GirlAfraid23
19-10-14, 11:10
Okay, so to set the scene...I'm in a long distance relationship with a guy I've known for quite a while now.
It was quite an intense relationship from the start and we both realised we had strong feelings for each other after around 2 months of talking everyday.
He told me he loved me first...in person, it was a lovely moment but I didn't say it back immediately. Later that day, I said it...because I realised I did love him. It was just a bit of a shock to hear it as I hadn't expected it.
Anyway, fast forward to 7 months into the relationship...I feel like I'm the one saying "I love you" first a lot of the time, whenever I do say it, he says "I love you too". But I can't help feeling that's just a reflex reaction. I know I'm probably over thinking things as usual. When we are together, we have a wonderful time and enjoy each other's company a lot.
I just have these doubts now and again...long distance is hard anyway, but when you don't hear I love you very often, you start to worry.
I think he is one of those people who regards it as a special thing and doesn't want it to lose it's meaning or become redundant.
I saw him a few weeks ago in person and he said it first then...and a few weeks before that when we stayed over in a hotel and he bought me a red rose and placed it on the bed as a surprise.
However, since then he's been a bit colder towards me and doesn't say things unless I say them to him...I often say I miss him and he says "I miss you too" it's always in reply to what I say. Occasionally he will say things first, but it always feels like it's me.
Any advice or some kind of reassurance would be helpful :( I'm frightened of pushing him away but I want to know he still feels the same.
It was quite an intense relationship from the start and we both realised we had strong feelings for each other after around 2 months of talking everyday.
He told me he loved me first...in person, it was a lovely moment but I didn't say it back immediately. Later that day, I said it...because I realised I did love him. It was just a bit of a shock to hear it as I hadn't expected it.
Anyway, fast forward to 7 months into the relationship...I feel like I'm the one saying "I love you" first a lot of the time, whenever I do say it, he says "I love you too". But I can't help feeling that's just a reflex reaction. I know I'm probably over thinking things as usual. When we are together, we have a wonderful time and enjoy each other's company a lot.
I just have these doubts now and again...long distance is hard anyway, but when you don't hear I love you very often, you start to worry.
I think he is one of those people who regards it as a special thing and doesn't want it to lose it's meaning or become redundant.
I saw him a few weeks ago in person and he said it first then...and a few weeks before that when we stayed over in a hotel and he bought me a red rose and placed it on the bed as a surprise.
However, since then he's been a bit colder towards me and doesn't say things unless I say them to him...I often say I miss him and he says "I miss you too" it's always in reply to what I say. Occasionally he will say things first, but it always feels like it's me.
Any advice or some kind of reassurance would be helpful :( I'm frightened of pushing him away but I want to know he still feels the same.