Social Anxiety - Catch 22

[mfmycm]

Sitting here wondering if the pain will ever go away. Believe me I want to overcome this "challenge" but can't seem to get over the hump. My fear is speaking in public and now I am constantly testing myself to see how I am doing. I will leave messages on my voice mail and practice speeches in the mirror looking for that break in the voice. When that crack occurs and I see failure on the horizon. I seem stuck between two worlds in which I am trying to fix the problem (stress reducing techniques, therapy, execrise) and trying not to let the problems consume my thougths 24/7. I know there is not magic bullet but just would like to know that I am not the only combatting these problems. I have found this forum to be very helpful and look forward to others sharing there experiences and advice... Peace MM

[sal]

Hi Mate

The pain will go away trust me. I am by no way cured but i know how to handle it now. I still have really bad days but i look to how i was and i understand i still have the same illness but i learnt the hard way and now although 2 years ago i would have lost it and still to this day i think i might but i remember how i felt and how now it maybe just a severe but i know it and i can control it.

We are all here to help you and you will get through this.

Love Sal xx


Dont mess up the best things in your life, just because at present you are unsure who you are.


"Life is a distance and to travel that distance you were given the strength and guidance to do so".

[Karen]

Hi and welcome to the forum.

I also have social phobia and when I first joined this site over two years ago now I wouldn't speak to anyone I didn't know very well. I couldn't answer my home phone or make phone calls and I definitely could not socialise.

The support from this site help get me started, as well as seeing a hypnotherapist. A member here was kind enough to ring me daily for a while, and do most of the talking, until eventually I was chatting away normally to her. I repeated thise process with several other people. At the same time I was have hypnotherapy and I think both helped.

I was even able to attend meet ups that are sometimes arranged on this forum and since then I have gained confidence and can socialise well with people I have something in common with, and probably with other people but it probably takes me a bit longer.

So, yes there is hope and it is possible to improve and be free from thie problem.

One suggestion you might like to try is this Overcoming Social Phobia (http://www.hypnosisdownloads.com/downloads/phobias_fears/social_phobia.html?1388) or the Public Speaking Confidence (http://www.hypnosisdownloads.com/downloads/personal_development/public_speaking.html?1388) hypnosis downloads.

Hope this helps.

Karen