koala
30-07-14, 17:42
Don't know where the best place to put this is so i will try here?
Feeling upset and don't know what to do. I normally don't have any problems at work and working for a disability charity they are usually very sympathetic about my condition. However today i felt like my boss was trying to pressurize me to do things i'm not ready to do yet. She wants me to attend all these event and training courses but i don't want to go for 2 reasons
1- They involving travelling a long distance (over an hour) which i don't feel comfortable doing yet and my boss knows this (i am making slow progress on travelling out of my comfort zone on a personal note).
2- some of the courses i don't even want to go on. I am suppose to do CPD courses every year n when we last spoke i said i wanted to go on an exercise instructor course and she said work would support me to do it but now she wants me to go on admin courses which i have no interest in and i feel sick at the thought of going to glasgow to do them (i'm from Edinburgh)
In the past i have always felt really uncomfortable when people have spoken about going to events that i'm not going to and sometimes i have felt i'm not worthy of my job because i have been offered fantastic opportunities but not taken them up because of my anxiety. But in my defense they never do anything in Edinburgh. If they did i would definitely make an effort to go. I feel that while my boss was understanding to begin with shes now started to get impatient and i cant help but think she thinks i'm just being lazy and not making an effort but she doesn't see all the hard work i'm doing outside of work. i'm also terrified of having a panic attack in front of my work colleagues and then having to face them the next day at work. I tend to keep my friends/family life separate from work and like it that way. It's also not really possible to have a private conversation with her about it all cos she's never in the office and when she is it's hard to get a word in cos she's so busy with others.
To add to my stress the local Brownie unit im helping with have also started putting pressure on me to do things im not comfortable with. Last year they mentioned going camping. i said i would go during the day one day but i wouldn't sleep over cos of anxiety and they seemed fine with that. Now a new leader has joined and she's trying to get me to stay over and help for the whole thing cos she doesn't understand what anxiety actually is. She's also pressuring me to do my leader qualification which i don't want to do cos i have too much else going on and i don't want the extra responsibility this now.She also keeps suggesting we should do all these extra activities which again i'm not interested in. I don't mind helping at the odd coffee morning but i don't want to dedicate my whole life to Brownies. She's making me feel really uncomfortable.
Does anyone else find that others try to stop you recovering at your own pace and pressurize you to do things quicker than you are ready to? It's like they expect you to just magically change overnight?
Sorry for going on and on and thanks if you have read all this. Would appreciate some advice/feedback.
Feeling upset and don't know what to do. I normally don't have any problems at work and working for a disability charity they are usually very sympathetic about my condition. However today i felt like my boss was trying to pressurize me to do things i'm not ready to do yet. She wants me to attend all these event and training courses but i don't want to go for 2 reasons
1- They involving travelling a long distance (over an hour) which i don't feel comfortable doing yet and my boss knows this (i am making slow progress on travelling out of my comfort zone on a personal note).
2- some of the courses i don't even want to go on. I am suppose to do CPD courses every year n when we last spoke i said i wanted to go on an exercise instructor course and she said work would support me to do it but now she wants me to go on admin courses which i have no interest in and i feel sick at the thought of going to glasgow to do them (i'm from Edinburgh)
In the past i have always felt really uncomfortable when people have spoken about going to events that i'm not going to and sometimes i have felt i'm not worthy of my job because i have been offered fantastic opportunities but not taken them up because of my anxiety. But in my defense they never do anything in Edinburgh. If they did i would definitely make an effort to go. I feel that while my boss was understanding to begin with shes now started to get impatient and i cant help but think she thinks i'm just being lazy and not making an effort but she doesn't see all the hard work i'm doing outside of work. i'm also terrified of having a panic attack in front of my work colleagues and then having to face them the next day at work. I tend to keep my friends/family life separate from work and like it that way. It's also not really possible to have a private conversation with her about it all cos she's never in the office and when she is it's hard to get a word in cos she's so busy with others.
To add to my stress the local Brownie unit im helping with have also started putting pressure on me to do things im not comfortable with. Last year they mentioned going camping. i said i would go during the day one day but i wouldn't sleep over cos of anxiety and they seemed fine with that. Now a new leader has joined and she's trying to get me to stay over and help for the whole thing cos she doesn't understand what anxiety actually is. She's also pressuring me to do my leader qualification which i don't want to do cos i have too much else going on and i don't want the extra responsibility this now.She also keeps suggesting we should do all these extra activities which again i'm not interested in. I don't mind helping at the odd coffee morning but i don't want to dedicate my whole life to Brownies. She's making me feel really uncomfortable.
Does anyone else find that others try to stop you recovering at your own pace and pressurize you to do things quicker than you are ready to? It's like they expect you to just magically change overnight?
Sorry for going on and on and thanks if you have read all this. Would appreciate some advice/feedback.