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13-12-14, 14:28
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Intro
I'm not a guru by any means. I've applied these two techniques over the last 6 weeks or so and I am really feeling the changes. I came across ideas like these around 2 years ago but never applied them. I thought I couldn't do them, that they didn't apply to me. There were many excuses. As I've come more receptive to them they start to build up a positive momentum. And it's only then that you start to really feel the effects of their application. Anyone can apply these, in fact you are already applying these techniques, you're just using them subconsciously to build negative momentum! I'm not a guru and I'm not sitting here writing from a place of serenity, but I am getting better using this and other things, and there is absolutely no reason not to try.
Would you rather be positive or negative? In fact it's not necessarily about being 'positive', that might be too difficult to do from where you are now. I know this from experience. But you can start changing your beliefs that make you feel so negative. You might start to feel even a tiny bit better which is always welcome. Or would you rather feel negative and worrisome? You are allowed to feel happier or just a little better despite whatever else is going on in your life right now. Even if you knew something difficult was coming up in a weeks time, like a surgery, challenging event, or a dentist appointment - would you rather be positive or negative in those seven days? But this isn't just about being more positive or "positive thinking" (yeah, I hated that statement as much as you probably do!), instead it is about changing your limiting beliefs that make you feel habitually negative.
Background
These techniques are based on everything I've read and/or come to realise myself over the last 3 years. It's based on the Law of Attraction, and even if you don't know about it or believe it, that doesn't matter. Apply the two techniques and after a few weeks, judge for yourself. The law of attraction states that what vibration you send out into the universe, you then attract back to yourself. If that sounds a little too whacky for you, it is easier to think in very simple psychological terms - what you believe will shape your life. If you think you are not good enough, then you will always find evidence to justify your not being good enough. Or if you believe you are deserving of love, then you will attract more love in your life. It's that simple. But it's not important to believe or understand this, it just helps give you motivation to apply it. These techniques are about changing your automatic thought processes and changing them to more helpful strategies and habits.
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These two techniques are based on shifting up the belief stream to get what you want. First you have to know what you want, which is the first technique. Then you have to move toward that positive outcome in a gradual way. This isn't about getting what you want right here and now, it doesn't work like that. It takes practice and you will find that it may be difficult in the beginning and that it gets easier and easier as you go. This is about building positive momentum and changing thinking habits.
Your current state
If you are mildly anxious or severely anxious, your current state has been brought about largely by what you believe and how you think. Maybe there's medical reasons or life reasons that have contributed to or worsened your anxiety, but your belief systems have in no doubt worsened all of it. If you believe you will never get better (and many of us have this unconscious belief) then you will always find reasons and "evidence" to back up your belief. If you worry about an event then that very worry increases your stress, increases adrenaline and cortisol. So it's no surprise that the event becomes stressful and you succumb to anxiety. It's helpful to understand why we worry.
Why do we worry?
Worry is a self-protection mechanism (as is all fear). Worry is no more than your brain running over potential scenarios in your mind for what might go wrong. It's just doing its job. It's a precursor to planning and strategizing about how to avoid potential dangers. So for example, you might worry about going to the dentist. You imagine yourself whincing in pain at the dentist drill, you worry about becoming anxious in the waiting room, you worry that you'll get hysterical and run out of the dentist chair, you worry about the shame and humiliation. The worry is designed to assess potential danger to yourself (to your physical self or your well-being), and come up with a strategy to avoid that danger. It is no wonder we avoid going to the dentist. It is merely a strategy for avoiding emotional or physical pain. The real trouble is not worry, it is excessive worry and worry in a mind that is already over-sensitized, over-fatigued, and over-emotional. In the anxious mind it merely exagerates the process of worry and the emotional response from it. Worry can actually be useful when it isn't so emotionally laden. This is why we worry... we do it because we believe it is protective. Changing how we think about ourselves and about challenging situations reduces the need for worry and reduces the habit of it. When our bodies become less sensitized and fatigued, the emotional reaction to worry decreases. It takes the fuel out of the fire.
