snoopy
08-01-07, 21:55
Hi all,
Have you ever been badly let down by a friend? I have just spent a week in hospital with my eight week old daughter, who developed BRONCHIOLITIS. She was on a drip for three days and reciving oxygen and tupe feeds, as she was to ill to feed or breath propally herself. My husband had to juggle looking after are three other young children plus work, which men't he wasen't able to spend much time up at the hospital, helping to care for her and suporting me. I spent night after night on my own with the worry and stress of it, at times fearing the worse. Given i have health anx this was an extreamly difficult time.
My next door neighbour, who is also one of my best friends turned her back on us compleaty, and made it quite clear she didn't want to help out. She pretended that she was coming down with a cold, which was the excuse she used not to help us. We have spent the last four years building a friendship, helping each other with the children, (she has three) meeting up every week, having each others children when we have had babies, baby sitting for each other, meals together, etc etc. But when we REALLY, REALLY need her, she and her husband stayed away and didn't want to know. It turned out they thought that their children might catch it, which we had guessed they would, knowing them like we do. The truth is it only affects young babies making them very unwell. As alll there three of there children are well over a year, ther is no risk to them at all. But they didn't even care enough to find out the facts first.
We have now totally fallen out with each other, after having a huge row, and it is awful as they are neighbours. But they let us down soo badly. She said she was a true friend and we could always rely on each other and always have in times of need. She didn't even visit or ring me the whole time i was in the hospital. And offered no help what so ever.I lost a baby last year and she knows how deeply it affected me, and she knew that i have developed anx since that time, but it made no difference to her.
So i told her that she is no friend, as true friends are there for you when the chips are down, like my others friends were. I feel soo much better since i confronted her, and told her excatly what i thought of her as she was expecting to come round for coffee the next day as normal and pick up from where we left off. Even my palps have been better since th row. I know i have done the right thing even if it's going to be very awkward living next door.
Who needs friends like that?
Snoopy x
Have you ever been badly let down by a friend? I have just spent a week in hospital with my eight week old daughter, who developed BRONCHIOLITIS. She was on a drip for three days and reciving oxygen and tupe feeds, as she was to ill to feed or breath propally herself. My husband had to juggle looking after are three other young children plus work, which men't he wasen't able to spend much time up at the hospital, helping to care for her and suporting me. I spent night after night on my own with the worry and stress of it, at times fearing the worse. Given i have health anx this was an extreamly difficult time.
My next door neighbour, who is also one of my best friends turned her back on us compleaty, and made it quite clear she didn't want to help out. She pretended that she was coming down with a cold, which was the excuse she used not to help us. We have spent the last four years building a friendship, helping each other with the children, (she has three) meeting up every week, having each others children when we have had babies, baby sitting for each other, meals together, etc etc. But when we REALLY, REALLY need her, she and her husband stayed away and didn't want to know. It turned out they thought that their children might catch it, which we had guessed they would, knowing them like we do. The truth is it only affects young babies making them very unwell. As alll there three of there children are well over a year, ther is no risk to them at all. But they didn't even care enough to find out the facts first.
We have now totally fallen out with each other, after having a huge row, and it is awful as they are neighbours. But they let us down soo badly. She said she was a true friend and we could always rely on each other and always have in times of need. She didn't even visit or ring me the whole time i was in the hospital. And offered no help what so ever.I lost a baby last year and she knows how deeply it affected me, and she knew that i have developed anx since that time, but it made no difference to her.
So i told her that she is no friend, as true friends are there for you when the chips are down, like my others friends were. I feel soo much better since i confronted her, and told her excatly what i thought of her as she was expecting to come round for coffee the next day as normal and pick up from where we left off. Even my palps have been better since th row. I know i have done the right thing even if it's going to be very awkward living next door.
Who needs friends like that?
Snoopy x