GirlAfraid23
17-02-15, 11:07
I've recently moved in with my boyfriend and we love each other very much. He is absolutely perfect for me in every way and I know it's same for him. We have many things in common and are so happy together. We get along and living together hasn't caused any problems. We have a great sex life and laugh all the time.
However, last night we were talking about the future and light heartedly I mentioned having a family. He made a face and said he isn't keen on children. I went on to say it's different when you have your own but he said he doesn't even think he wants kids.
I then asked him if he means he definitely doesn't want them, he said he isn't sure and doesn't know. But is leaning more towards no. I don't undestand why as he's from a loving, tight knit family. But he says he's worried about the responsibility it brings and means that he couldn't do all the travelling/things he wants to do (he's very passionate about politics and wants to get involved in grassroots co-operative projects). He already does a lot of work outside of his own work, campaigning and helping others through austerity etc.
Anyway, I got quite upset and started crying, I told him we should just call it a day - he looked quite shocked and hurt and I immediatley regretted it.
He then told me he loved me and said sorry for making things difficult, he said we are getting ahead of ourselves and should wait and see what happens in the future, he promises me to think about it and said he's not completely decided upon it.
The worry for me is that he is younger than me, he's 22 and I'm 26. So although time isn't quite running out yet, my body clock is ticking away.
The anxiety is too much. I have enough worries at the moment :( we've had such a lovely last few weeks and now this is all I can think about....what if I get 5 or 6 years down the line with him and he then says he definitely doesn't want children...I don't know what I'll do then. I love him so much and I don't want to be with anybody else. But I also don't want to live a childless life as a couple.
However, last night we were talking about the future and light heartedly I mentioned having a family. He made a face and said he isn't keen on children. I went on to say it's different when you have your own but he said he doesn't even think he wants kids.
I then asked him if he means he definitely doesn't want them, he said he isn't sure and doesn't know. But is leaning more towards no. I don't undestand why as he's from a loving, tight knit family. But he says he's worried about the responsibility it brings and means that he couldn't do all the travelling/things he wants to do (he's very passionate about politics and wants to get involved in grassroots co-operative projects). He already does a lot of work outside of his own work, campaigning and helping others through austerity etc.
Anyway, I got quite upset and started crying, I told him we should just call it a day - he looked quite shocked and hurt and I immediatley regretted it.
He then told me he loved me and said sorry for making things difficult, he said we are getting ahead of ourselves and should wait and see what happens in the future, he promises me to think about it and said he's not completely decided upon it.
The worry for me is that he is younger than me, he's 22 and I'm 26. So although time isn't quite running out yet, my body clock is ticking away.
The anxiety is too much. I have enough worries at the moment :( we've had such a lovely last few weeks and now this is all I can think about....what if I get 5 or 6 years down the line with him and he then says he definitely doesn't want children...I don't know what I'll do then. I love him so much and I don't want to be with anybody else. But I also don't want to live a childless life as a couple.