Underlying worry are beliefs like these - "I can't do this", "I'm not good enough", "I failed before, I will fail again", "I don't have the strength or skill to do this", "I'm different from everyone else - my problems are worse", etc. It's these beliefs about yourself that lead to the worry. Would you worry about an event if you believed in your ability to cope with that situation? Of course not.
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But this is the tricky thing about belief - you believe them! According to Abraham Hicks, a belief is just a thought you have practised over and over. So it's not that you're not capable or not good enough, it's just that you believe you are not good enough or not capable enough. So you find situations and 'evidence' in your life that supports these beliefs. This is the self-fulfilling prophecy. These two techniques below are designed to break you out of that self-fulfilling prophecy. They are there to stop you attracting what you don't want and to start attracting what you do want. Suddenly starting to believe you are good enough may be too difficult in the beginning, because your belief in yourself is so deep. But changing your beliefs in a systematic way can actually change your whole belief structure and therefore, your life, gradually and resolutely.
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Next post: Technique #1 - Knowing what you DO want
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Technique #1- Knowing what you do want
As I mentioned in the previous post you get what you attract. So the first place to start is getting to know what you do want. This might not be as obvious as you first think. I've spent my entire teenage and adult life knowing what I don't want, but never what I do[/i] want. When you have a belief, be it positive or negative, you attract more of the same. So if you worry, you attract more worry. If you are positive you attract more positivity.
To get what you want you have to know what you want. If you go into a restaurant and the waitress asks you want you want, do you say I don't want the beef and hand her back the menu? No. You tell her what you want and you get what you want. When you go on a date and your date asks you where you want to go tonight, you don't say "I don't want to go to the cinema" and expect to know where you are going. The example Hicks uses is that you put your desired destination into your SATNAV and the SATNAV guides you where you want to go. You can't say to your SATNAV I don't want to go to Nottingham and expect to get to Wolverhampton. [b]You have to know where you want to go before you get there.
In the anxious mind, and probably for many months or years, you have been focussing on what you don't want. how many times have you said to yourself - "I don't want to feel like this", "I hate this, won't it just go away", "I don't want to be anxious", "I don't want to panic", "I don't want to experience this emotion anymore". Most of your thoughts are focussed on what you do NOT want. Not what you want. By focusing on what you don't want, you don't tell your mind (or life, god, or the universe - whatever you are comfortable with) what you DO want. Therefore, you attract the very things you DON't want. Or you are so focused on the absence of what you do want that you don't make clear what you want. So start being clearer on what you want!
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Pivoting
I started to use this technique before I found out that someone gave it a name! They call it pivoting and it's so very simple. It transfers your attention away from negative worrisome thoughts toward positive desires. That very act in itself is enough to make you feel more positive, or at least not as bad as you were before.
All this is based on something very very fundamental. As Hicks puts it - knowing what you DON'T want allows you to know what you DO want. All of the bad things in your life are in actual fact pointing you to where you want to go. Knowing this takes the sting out of all those fearful thoughts and feelings. So when you have a fearful thought about something, what is the opposite? What do you want this situation to be like? How do you want to feel in this situation? Knowing what you don't want allows you to begin to focus on what you do want to manifest. Now that your attention is focussing on what you do want allows life itself to create the conditions for what you desire to come to fruition. Now you are putting where you want to go into the SATNAV!
Pivoting in Action
When you have a negative thought or fearful feeling you want to think about what you do want. No longer do you have to recoil at the anxious thought, instead thank it. Thank it for showing you what you really want. Use pivoting as often as necessary. The more you use it the more you will start to see positives even in the darkest spots. You can apply this to any fearful thought you have.
For example, let's say you have a fear of going to the dentist. You start imagining all the things that could go wrong. Stop. Say "Mind, thank you for showing me what I don't want to happen." Now you ask for what you do want. "[Mind, life, god, universe], I want to feel at ease at the dentists. I want to be able to relax in the waiting room. I want to feel comfortable in the dentist chair. I want the dentist to be kind and comforting. I want to enjoy the experience of having my teeth cleaned! I want the dentist to say I have great teeth and everything is getting better each time I come in."
