tn13
02-10-14, 07:22
I am almost 23 and I still don't have my license. I got away with it because I didn't in high school (too anxious to even go get my G1) and then went to university in the city where there was public transit everywhere and some people willingly never get their license because they just don't need it.
Now I'm back living and working in the suburbs and I get by hitching a ride with family, friends or co-workers but I can't keep that up. I need to travel around town for my job and I'm looking to go to grad school next year, which I will definitely need to commute to, and public transit is terrible to the two places I'm most serious about.
My anxiety (GAD, OCD and panic... I'm a mess) got worse while I was in university in 2011 which led to me finally getting treatment (been on here since then and this is the best anxiety forum!). My anxiety is mostly around health and death as well social anxiety/fear of being judged and failing. I am mostly better after a relapse in summer 2013 and I have grown a lot this year. I finally got my G1 (Ontario learner's permit) in 2011 and did my classroom portion of drivers ed in May. I have driven with my dad a fair bit. I wanted to jump right in to the in-car lessons but the driving school messed up and didn't pair me with an instructor until July, when I went on vacation and I couldn't start the lessons.
Meanwhile the last time I drove with my dad I was on a busy street and changed lanes. When I got to the intersection a guy in a fancy car started screaming and swearing at me saying I cut him off. My dad even said I didn't really, maybe was a bit too close but I signaled and there was no risk of a collision or anything like that. It really bothered me and I haven't been out driving since.
Today I was finally supposed to have my first lesson and I freaked. When the instructor came to pick me up I wouldn't even leave the house at first. When I finally went outside and saw the car I started bawling. He was really nice about it and drove me around for a bit, then I drove just around my neighbourhood for about 20 minutes (the lesson was supposed to be an hour). We went back to my house and he said that was it for today, that he wanted me to try driving with my dad more to build up confidence then to call when I was feeling ready.
If I had a choice I would never learn to drive. I know it makes things easier and I can't rely on other people forever but I just never want to do it. Or at least I can't ever see myself being confident enough to be able to drive to uni. Maybe to the store down the road or my workplace 15 minutes away but not to school. To add even more pressure I need to get my license by next April or else I'll lose my G1 and have to go back and do everything again.
And there's so much stigma about not driving, like it makes you a loser and I feel like a loser.
Now I'm back living and working in the suburbs and I get by hitching a ride with family, friends or co-workers but I can't keep that up. I need to travel around town for my job and I'm looking to go to grad school next year, which I will definitely need to commute to, and public transit is terrible to the two places I'm most serious about.
My anxiety (GAD, OCD and panic... I'm a mess) got worse while I was in university in 2011 which led to me finally getting treatment (been on here since then and this is the best anxiety forum!). My anxiety is mostly around health and death as well social anxiety/fear of being judged and failing. I am mostly better after a relapse in summer 2013 and I have grown a lot this year. I finally got my G1 (Ontario learner's permit) in 2011 and did my classroom portion of drivers ed in May. I have driven with my dad a fair bit. I wanted to jump right in to the in-car lessons but the driving school messed up and didn't pair me with an instructor until July, when I went on vacation and I couldn't start the lessons.
Meanwhile the last time I drove with my dad I was on a busy street and changed lanes. When I got to the intersection a guy in a fancy car started screaming and swearing at me saying I cut him off. My dad even said I didn't really, maybe was a bit too close but I signaled and there was no risk of a collision or anything like that. It really bothered me and I haven't been out driving since.
Today I was finally supposed to have my first lesson and I freaked. When the instructor came to pick me up I wouldn't even leave the house at first. When I finally went outside and saw the car I started bawling. He was really nice about it and drove me around for a bit, then I drove just around my neighbourhood for about 20 minutes (the lesson was supposed to be an hour). We went back to my house and he said that was it for today, that he wanted me to try driving with my dad more to build up confidence then to call when I was feeling ready.
If I had a choice I would never learn to drive. I know it makes things easier and I can't rely on other people forever but I just never want to do it. Or at least I can't ever see myself being confident enough to be able to drive to uni. Maybe to the store down the road or my workplace 15 minutes away but not to school. To add even more pressure I need to get my license by next April or else I'll lose my G1 and have to go back and do everything again.
And there's so much stigma about not driving, like it makes you a loser and I feel like a loser.