Everlong33
24-03-15, 08:41
Hi everyone,
I would like your opinions on this please or advice that any of you have if you have found yourself in a similar situation.
I've had GAD since I was a child, having seen my mum suffer with panic attacks when I was little.
I've had moments in my life where I have been able to control them and have led a fairly anxiety free life but then certain periods of change or stress bring them back again. I've had a really stressful 4-5 years and its all caught up with me. I am currently on the waiting list for CBT Therapy.
Anyway the situation is that my husband wants us to go on holiday with our 2 year old. It would be her first time on a plane and I haven't flown for over 10 years. He wanted to book Majorca in May just for a week. It sounded so lovely and I know the flight would be short, I so wanted to go but its the thought of flying and being so far away from home which I am struggling with at the mo. I just feel that I couldn't cope with it until I've had CBT Therapy and start to feel better again. I'm not good with enclosed spaces or being with lots of strangers.
The way I see it is I would rather let him down now before we book anything than to book it all, just for me to let him down at the airport. I understand that for the partner of someone who has an anxiety disorder it must be terribly frustrating and in turn stops them from doing certain things. I totally get that. But when I told him that I just couldn't do it right now and can we go somewhere else closer to home without flying, he made me feel worse by saying that he can't see me ever changing and that I will push my fears onto our little girl just like my mum did with me. I'm now feeling so down about it cause I feel like I've let both him and my little girl down.
I just want to know what your opinions are on this as should we force ourselves to do things we know will cause us anxiety just to please the ones we love or should the people who love us accept we are this way and hope that one day we can do these things. It's just that the whole idea for this holiday is to relax but I won't be able to do that because I'll be anxious the whole time about the flight and the distance from home. I wouldn't be relaxing so it wouldn't be a holiday for me. :weep:
Sorry for the long post. Thanks for reading. x
I would like your opinions on this please or advice that any of you have if you have found yourself in a similar situation.
I've had GAD since I was a child, having seen my mum suffer with panic attacks when I was little.
I've had moments in my life where I have been able to control them and have led a fairly anxiety free life but then certain periods of change or stress bring them back again. I've had a really stressful 4-5 years and its all caught up with me. I am currently on the waiting list for CBT Therapy.
Anyway the situation is that my husband wants us to go on holiday with our 2 year old. It would be her first time on a plane and I haven't flown for over 10 years. He wanted to book Majorca in May just for a week. It sounded so lovely and I know the flight would be short, I so wanted to go but its the thought of flying and being so far away from home which I am struggling with at the mo. I just feel that I couldn't cope with it until I've had CBT Therapy and start to feel better again. I'm not good with enclosed spaces or being with lots of strangers.
The way I see it is I would rather let him down now before we book anything than to book it all, just for me to let him down at the airport. I understand that for the partner of someone who has an anxiety disorder it must be terribly frustrating and in turn stops them from doing certain things. I totally get that. But when I told him that I just couldn't do it right now and can we go somewhere else closer to home without flying, he made me feel worse by saying that he can't see me ever changing and that I will push my fears onto our little girl just like my mum did with me. I'm now feeling so down about it cause I feel like I've let both him and my little girl down.
I just want to know what your opinions are on this as should we force ourselves to do things we know will cause us anxiety just to please the ones we love or should the people who love us accept we are this way and hope that one day we can do these things. It's just that the whole idea for this holiday is to relax but I won't be able to do that because I'll be anxious the whole time about the flight and the distance from home. I wouldn't be relaxing so it wouldn't be a holiday for me. :weep:
Sorry for the long post. Thanks for reading. x