steph25
23-05-15, 07:53
Hi all, I'm not sure if this is the right place to post so I apologise before hand if it's wrong.
I suffer from anxiety and I suffer from health anxiety (got much better with that ) and a different anxiety about my boyfriend. I worry about him whenever he goes out drinking (my Mum was an alcoholic).
We've been together four and a half years, living together for three. We moved to London together three years ago for his job. The only people we really know here is his work colleagues (I know some of their girlfriends) but he's made these new friends (still work colleagues) over the past few months and they are all his staff (he's recently been promoted and brought them in) and they are all young and single (we're young but they have only just finished uni)
He used to go out once every two weeks with his mates and we used to do things together but now nothing, not even weekends (he spends it catching up on sleep). Instead of going out together, he's going out with this boys and getting blind drunk 2-3 times a week.
I'll give you an example about what happens, this happened on Friday:
He was meant to finish work at four and but at 5:30 I got a message saying he's going out for a pint with one of his staff members. I sent him a reply saying is it only a pint or is it going to be a late one. Fast forward to 2am and I've still not heard from him and he still didn't read the message but he had been on his phone multiple times (we message on Whatsapp which says when someone's last been online) but he's ignored me.
He got so drunk he missed work the next day because he got home at 3am and had to be up at 5am for work but was still throwing up. His staff members still made it into work and it's such a bad look.
This kind of stuff is happening 2-3 times a week (he doesn't normally miss work) and it's making me so ill because he never ever contacts me or doesn't charge his phone and it dies by 7pm and I just feel sick constantly.
I don't know if it is my anxiety. I had been doing CBT and doing much better. He knows I have anxiety and what it's about and all I ask is he charges his phone and lets me know what's going on but he never does and he says that it's me being out or order and it's my anxiety but I don't know what it is. I mean it was over 9 hours on Friday when he said just one drink.
I'm so sorry for the long story. I just don't know what to do anymore.
I suffer from anxiety and I suffer from health anxiety (got much better with that ) and a different anxiety about my boyfriend. I worry about him whenever he goes out drinking (my Mum was an alcoholic).
We've been together four and a half years, living together for three. We moved to London together three years ago for his job. The only people we really know here is his work colleagues (I know some of their girlfriends) but he's made these new friends (still work colleagues) over the past few months and they are all his staff (he's recently been promoted and brought them in) and they are all young and single (we're young but they have only just finished uni)
He used to go out once every two weeks with his mates and we used to do things together but now nothing, not even weekends (he spends it catching up on sleep). Instead of going out together, he's going out with this boys and getting blind drunk 2-3 times a week.
I'll give you an example about what happens, this happened on Friday:
He was meant to finish work at four and but at 5:30 I got a message saying he's going out for a pint with one of his staff members. I sent him a reply saying is it only a pint or is it going to be a late one. Fast forward to 2am and I've still not heard from him and he still didn't read the message but he had been on his phone multiple times (we message on Whatsapp which says when someone's last been online) but he's ignored me.
He got so drunk he missed work the next day because he got home at 3am and had to be up at 5am for work but was still throwing up. His staff members still made it into work and it's such a bad look.
This kind of stuff is happening 2-3 times a week (he doesn't normally miss work) and it's making me so ill because he never ever contacts me or doesn't charge his phone and it dies by 7pm and I just feel sick constantly.
I don't know if it is my anxiety. I had been doing CBT and doing much better. He knows I have anxiety and what it's about and all I ask is he charges his phone and lets me know what's going on but he never does and he says that it's me being out or order and it's my anxiety but I don't know what it is. I mean it was over 9 hours on Friday when he said just one drink.
I'm so sorry for the long story. I just don't know what to do anymore.