frosty2901
06-09-15, 01:02
My anxiety and panic attacks started in 2012 after I was made redundant from work and had a few issues with the council about asbestos in my flat and had to move in with my parents whilst the council ripped all the celling's down and put new ones up.
I was out of work for a year and started my cbt just before getting a temporary summer job back where I was made redundant from.
My cbt therapist was amazing and she helped me totally change my life again and since august 2013 I have been fighting the daily niggles and pains of Mr anxiety and Mr panic with the cbt methods I learnt in the 6 months I see her. So much so that in the august of 2013 I stood up in front of just over 100 people and read out a poem at my brothers wedding.
Now work has been ticking along ok and at the end of 2013 we got the manager back who I have worked with before and like working with.
Until say the last 6 months when the manager has become more and more nasty he has sworn at me at lest 3 times when I have been trying to tell him why I have or haven't done the thing he is asking me about !!!(I was a supervisor). This has made me have a few bad days with the panic attacks but I can just about manage and feel I would be able to continue working there even though I should never have to work under those conditions no one should.
fast forward to the beginning of august now the manager is what's classed as a satellite manager he runs 2 stores and 2 concessions so in each store there is a sales manager. the one for my store was on holiday and in fact she has left now as well.
That just left me and one other supervisor who is actually contracted for more hours than I was.
She was sick at the time.
On the Friday it was my day off and they tried calling me the supervisor and the manger. The manager was also on a day off. I didn't answer because I gathered they wanted me to work as they messaged me as well saying she was sick and could I phone them. they phoned me about 8 times all before 9 o'clock in the morning then nothing more.
I text them both later in the day to ask if all was ok and didn't get a reply at all so as far as I am aware all was sorted.
So on the Saturday I go into work at 8:45 for my 3 hour shift as I was driving in the supervisor rung me but of course I didn't answer as I was driving I walked through the door and the manager was ringing the work phone.
He then starts having a go at me for not answering the phone and the fact that he hasn't got my home number as he hasn't took it out of the book because I told him my phone was on silent so didn't see it till later he's shouting and moaning well its down to you to cover and sort the store as your next in line if the others arnt there well what about him then ?
he then informs me that no one is coming in till 1 o'clock to cover and I will have to stay till then !!!! and its my own fault for not answering in the morning.
Ok there's nothing I can do as I cant leave the shop without a member of management there and the sales manager was coming over from the other store when someone else got there to cover him. he then phoned me and confirmed he'd be there between 1 and 1:15. time then ticks away and before I know it its 2 and I am like what's going on the phone rings and a member of staff answers it and I hear her saying well she's right next to me do you want to speak to her and he must of said no as she then hung up and said he had to go home and get his phone and he will be an hour :ohmy:
anyway 3 o'clock comes and I am on the phone to the manager who is on a day off again and he says ok just get your stuff and go I will sort him out.
I went up and started to get my stuff and this guy comes in and is like you alright so I say no im not so he tries to put his arm round me and im like get off don't touch me (a few of the young girls had been saying to me they don't like him he makes sexual comments t them ).
he then goes oh what wrong with you just because you've got the hump with the manager don't take it out on me so I said no hang on I have got the hump with him but you are rde and you didn't have the decency to phone and speak to me and left me know you would be even later than you was going to be you could have phoned me he then blamed it on the person who was going to cover him and that.
omg well then he blows up shouting so loud people could hear him down stairs out side on the shop floor and he's right in my face and like oh you better just get your stuff and go so I said what are you threatening me and he said well if you don't get your stuff then you will see what I will do.not just once 3 or 4 times he says that.
so that day I went home and told my husband I will be handing my notice in on the Monday and that is it because I will never be in the same building as him again. and he agreed with me.
I have since spoke to the human resources department and the manager as I want him dealt with but I don't think hardly any thing has been done.
but that leaves me with the here and now I am getting a bit frightened that as I am not working and will be looking for a new job am I going to get back in the rut of anxiety and panic.
have I made the right decision should I have stayed there and have to feel physically sick every time I see him as he is there at least 2 days a week now as the sales manager has left.
thanks for reading so sorry its so long but I need to get it off my chest to the only people I know will understand x
I was out of work for a year and started my cbt just before getting a temporary summer job back where I was made redundant from.