Just re-focussing alone will take attention away from negative thoughts. By doing so you interrupt the spiral of negative feelings that come from negative thoughts. You start to focus on positive aspects which makes you feel better. Even if it is only a little better to begin with.
Other examples are;
I don't want to feel anxious when alone - PIVOT - I want to feel at peace being alone
I don't want to worry about my presentation next week - PIVOT - I want to feel more confident about my presentation than I do now.
I don't want these panic thoughts - PIVOT - I want to be so comfortable with my thoughts that they don't matter any more.
Important points
With pivoting you make it very clear what you DO want. You aren't plucking random things out of the air, like wanting a new car or to win the lotto. Your desires are borne out of what you do not want. Pivoting can be done anytime, anywhere. It really is turning that frown upside down!
Your pivoting thoughts should be very specific. For instance, knowing you don't want anxiety let's you know you want peace. Instead of just focusing on peace make it even more specific. "I want to be at peace when alone. I want to be at peace when out in the street. I want to feel peaceful in my body and in my mind. I want to feel relaxed when talking with others." And so on. Make it as context specific as you like. Making it more specific allows you to focus more and more. It allows to conjure up the images and feelings that help to create it and make it real.
Get into the feelings. As well as focusing on, say, being more peaceful at home alone. Imagine what it would feel like to be at home alone, peaceful. The more you get into the groove of it the easier and more positive it actually becomes.
Final note of Pivoting
Pivoting isn't some technique just to use when you are in a panic. It's not an anti-panic technique. It;s about a long term strategy to shift your attitude and belief systems. It's actually not difficult at all, it's very very easy. The only problem you might have is really believing and getting into it. This is because you already have built a negative momentum. It might take a little time to slow that momentum and change direction. Introduce it into daily life and it'll start to build its own positive momentum. The next technique is one that is used in tandem to this one. It compliments the Pivoting technique and builds that momentum. :)
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Next post - Technique #2: Hierarchy of Positive Belief
Intro
I'm not a guru by any means. I've applied these two techniques over the last 6 weeks or so and I am really feeling the changes. I came across ideas like these around 2 years ago but never applied them. I thought I couldn't do them, that they didn't apply to me. There were many excuses. As I've come more receptive to them they start to build up a positive momentum. And it's only then that you start to really feel the effects of their application. Anyone can apply these, in fact you are already applying these techniques, you're just using them subconsciously to build negative momentum! I'm not a guru and I'm not sitting here writing from a place of serenity, but I am getting better using this and other things, and there is absolutely no reason not to try.
Would you rather be positive or negative? In fact it's not necessarily about being 'positive', that might be too difficult to do from where you are now. I know this from experience. But you can start changing your beliefs that make you feel so negative. You might start to feel even a tiny bit better which is always welcome. Or would you rather feel negative and worrisome? You are allowed to feel happier or just a little better despite whatever else is going on in your life right now. Even if you knew something difficult was coming up in a weeks time, like a surgery, challenging event, or a dentist appointment - would you rather be positive or negative in those seven days? But this isn't just about being more positive or "positive thinking" (yeah, I hated that statement as much as you probably do!), instead it is about changing your limiting beliefs that make you feel habitually negative.
Background
These techniques are based on everything I've read and/or come to realise myself over the last 3 years. It's based on the Law of Attraction, and even if you don't know about it or believe it, that doesn't matter. Apply the two techniques and after a few weeks, judge for yourself. The law of attraction states that what vibration you send out into the universe, you then attract back to yourself. If that sounds a little too whacky for you, it is easier to think in very simple psychological terms - what you believe will shape your life. If you think you are not good enough, then you will always find evidence to justify your not being good enough. Or if you believe you are deserving of love, then you will attract more love in your life. It's that simple. But it's not important to believe or understand this, it just helps give you motivation to apply it. These techniques are about changing your automatic thought processes and changing them to more helpful strategies and habits.
http://s23.postimg.org/brx9cbkbv/paint.jpg
These two techniques are based on shifting up the belief stream to get what you want. First you have to know what you want, which is the first technique. Then you have to move toward that positive outcome in a gradual way. This isn't about getting what you want right here and now, it doesn't work like that. It takes practice and you will find that it may be difficult in the beginning and that it gets easier and easier as you go. This is about building positive momentum and changing thinking habits.
