Elz0710
14-11-14, 01:48
Need advice!!
Last week my bf of nearly a year who I live with had his first panic/anxiety attack. I was sadly out of the country at the time but as soon as I got back the next day I could tell how distressed he was and he had completely changed.
Since last week pretty much every day he has been very very on edge and has had an attack nearly every day.
I am trying my best to be there for him when these attacks come on, usually in the middle of the night. I rub his back, am calm and he usually doesn't want to talk.
The only thing is he has become very agitated by me and seems to not like me on a daily basis despite me being extremely patient and calm and doing pretty much whatever he wants.
He doesn't want to talk to me, goes to bed early, doesn't hug or kiss and snaps over the littlest of things.
We had an argument the other night because he blocked me, said he was going to bed then turned out he actually was talking to someone else all night.
When I brought it up he responded by putting me down, pointing out I was useless at helping him and that he isn't happy with me and hasn't been for a long time.
He broke up with me then the next day took it back and said he didn't mean it.
Obviously this has put me on edge now.
I am trying to not argue with him or do anything to make him uneasy or upset as I know this isn't his fault and it's an illness.
I just need to know how much I should put up with (I know that's a horrible way to put it)
And btw if I do try and talk calmly about how anything is making me feel, I'm being selfish according to him.
How do I support him and handle these situations which are pretty much verging on emotional abuse?
Please help, thank you!
Last week my bf of nearly a year who I live with had his first panic/anxiety attack. I was sadly out of the country at the time but as soon as I got back the next day I could tell how distressed he was and he had completely changed.
Since last week pretty much every day he has been very very on edge and has had an attack nearly every day.
I am trying my best to be there for him when these attacks come on, usually in the middle of the night. I rub his back, am calm and he usually doesn't want to talk.
The only thing is he has become very agitated by me and seems to not like me on a daily basis despite me being extremely patient and calm and doing pretty much whatever he wants.
He doesn't want to talk to me, goes to bed early, doesn't hug or kiss and snaps over the littlest of things.
We had an argument the other night because he blocked me, said he was going to bed then turned out he actually was talking to someone else all night.
When I brought it up he responded by putting me down, pointing out I was useless at helping him and that he isn't happy with me and hasn't been for a long time.
He broke up with me then the next day took it back and said he didn't mean it.
Obviously this has put me on edge now.
I am trying to not argue with him or do anything to make him uneasy or upset as I know this isn't his fault and it's an illness.
I just need to know how much I should put up with (I know that's a horrible way to put it)
And btw if I do try and talk calmly about how anything is making me feel, I'm being selfish according to him.
How do I support him and handle these situations which are pretty much verging on emotional abuse?
Please help, thank you!