HalfJack
15-09-14, 01:29
I just can't get the hang of being assertive and thinking about myself positively. I feel ugly and repulsive all the time.
I'm not giving up hope. I've just been struggling to find anything that helps me improve. From experience I know "nothing works" means:
Think about what you've tried and if you've done it right.
Change approach and or keep at it.
If it still doesn't work step away.
Find other methods for now and try them again another time.
I've got myself to the point where I no longer panic much (but it does bring me down) and I accept that regardless of how I look, being confident will make my life better, so I should just be me. I'm gaining confidence by the mile but not self esteem or assertiveness!
It's like I lose words when I need to be assertive. It's not that I'm flustered it's just that I very literally don't know how to phrase what I want to say. My only options are to blurt out unprocessed thought - "NO F*** YOU" - or be a wallflower. I hate both. It's always the quiet ones :winks:
Anyone else empathise?
I'm not giving up hope. I've just been struggling to find anything that helps me improve. From experience I know "nothing works" means:
Think about what you've tried and if you've done it right.
Change approach and or keep at it.
If it still doesn't work step away.
Find other methods for now and try them again another time.
I've got myself to the point where I no longer panic much (but it does bring me down) and I accept that regardless of how I look, being confident will make my life better, so I should just be me. I'm gaining confidence by the mile but not self esteem or assertiveness!
It's like I lose words when I need to be assertive. It's not that I'm flustered it's just that I very literally don't know how to phrase what I want to say. My only options are to blurt out unprocessed thought - "NO F*** YOU" - or be a wallflower. I hate both. It's always the quiet ones :winks:
Anyone else empathise?