Dkkvlt
10-08-15, 04:51
Hey there my first post and a rather long one,
I've been in a commited long term relationship for just over a year. When I met I knew she was the one for me and it was like I knew her long before we met. It was a pretty intense honeymoon period and we fell in love rather quickly. This is my first long term relationship by the way. Things were going great until around the 5 month mark when I came down with severe depression and anxiety. I have a history of depression and borderline personality disorder. I was taking lexapro for a year before I started dating and stopped thereafter when I thought I no longer needed it.
After I came down with depression I started being plagued by doubts and negative intrusive thoughts about the relationship. This is killing me because I was so in love and loved her before this happened and it was like a switch went off inside my head. It effected me a lot, the confusion and I couldn't concentrate on anything let alone being good for my partner who had been 100 percent commited and supportive. The doubts get so bad at times that there have been times where I have broken up with my partner because of it but then they switch around telling me I love her and in desperation I have begged her to take me back. I know I love her as I care about her and hate doing this to her, I'm attracted to her she's gorgeous to me, I get sick when I imagine her in bed with other guys and the thought of me breaking up with her gives me panic attacks and a horrible feeling in my stomache. we are best friends can have comfortable silences together , talk about anything and are both committed under the circumstances.
My partner thinks I'm just obsessed because the honeymoon period is over and I'm not sure what I should be feeling.
I began therapy earlier in the year and it has helped somewhat and changed over from lexapro which wasn't helping a lot to pristiq which had helped somewhat with the depression but not with the intrusive thoughts.
I've been in a commited long term relationship for just over a year. When I met I knew she was the one for me and it was like I knew her long before we met. It was a pretty intense honeymoon period and we fell in love rather quickly. This is my first long term relationship by the way. Things were going great until around the 5 month mark when I came down with severe depression and anxiety. I have a history of depression and borderline personality disorder. I was taking lexapro for a year before I started dating and stopped thereafter when I thought I no longer needed it.
After I came down with depression I started being plagued by doubts and negative intrusive thoughts about the relationship. This is killing me because I was so in love and loved her before this happened and it was like a switch went off inside my head. It effected me a lot, the confusion and I couldn't concentrate on anything let alone being good for my partner who had been 100 percent commited and supportive. The doubts get so bad at times that there have been times where I have broken up with my partner because of it but then they switch around telling me I love her and in desperation I have begged her to take me back. I know I love her as I care about her and hate doing this to her, I'm attracted to her she's gorgeous to me, I get sick when I imagine her in bed with other guys and the thought of me breaking up with her gives me panic attacks and a horrible feeling in my stomache. we are best friends can have comfortable silences together , talk about anything and are both committed under the circumstances.
My partner thinks I'm just obsessed because the honeymoon period is over and I'm not sure what I should be feeling.
I began therapy earlier in the year and it has helped somewhat and changed over from lexapro which wasn't helping a lot to pristiq which had helped somewhat with the depression but not with the intrusive thoughts.