L_x_j
10-03-15, 14:34
Hi All,
I'm new to this forum and have found reading through some the the threads very useful so thank you for that. To give you a bit of background, I've suffered with anxiety for most of my life, especially my adult life and it is a combination of general anxiety, social anxiety and especially anxiety in relationships.
I'm in a situation at the moment that I thought I'd never be in. I'm actually in a relationship with the girl of my dreams. I was up front with her before we entered the relationship about my struggles with anxiety and she was very understanding. We've become quite serious in a short period of time but it's such loving caring relationship that it just feels right. Initially as I got to know her, many of my anxieties disappeared (I struggle to eat around new people in certain situations, especially romantic interests). However just when I thought i was cured I came crashing back down to earth, my anxieties had returned. I think this coincided with me really falling for her.
Anyway, we're now about 4 months in and the support she give me in incredible, she is very understanding and I am very open and honest with her but I feel so insecure in myself. I have found it harder since being with her to go into certain social situations with friends and feel like I'm a massive burden to her with all these anxiety issues. I can get into quite a negative spiral when it hits me and it can be the smallest thing to set me off. I'm always very calm when I start to get anxious and can talkie through with her but keep having thoughts of 'why is she with me' and feel like there is a lot of pressure (from myself) to be 'normal' or she'll get bored and frustrated with me.
Anyway, I just wanted to know what other people had done to not let anxiety ruin their relationships and move past it? In the past my anxiety has got quite bad in relationships but feel that I've truly found someone so special I need to find a way to manage my negative thoughts and continue with a happy life together. I don't know whether I should be speaking to her about my problems or not but feel that being honest and open is always the right way to go about things.
Any thoughts would be brilliant. Thank you.
Alex
I'm new to this forum and have found reading through some the the threads very useful so thank you for that. To give you a bit of background, I've suffered with anxiety for most of my life, especially my adult life and it is a combination of general anxiety, social anxiety and especially anxiety in relationships.
I'm in a situation at the moment that I thought I'd never be in. I'm actually in a relationship with the girl of my dreams. I was up front with her before we entered the relationship about my struggles with anxiety and she was very understanding. We've become quite serious in a short period of time but it's such loving caring relationship that it just feels right. Initially as I got to know her, many of my anxieties disappeared (I struggle to eat around new people in certain situations, especially romantic interests). However just when I thought i was cured I came crashing back down to earth, my anxieties had returned. I think this coincided with me really falling for her.
Anyway, we're now about 4 months in and the support she give me in incredible, she is very understanding and I am very open and honest with her but I feel so insecure in myself. I have found it harder since being with her to go into certain social situations with friends and feel like I'm a massive burden to her with all these anxiety issues. I can get into quite a negative spiral when it hits me and it can be the smallest thing to set me off. I'm always very calm when I start to get anxious and can talkie through with her but keep having thoughts of 'why is she with me' and feel like there is a lot of pressure (from myself) to be 'normal' or she'll get bored and frustrated with me.
Anyway, I just wanted to know what other people had done to not let anxiety ruin their relationships and move past it? In the past my anxiety has got quite bad in relationships but feel that I've truly found someone so special I need to find a way to manage my negative thoughts and continue with a happy life together. I don't know whether I should be speaking to her about my problems or not but feel that being honest and open is always the right way to go about things.
Any thoughts would be brilliant. Thank you.
Alex