lior
23-11-14, 02:54
Today we have a house party on. I made an effort and did drawings of cocktails for the walls, dressed up nicely, bought gin and made sugar syrup and invited friends.
Someone lit a cigarette in the living room and I asked them politely to go outside because I have asthma, 'sorry to be a killjoy but I'd be coughing for days'. I left and when I came back a few people were smoking, despite having heard me loud and clear. They knew I'm asthmatic and I live here. My own housemate told them they could smoke here.
I got angry. I don't get angry much. I didn't shout. I brought out a picture on my laptop of asthmatic lungs so they could see the difference, and told them very clearly the effect that smoke has on my ability to breathe.
My housemate didn't want to listen and pushed past me, not engaging.
Now I know what a self centred, thoughtless, unkind person he is. The amount that they've smoked, I might be coughing for weeks. He KNEW I would suffer and yet he told people they should smoke indoors.
Now I don't feel safe to live here any more. I feel like I need to move out. He doesn't care one ounce for my health. I am considerate of everyone I live with - we share a space. I can't live with someone like him, who actively asks others to do something which he knows is bad for a housemate. Maybe I should ask him to move out rather than me.
I'm drunk and angry. Maybe I'll feel differently in the morning. But right now I feel the injustice massively, and I hate it how unkind someone that inhibits the same space as me is. He's shown his true cruel colours now.
Another guest, who heard me clearly, was smoking when I came in the second time, and admitted to knowing about me coughing as a result, yet smoking in spite of that. When I showed him the picture of lungs, he said he wouldn't smoke around asthmatics again in a very polite public schoolboy way, and I felt that he acted sincere to my face but would be very insincere behind my back. Two faced polite charming unkind self centred (incidentally) misogynistic man.
I don't know what I'm going to do in the morning. I don't know how my housemates are going to talk to me about what happened - how they will react. For now I am proud of myself for standing up for myself - standing up for my right to clean air in my own home. I am concerned that I might have destroyed my relationships with my housemates but I'm not sure I could continue living here if they treat me like that anyway. It is them who have ruined their relationships with me actually - I have only reacted to their unkindness rather than letting it slide and being walked over.
SO ANGRY, I'm so awake I can't sleep.
---------- Post added at 02:54 ---------- Previous post was at 02:52 ----------
Also I really want to self harm, and I am trying to figure out a way to stop myself from doing that without walking to the hospital in the rain in my pyjamas. Can anyone help?
Someone lit a cigarette in the living room and I asked them politely to go outside because I have asthma, 'sorry to be a killjoy but I'd be coughing for days'. I left and when I came back a few people were smoking, despite having heard me loud and clear. They knew I'm asthmatic and I live here. My own housemate told them they could smoke here.
I got angry. I don't get angry much. I didn't shout. I brought out a picture on my laptop of asthmatic lungs so they could see the difference, and told them very clearly the effect that smoke has on my ability to breathe.
My housemate didn't want to listen and pushed past me, not engaging.
Now I know what a self centred, thoughtless, unkind person he is. The amount that they've smoked, I might be coughing for weeks. He KNEW I would suffer and yet he told people they should smoke indoors.
Now I don't feel safe to live here any more. I feel like I need to move out. He doesn't care one ounce for my health. I am considerate of everyone I live with - we share a space. I can't live with someone like him, who actively asks others to do something which he knows is bad for a housemate. Maybe I should ask him to move out rather than me.
I'm drunk and angry. Maybe I'll feel differently in the morning. But right now I feel the injustice massively, and I hate it how unkind someone that inhibits the same space as me is. He's shown his true cruel colours now.
Another guest, who heard me clearly, was smoking when I came in the second time, and admitted to knowing about me coughing as a result, yet smoking in spite of that. When I showed him the picture of lungs, he said he wouldn't smoke around asthmatics again in a very polite public schoolboy way, and I felt that he acted sincere to my face but would be very insincere behind my back. Two faced polite charming unkind self centred (incidentally) misogynistic man.
I don't know what I'm going to do in the morning. I don't know how my housemates are going to talk to me about what happened - how they will react. For now I am proud of myself for standing up for myself - standing up for my right to clean air in my own home. I am concerned that I might have destroyed my relationships with my housemates but I'm not sure I could continue living here if they treat me like that anyway. It is them who have ruined their relationships with me actually - I have only reacted to their unkindness rather than letting it slide and being walked over.
SO ANGRY, I'm so awake I can't sleep.
---------- Post added at 02:54 ---------- Previous post was at 02:52 ----------
Also I really want to self harm, and I am trying to figure out a way to stop myself from doing that without walking to the hospital in the rain in my pyjamas. Can anyone help?