Hypo
24-12-14, 11:39
If you guys are anything like me Xmas is a time for increased HA.
For me, it is scary that the gp surgery is closed for almost a week. I hate the thought of not having that security, but most of all I am scared that I will find something to worry about that will ruin my Xmas! I had been doing pretty well up until this last two weeks. That is normal for me at this time of year.
My challenge to everyone is for two days at least, STOP. Stop those safety behaviours, stop the checking, stop the googling and stop seeking reassurance.
Again, if you are anything like me your family hasn't been getting all of your attention because you are wrapped up in your fears and checking. If you are anything like me you probably talk about your health with your family a lot. So for two days at least lets try to be fully in the moment with our loved ones. Bury yourselves in movies, cooking, anything to keep your mind busy but which involves spending time with the family.
Last year my three kids from my first marriage lost their father just before xmas. Xmas was horrible and we will miss him again this year, but he had one last wish before he died, and that was to see his kids smile on Xmas day. Sadly he didn't get that wish but here was a man who truly was dying who dealt with it with such bravery and grace, instead of feeling fear around Xmas and being depressed because he was dying he simply only wanted one last Xmas with his children and family because he knew that it is the most important thing in life. He wasn't sitting there crying, checking his body for more deteriorating, googling for the end of life signs, obsessing, crying or anything, he just wanted one last Xmas.
So in his memory I will be giving our kids the best xmas ever, because if he was prepared to do the same knowing he had days to live, I can do it when I am actually not dying.
I hope you all join me and if things get hard please post here for support and encouragement.
---------- Post added at 11:39 ---------- Previous post was at 09:11 ----------
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For me, it is scary that the gp surgery is closed for almost a week. I hate the thought of not having that security, but most of all I am scared that I will find something to worry about that will ruin my Xmas! I had been doing pretty well up until this last two weeks. That is normal for me at this time of year.
My challenge to everyone is for two days at least, STOP. Stop those safety behaviours, stop the checking, stop the googling and stop seeking reassurance.
Again, if you are anything like me your family hasn't been getting all of your attention because you are wrapped up in your fears and checking. If you are anything like me you probably talk about your health with your family a lot. So for two days at least lets try to be fully in the moment with our loved ones. Bury yourselves in movies, cooking, anything to keep your mind busy but which involves spending time with the family.
Last year my three kids from my first marriage lost their father just before xmas. Xmas was horrible and we will miss him again this year, but he had one last wish before he died, and that was to see his kids smile on Xmas day. Sadly he didn't get that wish but here was a man who truly was dying who dealt with it with such bravery and grace, instead of feeling fear around Xmas and being depressed because he was dying he simply only wanted one last Xmas with his children and family because he knew that it is the most important thing in life. He wasn't sitting there crying, checking his body for more deteriorating, googling for the end of life signs, obsessing, crying or anything, he just wanted one last Xmas.
So in his memory I will be giving our kids the best xmas ever, because if he was prepared to do the same knowing he had days to live, I can do it when I am actually not dying.
I hope you all join me and if things get hard please post here for support and encouragement.
---------- Post added at 11:39 ---------- Previous post was at 09:11 ----------
25 views and no replies.
Oh well.. I am often invisible here :D