Westridge16
04-05-15, 09:14
Hi everyone I I am new to this all and really want some support and help as I don't want this anxiety taking control of my life. I am 44years of age and married to my husband for 18years and we have two lovely kids like any other family we have had are ups and downs.
Before my husband met me he was in a relationship when he was 17 and they had a daughter things did not work out it was something that happened and the mother wanted to go out and enjoy herself while my hubby looked after child. The mother wanted to leave to go to England with their daughter and told my husband to live his life . His name is not on the birth certificate.
When we met my husband told me from the start that he had a daughter but never seen her.
We went on to get married but there was no contact at all until 9 weeks ago when the girls uncle got in touch saying she wanted to contact him . I know this might seem silly as I always knew this day would come but has totally knocked us for six. We had an awful weekend and my husband told the kids . The kids have been great it is has been me. I am finding it so hard to deal with , my husband has been so loving to me but yet I have not been able to cope with insecurity and nerves . I just want to learn how to deal with this . My husband has been so upfront and Horst and I love him so much . I feel I am being overtaken with this anxiety when we take the next step. Last night night he emailed her and it was very hard for him but yet I end up gurning and that sense of insecurity has taken over hence why I written this the morning. I can't concentrate on anything . I went to my doctors last Monday for help and he told me I was just being silly which. Yeah to some people I might be but to me I am not or I would not have went down. We have been trough so much to get her and I feel I want to be strong for the both of us but yet I Sn being a stupid person. Look forward to your replies nang thanks x
Before my husband met me he was in a relationship when he was 17 and they had a daughter things did not work out it was something that happened and the mother wanted to go out and enjoy herself while my hubby looked after child. The mother wanted to leave to go to England with their daughter and told my husband to live his life . His name is not on the birth certificate.
When we met my husband told me from the start that he had a daughter but never seen her.
We went on to get married but there was no contact at all until 9 weeks ago when the girls uncle got in touch saying she wanted to contact him . I know this might seem silly as I always knew this day would come but has totally knocked us for six. We had an awful weekend and my husband told the kids . The kids have been great it is has been me. I am finding it so hard to deal with , my husband has been so loving to me but yet I have not been able to cope with insecurity and nerves . I just want to learn how to deal with this . My husband has been so upfront and Horst and I love him so much . I feel I am being overtaken with this anxiety when we take the next step. Last night night he emailed her and it was very hard for him but yet I end up gurning and that sense of insecurity has taken over hence why I written this the morning. I can't concentrate on anything . I went to my doctors last Monday for help and he told me I was just being silly which. Yeah to some people I might be but to me I am not or I would not have went down. We have been trough so much to get her and I feel I want to be strong for the both of us but yet I Sn being a stupid person. Look forward to your replies nang thanks x