Kiarra14
12-10-15, 18:14
Hello everyone,
So here it goes. I will say that it is nice to read these comments. It lets me know that I am not alone. My boyfriend has (I think it's called) general Anxiety. So he doesn't necessarily have panic attacks (very rare) but its just a feeling that he has all day everyday. I know what he needs from me but it kindof goes against how I cope with things. He needs me to just be by his side and try and act as normal as possible. But it's so hard when his actions still affect me. I know he isn't himself with his anxiety and I think the issue is that now I'm craving to have the "normal" relationship back. I hate having to constantly watch what I say or not be able to react to something a certain way because it increases his anxiety and then we just end up getting into a fight. I love him and I feel terrible for just wanting to run away. But it's how I feel and it's starting to affect my mental health everyday too. I'll be honest, I'm not as attracted to him when I see his insecurities. He always wants to cuddle or be "lovey" and he always wants to do mushy things to show his love. I may sound crazy but I don't love in those ways. While yes, those things are nice, I don't need to do that all the time to feel loved. I like knowing that we don't need to cuddle all of the time to know that I love him and feel loved in return. I know when I withdraw and push away that makes it worse, but when I try not to I feel like i'm screaming on the inside. He may feel better but I don't. Is there any way for both of us to feel good in getting what we both want? I need help. I don't want to give up on him.
So here it goes. I will say that it is nice to read these comments. It lets me know that I am not alone. My boyfriend has (I think it's called) general Anxiety. So he doesn't necessarily have panic attacks (very rare) but its just a feeling that he has all day everyday. I know what he needs from me but it kindof goes against how I cope with things. He needs me to just be by his side and try and act as normal as possible. But it's so hard when his actions still affect me. I know he isn't himself with his anxiety and I think the issue is that now I'm craving to have the "normal" relationship back. I hate having to constantly watch what I say or not be able to react to something a certain way because it increases his anxiety and then we just end up getting into a fight. I love him and I feel terrible for just wanting to run away. But it's how I feel and it's starting to affect my mental health everyday too. I'll be honest, I'm not as attracted to him when I see his insecurities. He always wants to cuddle or be "lovey" and he always wants to do mushy things to show his love. I may sound crazy but I don't love in those ways. While yes, those things are nice, I don't need to do that all the time to feel loved. I like knowing that we don't need to cuddle all of the time to know that I love him and feel loved in return. I know when I withdraw and push away that makes it worse, but when I try not to I feel like i'm screaming on the inside. He may feel better but I don't. Is there any way for both of us to feel good in getting what we both want? I need help. I don't want to give up on him.