W.I.F.T.S.
08-02-07, 16:16
I can't remember which book I read it in, but it talked about building confidence by 'mastering' skills. It's very true actually. I've spent most of my 31 years not really doing very much because I didn't have the faith in myself that I could be as good as I had the potential to be, so, rather than fail, I did nothing and sat at home watching tv. It's only since I've started trying to think of my development in terms of progress rather than perfection that I've got into doing more things. I'm currently learning how to record music on an evening course, teaching myself Photoshop for image manipulation, practicing music with friends and working on my qualifications as a football coach.
Many people say that the secret to overcoming a nervous breakdown is learning how to say 'no', to not take on too much, but I think it's the complete opposite: I think the secret is learning to say 'yes'. I've spent years declining to do things because I've been scared and living in a very small comfort zone. Now, whenever an opportunity arises, I try to tell myself to say 'yes' before I have chance to worry about it. Who are your heroes? I admire Richard Branson, he seems very happy and I'm sure that he's a 'yes' person rather than a 'no' person. Seriously, the more that you do (within limits), the more confident you become.
A slightly different point, but I thought I'd fit it in here rather than creating another topic. I'm trying to get my head around Claire Weekes concept of 'floating'. I guess that most normal people do it everyday. I think that one of my problems is that I've been very anchored, mired and dragged down by anxiety and depression. I've had a long period of severe depersonalisation and I've kept telling myself that the world around me is all real....spinning on from that, I've started thinking about the world a lot more than most normal people do and I've found myself feeling panicky because of the 'reality' that there is thousands of feet of earth beneath my feet and all around me; I've found it so confusing that we're actually on our sides on the world and I have the irrational fear of falling down the world; it makes me feel anxious that the earth might drop out of it's orbit into nothingness; I worry about space, what's out there and the magnitude of the other planets......I suppose it's very much like when you've got a hard maths problem, the headache that you get from thinking about it for too long.
I do find it very hard to accept life: I'm always questioning the human body, time, reality....classic existential angst. Sometimes I get a glimmer of feeling more normal, of relaxing and accepting. At one point I couldn't see life in the same way that everyone else does...I just kept picturing looking down on myself on the earth and it made me want to throw up.
I'm now learning a bit more how to be in the here and now...I'm learning to accept that the earth has been here for 30 million years or whatever without too much going wrong to it.....I'm learning to accept that the average life expectancy is around 70 and that I'd be pretty unlucky to die before then: it would be most unlikely that I'll have a heart attack at 31 (although I'd hate to tempt fate!!)....I'm learning that nearly everyone experiences depressing thoughts, it's just that most people can rationslise them better than I can right now.
Life is pretty tough. It can seem like a game that you're thrown into and , when you're depressed, one that you don't want to play.
I believe that the principle of NLP is that if one person is capable of doing something then, since we're all basically the same, with the right conditioning, we're all capable of doing it. There's no physical or predetermined reason why I should be anxious or depressed, nothing really bad has happened to me. If other people are capable of being happy, then I'm capable of being happy....I'm determined to do it, I won't settle for just passing time.
By the way, I read something today about Dorothy Rowe, who claims that we decide in childhood to imprison ourselves in depression
Many people say that the secret to overcoming a nervous breakdown is learning how to say 'no', to not take on too much, but I think it's the complete opposite: I think the secret is learning to say 'yes'. I've spent years declining to do things because I've been scared and living in a very small comfort zone. Now, whenever an opportunity arises, I try to tell myself to say 'yes' before I have chance to worry about it. Who are your heroes? I admire Richard Branson, he seems very happy and I'm sure that he's a 'yes' person rather than a 'no' person. Seriously, the more that you do (within limits), the more confident you become.
A slightly different point, but I thought I'd fit it in here rather than creating another topic. I'm trying to get my head around Claire Weekes concept of 'floating'. I guess that most normal people do it everyday. I think that one of my problems is that I've been very anchored, mired and dragged down by anxiety and depression. I've had a long period of severe depersonalisation and I've kept telling myself that the world around me is all real....spinning on from that, I've started thinking about the world a lot more than most normal people do and I've found myself feeling panicky because of the 'reality' that there is thousands of feet of earth beneath my feet and all around me; I've found it so confusing that we're actually on our sides on the world and I have the irrational fear of falling down the world; it makes me feel anxious that the earth might drop out of it's orbit into nothingness; I worry about space, what's out there and the magnitude of the other planets......I suppose it's very much like when you've got a hard maths problem, the headache that you get from thinking about it for too long.
I do find it very hard to accept life: I'm always questioning the human body, time, reality....classic existential angst. Sometimes I get a glimmer of feeling more normal, of relaxing and accepting. At one point I couldn't see life in the same way that everyone else does...I just kept picturing looking down on myself on the earth and it made me want to throw up.
I'm now learning a bit more how to be in the here and now...I'm learning to accept that the earth has been here for 30 million years or whatever without too much going wrong to it.....I'm learning to accept that the average life expectancy is around 70 and that I'd be pretty unlucky to die before then: it would be most unlikely that I'll have a heart attack at 31 (although I'd hate to tempt fate!!)....I'm learning that nearly everyone experiences depressing thoughts, it's just that most people can rationslise them better than I can right now.
Life is pretty tough. It can seem like a game that you're thrown into and , when you're depressed, one that you don't want to play.
I believe that the principle of NLP is that if one person is capable of doing something then, since we're all basically the same, with the right conditioning, we're all capable of doing it. There's no physical or predetermined reason why I should be anxious or depressed, nothing really bad has happened to me. If other people are capable of being happy, then I'm capable of being happy....I'm determined to do it, I won't settle for just passing time.
By the way, I read something today about Dorothy Rowe, who claims that we decide in childhood to imprison ourselves in depression