Stuckman
11-08-15, 18:01
I just wanted to post this in hope others could relate to this ongoing Catch 22 I'm experiencing, and give me their opinion on what's best. I'll try to keep it short as I can.
I'm 19, a student about to enter my second year at university, and I have support in place for me to get taxis to there (my campus isn't far from my hometown) and I still live with my family.
The reason why I'm not living away studying there is simply because of my mental health, and fear of crime in the city. I have mild autism, anxiety and OCD and lead a very obsessive lifestyle, and as much as I'm comfortable with travelling there and back knowing I'll be home at the end of the day, I can't help feeling really self conscious about my choice to live at home instead of living away, and I feel very isolated and stuck not knowing what's best for me.
I tried living away during the first year in the city centre which was scary enough for me as I've lived in a small town all my life. I moved in with students from the university I didn't know and this didn't go well at all and really made my anxiety very high as they were coming back in the early hours leaving the front door open, really loud at night and they were heavy drug users and I only lasted about a week. This really affected my studies.
If I did it again I would be more careful choosing the people I lived with but I don't know if I could cope with issues of my mental health and obsessions and looking after myself (cooking, washing and diet) and what if it went badly again and lots of money wasted on rent?
People think I stay at home because I like living with my family but the catch is though I don't enjoy living at home anymore, and I just feel simply trapped.
It is a very stressful place now for too many reasons to list, and my anxieties and stresses increase with my family around, and I have little to no friends where I live. The only good reason me being at home is that I'm in my comfort zone (if you can call it comfort) and I can buy nice things related to my course, and isn't spent all on rent.
I keep feeling really bad how in university there's lots of potential people to meet, loads of societies to join and I'm choosing just to stay in a place I don't want to anymore. My parents keep saying if you don't like it here just move out but they don't understand and aren't really empathetic towards my mental health.
Part of me feels like I really want to be social and come out my shell, but I'm stuck in this comfort zone and worried about crime, the pressure of going out and everything else in university. I just want to meet more young people, but find it always goes wrong and I end up heading back home all the time, and feel like I'm stuck at home forever.
I just wanted to know whether having taxis to university was a mistake, that I should be out there meeting people and not being in this bubble I'm in. I hope someone can respond/relate and could help me.
Thanks :)
I'm 19, a student about to enter my second year at university, and I have support in place for me to get taxis to there (my campus isn't far from my hometown) and I still live with my family.
The reason why I'm not living away studying there is simply because of my mental health, and fear of crime in the city. I have mild autism, anxiety and OCD and lead a very obsessive lifestyle, and as much as I'm comfortable with travelling there and back knowing I'll be home at the end of the day, I can't help feeling really self conscious about my choice to live at home instead of living away, and I feel very isolated and stuck not knowing what's best for me.
I tried living away during the first year in the city centre which was scary enough for me as I've lived in a small town all my life. I moved in with students from the university I didn't know and this didn't go well at all and really made my anxiety very high as they were coming back in the early hours leaving the front door open, really loud at night and they were heavy drug users and I only lasted about a week. This really affected my studies.
If I did it again I would be more careful choosing the people I lived with but I don't know if I could cope with issues of my mental health and obsessions and looking after myself (cooking, washing and diet) and what if it went badly again and lots of money wasted on rent?
People think I stay at home because I like living with my family but the catch is though I don't enjoy living at home anymore, and I just feel simply trapped.
It is a very stressful place now for too many reasons to list, and my anxieties and stresses increase with my family around, and I have little to no friends where I live. The only good reason me being at home is that I'm in my comfort zone (if you can call it comfort) and I can buy nice things related to my course, and isn't spent all on rent.
I keep feeling really bad how in university there's lots of potential people to meet, loads of societies to join and I'm choosing just to stay in a place I don't want to anymore. My parents keep saying if you don't like it here just move out but they don't understand and aren't really empathetic towards my mental health.
Part of me feels like I really want to be social and come out my shell, but I'm stuck in this comfort zone and worried about crime, the pressure of going out and everything else in university. I just want to meet more young people, but find it always goes wrong and I end up heading back home all the time, and feel like I'm stuck at home forever.
I just wanted to know whether having taxis to university was a mistake, that I should be out there meeting people and not being in this bubble I'm in. I hope someone can respond/relate and could help me.
Thanks :)