Your current state
If you are mildly anxious or severely anxious, your current state has been brought about largely by what you believe and how you think. Maybe there's medical reasons or life reasons that have contributed to or worsened your anxiety, but your belief systems have in no doubt worsened all of it. If you believe you will never get better (and many of us have this unconscious belief) then you will always find reasons and "evidence" to back up your belief. If you worry about an event then that very worry increases your stress, increases adrenaline and cortisol. So it's no surprise that the event becomes stressful and you succumb to anxiety. It's helpful to understand why we worry.
Why do we worry?
Worry is a self-protection mechanism (as is all fear). Worry is no more than your brain running over potential scenarios in your mind for what might go wrong. It's just doing its job. It's a precursor to planning and strategizing about how to avoid potential dangers. So for example, you might worry about going to the dentist. You imagine yourself whincing in pain at the dentist drill, you worry about becoming anxious in the waiting room, you worry that you'll get hysterical and run out of the dentist chair, you worry about the shame and humiliation. The worry is designed to assess potential danger to yourself (to your physical self or your well-being), and come up with a strategy to avoid that danger. It is no wonder we avoid going to the dentist. It is merely a strategy for avoiding emotional or physical pain. The real trouble is not worry, it is excessive worry and worry in a mind that is already over-sensitized, over-fatigued, and over-emotional. In the anxious mind it merely exagerates the process of worry and the emotional response from it. Worry can actually be useful when it isn't so emotionally laden. This is why we worry... we do it because we believe it is protective. Changing how we think about ourselves and about challenging situations reduces the need for worry and reduces the habit of it. When our bodies become less sensitized and fatigued, the emotional reaction to worry decreases. It takes the fuel out of the fire.
Underlying worry are beliefs like these - "I can't do this", "I'm not good enough", "I failed before, I will fail again", "I don't have the strength or skill to do this", "I'm different from everyone else - my problems are worse", etc. It's these beliefs about yourself that lead to the worry. Would you worry about an event if you believed in your ability to cope with that situation? Of course not.
http://s23.postimg.org/3xwnqxciz/worry.jpg
But this is the tricky thing about belief - you believe them! According to Abraham Hicks, a belief is just a thought you have practised over and over. So it's not that you're not capable or not good enough, it's just that you believe you are not good enough or not capable enough. So you find situations and 'evidence' in your life that supports these beliefs. This is the self-fulfilling prophecy. These two techniques below are designed to break you out of that self-fulfilling prophecy. They are there to stop you attracting what you don't want and to start attracting what you do want. Suddenly starting to believe you are good enough may be too difficult in the beginning, because your belief in yourself is so deep. But changing your beliefs in a systematic way can actually change your whole belief structure and therefore, your life, gradually and resolutely.
http://s23.postimg.org/66au89jmz/possibilities.jpg
Next post: Technique #1 - Knowing what you DO want
---------- Post added at 14:28 ---------- Previous post was at 12:01 ----------
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Technique #1- Knowing what you do want
As I mentioned in the previous post you get what you attract. So the first place to start is getting to know what you do want. This might not be as obvious as you first think. I've spent my entire teenage and adult life knowing what I don't want, but never what I do[/i] want. When you have a belief, be it positive or negative, you attract more of the same. So if you worry, you attract more worry. If you are positive you attract more positivity.
To get what you want you have to know what you want. If you go into a restaurant and the waitress asks you want you want, do you say I don't want the beef and hand her back the menu? No. You tell her what you want and you get what you want. When you go on a date and your date asks you where you want to go tonight, you don't say "I don't want to go to the cinema" and expect to know where you are going. The example Hicks uses is that you put your desired destination into your SATNAV and the SATNAV guides you where you want to go. You can't say to your SATNAV I don't want to go to Nottingham and expect to get to Wolverhampton. [b]You have to know where you want to go before you get there.
