Munki
09-06-15, 16:21
It's this habit I have, this feeling of needing to connect with people all the time.
I've started making a lot more social plans for my hubby and I and he gets so annoyed, he just wants him and I to do lovely things together. The likes of Facebook makes me feel like I need a big social circle even though I don't love going out very often. it's fun now and again, but I'm finding I'm making too many arrangements and cancelling as I realise it's either too expensive or just something we don't want to do.
Then I have the guilt of cancelling...For example, my best friend (old best friend) lives a charmed life down South. She is extremely materialistic, doesn't believe in depression etc. Basically, the opposite of me in every way, more so since she gpt married. She's become very hardened. Anyway, she pushes for plans and, consequently, I've cancelled 5 times. I feel terrible about it though all of the reasons were actually 100% genuine (work, illness etc) and shes okay. But why do I make these plans when I clearly have nothing in common with her anymore..
Anyway, we're due to go to see friends an hour away this Sat and hubby is dreading it, mainly due to working stupid long hours. I'm going to cancel as we've done loads for these guys and never cancelled before.
I need to stop doing this, making arrangements. Why the hell do I do it?
It makes me so miserable but I don't want to end up friendless...
I've started making a lot more social plans for my hubby and I and he gets so annoyed, he just wants him and I to do lovely things together. The likes of Facebook makes me feel like I need a big social circle even though I don't love going out very often. it's fun now and again, but I'm finding I'm making too many arrangements and cancelling as I realise it's either too expensive or just something we don't want to do.
Then I have the guilt of cancelling...For example, my best friend (old best friend) lives a charmed life down South. She is extremely materialistic, doesn't believe in depression etc. Basically, the opposite of me in every way, more so since she gpt married. She's become very hardened. Anyway, she pushes for plans and, consequently, I've cancelled 5 times. I feel terrible about it though all of the reasons were actually 100% genuine (work, illness etc) and shes okay. But why do I make these plans when I clearly have nothing in common with her anymore..
Anyway, we're due to go to see friends an hour away this Sat and hubby is dreading it, mainly due to working stupid long hours. I'm going to cancel as we've done loads for these guys and never cancelled before.
I need to stop doing this, making arrangements. Why the hell do I do it?
It makes me so miserable but I don't want to end up friendless...