losing hope

[empty35]

Im suffering really badly from social anxiety cant talk to people or socialise in any way .Im a unemployed single mother of 3 children trying to find work but my advisor at the jobcentre keeps sending me on training courses im running out of excuses not to attend but if i dont this time i will lose all my money for me and my children .Iv sufffered for years from depression after my marriage broke down,was on sertraline not sure it helped but i felt better in the spring .but now i fear its coming back and the anxiety might be a sign .i can only describe it as sheer terror tight chest,dry mouth ,sweating ,blushing ,feeling everyone is looking at me .I spend most of my time alone when the kids are at school i have no friends only my dogs to walk i suppose i pushed them away being so shy ,i really need some advice please :)

[jefferina]

Hi I too suffer badly with social anxiety... Have you tried to get some professional help to try and start combating the fears and exposing yourself to them... This is what I'm trying to do I have good and bad days and I have a long way to go but a over a year ago I struggled to leave my house and couldn't step foot in a shop... Now I go shopping several times a week and it has got a lot easier. I have a 9month old daughter so I'm now getting help from mums in mind to help keep facing my fear... My biggest fear is turning red and blothchy I fact I'm petrified of that happening. Have you tried cbt? Or any relaxation such as meditation or relaxation CDs? That helps me and also I have found exercise has help me too. Hope that helps and really hope you find something that works for you goodluck to you xx

[GwenP]

I had this before the health anxiety but as daft as it sounds I went for coffee alone as like you not many friends around, sat next to elderly person said hello, it gave me more confidence again and once you have done it few times it's cool. What about volunteer work a day a week serving coffee wrvs

[katy87]

Hi I have depression and anxiety my son is 8. I wish I could have a job my advisor says I could get one. She doesn't understand how bad my social anxiety is. Pm me if you want to