happyandlost
20-06-14, 10:49
Hi i'm new and have come here to try get any advice from people with the same issues who are going through any form of therapy that's helping them deal with similar issues. And also if there are any partners of anxiety sufferers who can offer an advice on how to cope yourself?
My husband has also been a worrier about money, health anything to do with change etc. but the problem that is facing us now is to do with the fear of being a peado.
It started when he held a newborn baby and was nervous because of not having much experience with children or babies so it was literally just nerves about how to hold this tiny little baby - a fairly normal bloke thing to feel, but he felt a "twitch" and that has now sent him into this obsessive anxiety that it means something and the fear is taking over. He cannot switch it off.
He can have totally normal days where he can think really logically about it and agrees that there isnt an issue because he's not a weirdo and that it is just the anxiety and that he will get the help to overcome it and it will all be fine. He's now having counselling for it and the counsellor is going to do EMDR with him. The Counsellor has assured him that what he is feeling is just the anxiety and that can cause all sorts of doubt in his mind and the fact that he fears this and thinks these obtrusive worries are horrific means that he isnt a weirdo at all, but that his brain is focusing on the negative thoughts instead of dismissing it like a "normal" person would be able to.
My questions are I suppose, is anyone feeling like this too and have you have any experience of EMDR, did it work for you?
As I said he's always been a worrier and it's usually his worries that affect our relationship, arguing over money when there really isnt a need to, stressing about being sick because it happened the last time, and now this which has been going on for 2 years now just at the time we should be thinking about having a baby of our own which im not prepared to do until this is sorted. I just dont know how much more of it I can take everything gets ruined by his anxiety. It's like sabotaging anything good in our life, just everyday generally but aswell as holidays and specifically our honeymoon last year.
What can I do?
xx
My husband has also been a worrier about money, health anything to do with change etc. but the problem that is facing us now is to do with the fear of being a peado.
It started when he held a newborn baby and was nervous because of not having much experience with children or babies so it was literally just nerves about how to hold this tiny little baby - a fairly normal bloke thing to feel, but he felt a "twitch" and that has now sent him into this obsessive anxiety that it means something and the fear is taking over. He cannot switch it off.
He can have totally normal days where he can think really logically about it and agrees that there isnt an issue because he's not a weirdo and that it is just the anxiety and that he will get the help to overcome it and it will all be fine. He's now having counselling for it and the counsellor is going to do EMDR with him. The Counsellor has assured him that what he is feeling is just the anxiety and that can cause all sorts of doubt in his mind and the fact that he fears this and thinks these obtrusive worries are horrific means that he isnt a weirdo at all, but that his brain is focusing on the negative thoughts instead of dismissing it like a "normal" person would be able to.
My questions are I suppose, is anyone feeling like this too and have you have any experience of EMDR, did it work for you?
As I said he's always been a worrier and it's usually his worries that affect our relationship, arguing over money when there really isnt a need to, stressing about being sick because it happened the last time, and now this which has been going on for 2 years now just at the time we should be thinking about having a baby of our own which im not prepared to do until this is sorted. I just dont know how much more of it I can take everything gets ruined by his anxiety. It's like sabotaging anything good in our life, just everyday generally but aswell as holidays and specifically our honeymoon last year.
What can I do?
xx