My cbt therapist was amazing and she helped me totally change my life again and since august 2013 I have been fighting the daily niggles and pains of Mr anxiety and Mr panic with the cbt methods I learnt in the 6 months I see her. So much so that in the august of 2013 I stood up in front of just over 100 people and read out a poem at my brothers wedding.
Now work has been ticking along ok and at the end of 2013 we got the manager back who I have worked with before and like working with.
Until say the last 6 months when the manager has become more and more nasty he has sworn at me at lest 3 times when I have been trying to tell him why I have or haven't done the thing he is asking me about !!!(I was a supervisor). This has made me have a few bad days with the panic attacks but I can just about manage and feel I would be able to continue working there even though I should never have to work under those conditions no one should.
fast forward to the beginning of august now the manager is what's classed as a satellite manager he runs 2 stores and 2 concessions so in each store there is a sales manager. the one for my store was on holiday and in fact she has left now as well.
That just left me and one other supervisor who is actually contracted for more hours than I was.
She was sick at the time.
On the Friday it was my day off and they tried calling me the supervisor and the manger. The manager was also on a day off. I didn't answer because I gathered they wanted me to work as they messaged me as well saying she was sick and could I phone them. they phoned me about 8 times all before 9 o'clock in the morning then nothing more.
I text them both later in the day to ask if all was ok and didn't get a reply at all so as far as I am aware all was sorted.
So on the Saturday I go into work at 8:45 for my 3 hour shift as I was driving in the supervisor rung me but of course I didn't answer as I was driving I walked through the door and the manager was ringing the work phone.
He then starts having a go at me for not answering the phone and the fact that he hasn't got my home number as he hasn't took it out of the book because I told him my phone was on silent so didn't see it till later he's shouting and moaning well its down to you to cover and sort the store as your next in line if the others arnt there well what about him then ?
he then informs me that no one is coming in till 1 o'clock to cover and I will have to stay till then !!!! and its my own fault for not answering in the morning.
Ok there's nothing I can do as I cant leave the shop without a member of management there and the sales manager was coming over from the other store when someone else got there to cover him. he then phoned me and confirmed he'd be there between 1 and 1:15. time then ticks away and before I know it its 2 and I am like what's going on the phone rings and a member of staff answers it and I hear her saying well she's right next to me do you want to speak to her and he must of said no as she then hung up and said he had to go home and get his phone and he will be an hour :ohmy:
anyway 3 o'clock comes and I am on the phone to the manager who is on a day off again and he says ok just get your stuff and go I will sort him out.
I went up and started to get my stuff and this guy comes in and is like you alright so I say no im not so he tries to put his arm round me and im like get off don't touch me (a few of the young girls had been saying to me they don't like him he makes sexual comments t them ).
he then goes oh what wrong with you just because you've got the hump with the manager don't take it out on me so I said no hang on I have got the hump with him but you are rde and you didn't have the decency to phone and speak to me and left me know you would be even later than you was going to be you could have phoned me he then blamed it on the person who was going to cover him and that.
omg well then he blows up shouting so loud people could hear him down stairs out side on the shop floor and he's right in my face and like oh you better just get your stuff and go so I said what are you threatening me and he said well if you don't get your stuff then you will see what I will do.not just once 3 or 4 times he says that.
so that day I went home and told my husband I will be handing my notice in on the Monday and that is it because I will never be in the same building as him again. and he agreed with me.
I have since spoke to the human resources department and the manager as I want him dealt with but I don't think hardly any thing has been done.
but that leaves me with the here and now I am getting a bit frightened that as I am not working and will be looking for a new job am I going to get back in the rut of anxiety and panic.
have I made the right decision should I have stayed there and have to feel physically sick every time I see him as he is there at least 2 days a week now as the sales manager has left.
thanks for reading so sorry its so long but I need to get it off my chest to the only people I know will understand x