vicky23
04-06-14, 11:09
Hi everyone,
So as the title suggests I got engaged a few months ago and will be getting married in October this year.
I'm really excited but also I think my anxiety has been increasing in different ways i.e. stomach pain, nausea, dizzy spells, OCD becoming more acute in terms of checking things at work.
I think this is largely due to having to be assertive. I find that I'm worrying about these things a lot. So obviously suppliers want me to give them more money for things we don't necessarily want or need. An example is we're going for a meal after our ceremony and I said I wanted to do it for £10 per head, that would include their regular 'special' at £5.50 with then £4.50 left over for a drink which should be totally doable cos most people would have a coke or a pint of lager or something. But the woman we were dealing with then said 'that's going to be a struggle can you go to £12 a head and I'll do welcome drinks of prosecco' I found myself saying yes because even though that's not want I want! so now have to go back and bargain with her :( arrghh My fiancé will be coming with me so that's support but still.
I know that I can't shy away from these kinds of situations because I need to learn to deal with people but still I am so tempted sometimes just to ask my fiancé to do it :blush:
So as the title suggests I got engaged a few months ago and will be getting married in October this year.
I'm really excited but also I think my anxiety has been increasing in different ways i.e. stomach pain, nausea, dizzy spells, OCD becoming more acute in terms of checking things at work.
I think this is largely due to having to be assertive. I find that I'm worrying about these things a lot. So obviously suppliers want me to give them more money for things we don't necessarily want or need. An example is we're going for a meal after our ceremony and I said I wanted to do it for £10 per head, that would include their regular 'special' at £5.50 with then £4.50 left over for a drink which should be totally doable cos most people would have a coke or a pint of lager or something. But the woman we were dealing with then said 'that's going to be a struggle can you go to £12 a head and I'll do welcome drinks of prosecco' I found myself saying yes because even though that's not want I want! so now have to go back and bargain with her :( arrghh My fiancé will be coming with me so that's support but still.
I know that I can't shy away from these kinds of situations because I need to learn to deal with people but still I am so tempted sometimes just to ask my fiancé to do it :blush: