Yorkshire Pudding
28-11-14, 15:47
Hello all, thank you for reading.
I posted a few months back so will avoid rehashing that post here. My partner was secretly using up to 30mgs of diazepam for the best part of the last decade. He wasn't open about this at all and would be very defensive about it. Eventually I got tired of this and said that he needed to get help or our relationship would be finished as he was ordering them off the Internet illegally.
He eventually sorted out a reducing prescription and it all seemed to go swimmingly, in fact he had few if any symptoms. I was concerned as he seemed to think that this was all he needed to do...he didn't seek any other support or therapy at all, leaving all the issues with anxiety unresolved. He also did not throw out his old stash.
Due to my suspicions I was checking on him a lot and eventually noticed that a couple of tablets from his old stash had gone missing. I asked him (with the hope of him being open) whether he'd used. He initially denied it but I told him that I knew different, so finally then he was open about it. He should at this point be on 2mg tablets but on a couple of days last week used 10mgs instead as he said he could feel himself starting to feel panicky.
I'm exhausted with this as his lack of openness has been going on for years. I told him I couldn't do it anymore and ended the relationship mainly because I think I'll struggle to trust him on this again eg. if he ever acted oddly in the future I think I'd always be worried he'd slipped back to using illegally purchased diazepam. I love him and feel devastated this has happened. There's a part of me that wants to believe that this was just one slip but I fear that in staying in the relationship that he'll never come off it but just be even more secretive. This whole thing feels like it's crushed me. He's got so many good points but I feel this just drives a wedge between us...like I feel like he shuts me out. I am so upset and am on the verge of taking him back but I'm not sure whether this is a good idea. .. :(
I posted a few months back so will avoid rehashing that post here. My partner was secretly using up to 30mgs of diazepam for the best part of the last decade. He wasn't open about this at all and would be very defensive about it. Eventually I got tired of this and said that he needed to get help or our relationship would be finished as he was ordering them off the Internet illegally.
He eventually sorted out a reducing prescription and it all seemed to go swimmingly, in fact he had few if any symptoms. I was concerned as he seemed to think that this was all he needed to do...he didn't seek any other support or therapy at all, leaving all the issues with anxiety unresolved. He also did not throw out his old stash.
Due to my suspicions I was checking on him a lot and eventually noticed that a couple of tablets from his old stash had gone missing. I asked him (with the hope of him being open) whether he'd used. He initially denied it but I told him that I knew different, so finally then he was open about it. He should at this point be on 2mg tablets but on a couple of days last week used 10mgs instead as he said he could feel himself starting to feel panicky.
I'm exhausted with this as his lack of openness has been going on for years. I told him I couldn't do it anymore and ended the relationship mainly because I think I'll struggle to trust him on this again eg. if he ever acted oddly in the future I think I'd always be worried he'd slipped back to using illegally purchased diazepam. I love him and feel devastated this has happened. There's a part of me that wants to believe that this was just one slip but I fear that in staying in the relationship that he'll never come off it but just be even more secretive. This whole thing feels like it's crushed me. He's got so many good points but I feel this just drives a wedge between us...like I feel like he shuts me out. I am so upset and am on the verge of taking him back but I'm not sure whether this is a good idea. .. :(