Down_Lo
25-11-14, 23:09
Hi guys,
Been a few months I have been on (Apologies), felt like I was starting to deal alot better dealing with with the anxiety within my job.
Sorry in advance if this post ends up like a novel, will try and keep it short as possible.
Things have really started to pick up in terms of feedback from applications and after a few interviews and managed to get another job, this really picked me up thinking its a new start and new me (or back to the old me before my previous employment).
There was more prospects outlined as well as a better salary which allowed me to start trying to be more social again with friends and family and less worrying about my bills etc. Also was excited about the fresh start and away from the negativity and the unnecessary stress of my previous company.
I started my new job but its been a complete disaster, it wasn't what I expecting and seems the same if not worse, totally out my comfort zone as they have put me in a different department at the moment and cant see where its progressing to, its also not what I am supposed to be doing which is frustrating.
They are a small family business and find it really hard to have the courage to approach them to ask what the plan is moving forward as the owners are quite intimidating and I didn't want any confrontation or look as if im complaining or being awkward about the situation, as soon as I have to speak to anyone in charge I get really nervous and panicky always have been that way to a point.
It has really affected me as I feel I had built myself up thinking new start etc and been brought back down with a bang.
After only a few weeks I ended up at my doctors as I couldnt sleep at night and totally anxious/depressed with the situation. He could see I was unwell and advised I take time off and has registered me to a new NHS anxiety/depression on-line course (awaiting the course to start).
I've always struggled to explain to my doc and show my true feelings,when I started to explain the situation and how I'm feeling I just broke down in tears, even though I know there shouldn't be a stigma about mental health I still feel I'm under that stigma unfortunately and find it hard to talk and express my feelings I always try to put on a front to friends family etc. as I dont want them to worry.
I feel totally under pressure and lost now as I have only just started and handed in a line, I couldn't even face talking to them I was that nervous so sent them an email to say I wouldn't be in and sent my line in a few days later.
It's been just over a week now and still cant sleep and really anxious all the time and extremely down and worried about the future, especially letting my family down (still haven't told any of them) just been hiding in my flat worried about what's going to happen as I am on a standard 3 month probation period within my new workplace.
I'm also really worried about my pay as well with all my outgoings due next week and don't even know how the pay is going to work and if I am going to be able to pay my bills.
I'm really embarrassed and down about myself tbh with my new employer now knowing my condition as well as claiming money from them when I have not long started.
I managed to make it through my original job for nearly 4 years which caused most of my personal issues and got me to my knees at some points and with the new employment not working out it has all just gotten too much.
There is also a few family matters which I dont want to go on about or use as an excuse but hasn't really helped but to know fault of anyone just bad timing.
I had been on medication in my previous docs (propranalol) last year and it made me worse,made me feel sedated and made me more anxious as I felt it was really difficult to focus on my work and felt like I was going to pass out!
My new doc isn't keen to put me on medication as he thinks I'm too young and tbh I am wary to try it out again.
I've tried to stay strong the last 4 years and keep pushing and always been ambitious and know what I want in life. I actually enjoy what I'm doing and know that it is what I want to do its just my confidence and my anxiety that is causing the issues and just finding a decent workplace/environment that my last 2 employers haven't provided.
I'm at breaking point though I feel I have totally lost control and don't know which way to turn and how to progress. Its taken me since 6pm to write this I find it hard to put into words and the situation! :wacko:
Anyway thanks for reading guys and any information or advice would be really appreciated, especially if you have been through similar situations.
Been a few months I have been on (Apologies), felt like I was starting to deal alot better dealing with with the anxiety within my job.
Sorry in advance if this post ends up like a novel, will try and keep it short as possible.
Things have really started to pick up in terms of feedback from applications and after a few interviews and managed to get another job, this really picked me up thinking its a new start and new me (or back to the old me before my previous employment).
There was more prospects outlined as well as a better salary which allowed me to start trying to be more social again with friends and family and less worrying about my bills etc. Also was excited about the fresh start and away from the negativity and the unnecessary stress of my previous company.
I started my new job but its been a complete disaster, it wasn't what I expecting and seems the same if not worse, totally out my comfort zone as they have put me in a different department at the moment and cant see where its progressing to, its also not what I am supposed to be doing which is frustrating.
They are a small family business and find it really hard to have the courage to approach them to ask what the plan is moving forward as the owners are quite intimidating and I didn't want any confrontation or look as if im complaining or being awkward about the situation, as soon as I have to speak to anyone in charge I get really nervous and panicky always have been that way to a point.
It has really affected me as I feel I had built myself up thinking new start etc and been brought back down with a bang.
After only a few weeks I ended up at my doctors as I couldnt sleep at night and totally anxious/depressed with the situation. He could see I was unwell and advised I take time off and has registered me to a new NHS anxiety/depression on-line course (awaiting the course to start).
I've always struggled to explain to my doc and show my true feelings,when I started to explain the situation and how I'm feeling I just broke down in tears, even though I know there shouldn't be a stigma about mental health I still feel I'm under that stigma unfortunately and find it hard to talk and express my feelings I always try to put on a front to friends family etc. as I dont want them to worry.
I feel totally under pressure and lost now as I have only just started and handed in a line, I couldn't even face talking to them I was that nervous so sent them an email to say I wouldn't be in and sent my line in a few days later.
It's been just over a week now and still cant sleep and really anxious all the time and extremely down and worried about the future, especially letting my family down (still haven't told any of them) just been hiding in my flat worried about what's going to happen as I am on a standard 3 month probation period within my new workplace.
I'm also really worried about my pay as well with all my outgoings due next week and don't even know how the pay is going to work and if I am going to be able to pay my bills.
I'm really embarrassed and down about myself tbh with my new employer now knowing my condition as well as claiming money from them when I have not long started.
I managed to make it through my original job for nearly 4 years which caused most of my personal issues and got me to my knees at some points and with the new employment not working out it has all just gotten too much.
There is also a few family matters which I dont want to go on about or use as an excuse but hasn't really helped but to know fault of anyone just bad timing.
I had been on medication in my previous docs (propranalol) last year and it made me worse,made me feel sedated and made me more anxious as I felt it was really difficult to focus on my work and felt like I was going to pass out!
My new doc isn't keen to put me on medication as he thinks I'm too young and tbh I am wary to try it out again.
I've tried to stay strong the last 4 years and keep pushing and always been ambitious and know what I want in life. I actually enjoy what I'm doing and know that it is what I want to do its just my confidence and my anxiety that is causing the issues and just finding a decent workplace/environment that my last 2 employers haven't provided.
I'm at breaking point though I feel I have totally lost control and don't know which way to turn and how to progress. Its taken me since 6pm to write this I find it hard to put into words and the situation! :wacko:
Anyway thanks for reading guys and any information or advice would be really appreciated, especially if you have been through similar situations.