and am weird. I now have to consciuosly look away when i think it appropriate, but i'm sure i come across as odd to people, some at least. Bloomin awful these problems i seem to have aquired these as never had them before. But always worried about since about 15 and sweating and stuff, shaking etc. Blimey O'reilly Hey! All pointless and energy-sapping and i tell myself to stop but my body lets me down!!!!
I live alone and am getiing so bloomin lonely its terrible. Weekends in doors and have this week off which i want but i get depressed mooping around on my own.
I have a serious problem at work too. A guy has been verbally abusing me for sometime now. I have gone to managment informally and it kind of stopped for a while but returned. Last week he wiped his hands on my neck and then said he had been to the toilet and not washed his hands. In front of other guys it was seriously humiliating. I went to managment again and took the option of them speaking to him again informally as opposed to taking out an official greivance against him.
I was so upset i rang a counsellor i had seen in the past that evening and I was crying and feeling so bad. She was good and i felt better but what happened just revolves around in my head. Saw him on Thursday and he had obviously been spoken to because he was acting all friendly to me. But then he coughed and called me '****' as he was doing it. So it seems like just as last time he hasn't changed. Feel others are looking at me at work as it is probably all round the place that i went to managment. He has been there 39 years and has friends. Its all macho and lads there and now i feel i will be viewed as a grass or something similar. Am off this week and am dreading going back and feel like leaving. My thought s are just revolving around this problem now.
I am trying to be optimistic- if i have to i will just have to leave or it will probably just blow over.....
Any thoughts would be gratefully appreciated.
Best wishes all,
I have a few problems at the moment. The social anxiety problems. I avoid socialising now nearly all the time unless i really have to and then i get drunk to cope. At work i avoid sitting in cafe's with others. I do sit outside at this place with the lads on a Friday but have been avoiding that lately too.
I just seem to and do get really flushed and feel bloody awful and cant stop it and it lasts for ages even through the night it seems. I just want to run and get home. I drive a vehicle for work and without that i don't think i would be working, as i panic on public transport and feel isolated from home. Fear leads to fear. I like this job beacause i can avoid lots of interactions as i work alone or with an apprentice but i think avoiding things has made me find other things to be frightened of. I now worry about people thinking i am staring in their eyes and am weird. I now have to consciuosly look away when i think it appropriate, but i'm sure i come across as odd to people, some at least. Bloomin awful these problems i seem to have aquired these as never had them before. But always worried about since about 15 and sweating and stuff, shaking etc. Blimey O'reilly Hey! All pointless and energy-sapping and i tell myself to stop but my body lets me down!!!!
I live alone and am getiing so bloomin lonely its terrible. Weekends in doors and have this week off which i want but i get depressed mooping around on my own.
I have a serious problem at work too. A guy has been verbally abusing me for sometime now. I have gone to managment informally and it kind of stopped for a while but returned. Last week he wiped his hands on my neck and then said he had been to the toilet and not washed his hands. In front of other guys it was seriously humiliating. I went to managment again and took the option of them speaking to him again informally as opposed to taking out an official greivance against him.
I was so upset i rang a counsellor i had seen in the past that evening and I was crying and feeling so bad. She was good and i felt better but what happened just revolves around in my head. Saw him on Thursday and he had obviously been spoken to because he was acting all friendly to me. But then he coughed and called me '****' as he was doing it. So it seems like just as last time he hasn't changed. Feel others are looking at me at work as it is probably all round the place that i went to managment. He has been there 39 years and has friends. Its all macho and lads there and now i feel i will be viewed as a grass or something similar. Am off this week and am dreading going back and feel like leaving. My thought s are just revolving around this problem now.
I am trying to be optimistic- if i have to i will just have to leave or it will probably just blow over.....
Any thoughts would be gratefully appreciated.
Best wishes all,