dizzyco
15-10-14, 18:32
Hi all
I am writing this through tears, not knowing where to turn or what to do.
I have suffered from anxiety and panic attacks since the age of about 12/13 but managed to control them to a certain point. I was able to get my degree, even though it took me a long time, and I was able to work and have a social life.
Since around 2011/2012, i have just deteriorated and am now at a point where I genuinely can't see a way through this.
I also have had lots of physical medical problems, as i have endometriosis and adenomyosis as well as interstitial cystitis. Being in actual physical pain and having had to struggle to even be believed for so many years really took its toll. But I thought I was getting through it.
I was on citalopram which took the edge off the panic, but i then came off it as i had to go on another medication for my physical probs which can't be taken alongside citalopram.
I am now at a point where everything has fallen apart.
I can't leave my flat alone, and am totally reliant on others to take me anywhere i need to go. When I do go out, even when with someone i trust, the panic attacks are so severe that it's a total nightmare which then takes me days to recover from. It knocks me back when i go out as i panic so much that I am now severely agoraphobic as the pain and fear are so extreme that it felt easier not to face it.
I have even started having panic attacks in my own flat, and in the house i grew up in. It feels like nowhere's safe and I can't take it anymore. I literally feel like I can't go on for one more day.
I also recently had a breakup with my partner of ten years, who ended the relationship because of the way I have become. I feel totally alone now. Isolated is not a strong enough word.
As i can't go out and am panicking everywhere, I no longer see friends, or even family, and am a total recluse.
I don't know how to get better.
I have had therapy, cbt, hypnotherapy, acupunture, craniosacral therapy, all sorts, but I am just getting worse every day.
The end of the relationship feels like the final straw - i was already suffering so so much. The panic and anxeity have turned me into someone I'm not and has pushed him away. Because of the adrenalin rushes and cortisol due to the constant anxiety, I have terrible anger and outbursts, and I was really a nightmare to him. But when you're in the state I have been in, you can't see what you're doing and you don't know how to stop it. It's a sign of the desperation you feel underneath but all that is seen is me being an absolute b**ch.
He says that I need to get better, but what he doesn't seem to see or acknowledge is that since he left me i now feel TOTALLY alone and hopeless and worthless, which then makes ALL the symptoms which cause the panic attacks a million times worse. It's like all the horrible things i thought about myself are true and that I was not worth sticking with through this.
I don't blame him, for if i could leave me, I would....but i can't. And I'm SO scared. And it hurts like hell that the one person i love that much, where we've been through so much together, has now left me.
I am a different person from the person I used to be. I never thought life would be such a struggle just to get through the day.
I am reaching out here just to hear from anyone who feels, or has felt, the same. I think i need to get back on citalopram but will then have to stop the other meds! it's very confusing.
I would appreciate any contact at all right now, i just need to reach out as i'm so deep in this that I can't see a way out.
Thanks for reading this long post, i know i've rambled on
xxxxxx
I am writing this through tears, not knowing where to turn or what to do.
I have suffered from anxiety and panic attacks since the age of about 12/13 but managed to control them to a certain point. I was able to get my degree, even though it took me a long time, and I was able to work and have a social life.
Since around 2011/2012, i have just deteriorated and am now at a point where I genuinely can't see a way through this.
I also have had lots of physical medical problems, as i have endometriosis and adenomyosis as well as interstitial cystitis. Being in actual physical pain and having had to struggle to even be believed for so many years really took its toll. But I thought I was getting through it.
I was on citalopram which took the edge off the panic, but i then came off it as i had to go on another medication for my physical probs which can't be taken alongside citalopram.
I am now at a point where everything has fallen apart.
I can't leave my flat alone, and am totally reliant on others to take me anywhere i need to go. When I do go out, even when with someone i trust, the panic attacks are so severe that it's a total nightmare which then takes me days to recover from. It knocks me back when i go out as i panic so much that I am now severely agoraphobic as the pain and fear are so extreme that it felt easier not to face it.
I have even started having panic attacks in my own flat, and in the house i grew up in. It feels like nowhere's safe and I can't take it anymore. I literally feel like I can't go on for one more day.
I also recently had a breakup with my partner of ten years, who ended the relationship because of the way I have become. I feel totally alone now. Isolated is not a strong enough word.
As i can't go out and am panicking everywhere, I no longer see friends, or even family, and am a total recluse.
I don't know how to get better.
I have had therapy, cbt, hypnotherapy, acupunture, craniosacral therapy, all sorts, but I am just getting worse every day.
The end of the relationship feels like the final straw - i was already suffering so so much. The panic and anxeity have turned me into someone I'm not and has pushed him away. Because of the adrenalin rushes and cortisol due to the constant anxiety, I have terrible anger and outbursts, and I was really a nightmare to him. But when you're in the state I have been in, you can't see what you're doing and you don't know how to stop it. It's a sign of the desperation you feel underneath but all that is seen is me being an absolute b**ch.
He says that I need to get better, but what he doesn't seem to see or acknowledge is that since he left me i now feel TOTALLY alone and hopeless and worthless, which then makes ALL the symptoms which cause the panic attacks a million times worse. It's like all the horrible things i thought about myself are true and that I was not worth sticking with through this.
I don't blame him, for if i could leave me, I would....but i can't. And I'm SO scared. And it hurts like hell that the one person i love that much, where we've been through so much together, has now left me.
I am a different person from the person I used to be. I never thought life would be such a struggle just to get through the day.
I am reaching out here just to hear from anyone who feels, or has felt, the same. I think i need to get back on citalopram but will then have to stop the other meds! it's very confusing.
I would appreciate any contact at all right now, i just need to reach out as i'm so deep in this that I can't see a way out.
Thanks for reading this long post, i know i've rambled on
xxxxxx