In the anxious mind, and probably for many months or years, you have been focussing on what you don't want. how many times have you said to yourself - "I don't want to feel like this", "I hate this, won't it just go away", "I don't want to be anxious", "I don't want to panic", "I don't want to experience this emotion anymore". Most of your thoughts are focussed on what you do NOT want. Not what you want. By focusing on what you don't want, you don't tell your mind (or life, god, or the universe - whatever you are comfortable with) what you DO want. Therefore, you attract the very things you DON't want. Or you are so focused on the absence of what you do want that you don't make clear what you want. So start being clearer on what you want!
http://s30.postimg.org/9ae8u3og1/Obstacle_quote.jpg
Pivoting
I started to use this technique before I found out that someone gave it a name! They call it pivoting and it's so very simple. It transfers your attention away from negative worrisome thoughts toward positive desires. That very act in itself is enough to make you feel more positive, or at least not as bad as you were before.
All this is based on something very very fundamental. As Hicks puts it - knowing what you DON'T want allows you to know what you DO want. All of the bad things in your life are in actual fact pointing you to where you want to go. Knowing this takes the sting out of all those fearful thoughts and feelings. So when you have a fearful thought about something, what is the opposite? What do you want this situation to be like? How do you want to feel in this situation? Knowing what you don't want allows you to begin to focus on what you do want to manifest. Now that your attention is focussing on what you do want allows life itself to create the conditions for what you desire to come to fruition. Now you are putting where you want to go into the SATNAV!
Pivoting in Action
When you have a negative thought or fearful feeling you want to think about what you do want. No longer do you have to recoil at the anxious thought, instead thank it. Thank it for showing you what you really want. Use pivoting as often as necessary. The more you use it the more you will start to see positives even in the darkest spots. You can apply this to any fearful thought you have.
For example, let's say you have a fear of going to the dentist. You start imagining all the things that could go wrong. Stop. Say "Mind, thank you for showing me what I don't want to happen." Now you ask for what you do want. "[Mind, life, god, universe], I want to feel at ease at the dentists. I want to be able to relax in the waiting room. I want to feel comfortable in the dentist chair. I want the dentist to be kind and comforting. I want to enjoy the experience of having my teeth cleaned! I want the dentist to say I have great teeth and everything is getting better each time I come in."
Just re-focussing alone will take attention away from negative thoughts. By doing so you interrupt the spiral of negative feelings that come from negative thoughts. You start to focus on positive aspects which makes you feel better. Even if it is only a little better to begin with.
Other examples are;
I don't want to feel anxious when alone - PIVOT - I want to feel at peace being alone
I don't want to worry about my presentation next week - PIVOT - I want to feel more confident about my presentation than I do now.
I don't want these panic thoughts - PIVOT - I want to be so comfortable with my thoughts that they don't matter any more.
Important points
With pivoting you make it very clear what you DO want. You aren't plucking random things out of the air, like wanting a new car or to win the lotto. Your desires are borne out of what you do not want. Pivoting can be done anytime, anywhere. It really is turning that frown upside down!
Your pivoting thoughts should be very specific. For instance, knowing you don't want anxiety let's you know you want peace. Instead of just focusing on peace make it even more specific. "I want to be at peace when alone. I want to be at peace when out in the street. I want to feel peaceful in my body and in my mind. I want to feel relaxed when talking with others." And so on. Make it as context specific as you like. Making it more specific allows you to focus more and more. It allows to conjure up the images and feelings that help to create it and make it real.
Get into the feelings. As well as focusing on, say, being more peaceful at home alone. Imagine what it would feel like to be at home alone, peaceful. The more you get into the groove of it the easier and more positive it actually becomes.
Final note of Pivoting
Pivoting isn't some technique just to use when you are in a panic. It's not an anti-panic technique. It;s about a long term strategy to shift your attitude and belief systems. It's actually not difficult at all, it's very very easy. The only problem you might have is really believing and getting into it. This is because you already have built a negative momentum. It might take a little time to slow that momentum and change direction. Introduce it into daily life and it'll start to build its own positive momentum. The next technique is one that is used in tandem to this one. It compliments the Pivoting technique and builds that momentum. :)
http://s9.postimg.org/dzl7nokj3/Choosing_The_Right_DIRECTION1.png
Next post - Technique #2: Hierarchy of Positive Belief