Toniandhollie
06-07-14, 11:40
Hi, I'm new to the site, and joined to help my daughter, realised I've probably got some issues of my own I need to get off my chest ....here goes ...
I feel so guilty:
1 - I should have been more forceful with the headmaster of her primary school, he blamed all incidents on Hol from week one, I should have stood up for her more
2 - Bullying at senior school, should have pushed them more over what action they were taking over the bullies, they had names but nothing was done
3 - standing up to my mum, who I love to bits, but treated me like shit, in front of Hollie, don't think that helped
4 - stand up to mum over now treating Hols like shit- though this has been loads better recently
5 - being more forceful with the council/school over getting them to appreciate Hol isn't just naughty and having a tantrum, but absolutely terrified of school and unable to handle the situation - I've done that now, but should have done it sooner
6 - that's last year, she now has separation issues, I left her for 3 months when she was 4, with my mum, as I was in the RAF and had to go to Iraq ... this is probably the one thing I regret most in life ...
7 - not understanding sooner, shouting at her "for god's sake just get up and go to school" was not my best parenting...
8- still leaving her every day on her own, but have to work, or where we would we be .. still hard to do every day ... definately no help to her
Thankyou, I needed to do that
---------- Post added at 11:40 ---------- Previous post was at 11:36 ----------
oh and for being such a wuss, so much so that I am happy, when I call school to let them know Hols won't be in, when I get the answer machine and don't have to actually speak to the attendance lady
I feel so guilty:
1 - I should have been more forceful with the headmaster of her primary school, he blamed all incidents on Hol from week one, I should have stood up for her more
2 - Bullying at senior school, should have pushed them more over what action they were taking over the bullies, they had names but nothing was done
3 - standing up to my mum, who I love to bits, but treated me like shit, in front of Hollie, don't think that helped
4 - stand up to mum over now treating Hols like shit- though this has been loads better recently
5 - being more forceful with the council/school over getting them to appreciate Hol isn't just naughty and having a tantrum, but absolutely terrified of school and unable to handle the situation - I've done that now, but should have done it sooner
6 - that's last year, she now has separation issues, I left her for 3 months when she was 4, with my mum, as I was in the RAF and had to go to Iraq ... this is probably the one thing I regret most in life ...
7 - not understanding sooner, shouting at her "for god's sake just get up and go to school" was not my best parenting...
8- still leaving her every day on her own, but have to work, or where we would we be .. still hard to do every day ... definately no help to her
Thankyou, I needed to do that
---------- Post added at 11:40 ---------- Previous post was at 11:36 ----------
oh and for being such a wuss, so much so that I am happy, when I call school to let them know Hols won't be in, when I get the answer machine and don't have to actually speak to the attendance lady