OGNinjaDon
20-10-15, 15:30
Hi there, not sure where the best place to post this was but it is causing me a great deal of health anxiety and also depression because of it.
I'm not sure what the exact problem is, I am still trying to work that out, but here are the facts.
- I am 24
- Sexually active with a partner
- I have always had issues staying hard as long as I can remember
- I can achieve a 100% erection usually when alone or watching porn
- I can achieve a 100% erection for a short while with my partner but then it randomly goes soft
- Some days I can be fully turned on with nothing happening
- Achieving an erection in the morning and keeping one is almost impossible
- I believe i have performance anxiety as well
- I always worry about it happening which in turn causes it to happen
Due to the way my mind works I need information to be able to fix this, i've read a book which indicates pelvic floor muscle relaxation is key to being able to achieve erections. Where as i have also read other articles indicating the kegal exercises are ideal for this issue. What i can't work out is why that is the case, if you are supposed to relax the muscle completely (like you would when urinating) then why would you learn to strengthen it?
If anybody can share knowledge on this issue or can point me in the right direction i would be greatly appreciative. Even if you could just explain how you personally go about achieving an erection (what muscles you use or dont use etc.)
Any help would be amazing. Sorry for the embarrassing content and thank you.
---------- Post added at 15:30 ---------- Previous post was at 13:26 ----------
To give you an idea of how this affects me, I can be in a really happy mood and absolutely loving life with not a care in the world. This happens and I start to have suicidal thoughts. I never think like that normally but when this happens I physically don't want to live anymore because of it, which is not good for my overall progress in overcoming depression and anxiety.
I'm not sure what the exact problem is, I am still trying to work that out, but here are the facts.
- I am 24
- Sexually active with a partner
- I have always had issues staying hard as long as I can remember
- I can achieve a 100% erection usually when alone or watching porn
- I can achieve a 100% erection for a short while with my partner but then it randomly goes soft
- Some days I can be fully turned on with nothing happening
- Achieving an erection in the morning and keeping one is almost impossible
- I believe i have performance anxiety as well
- I always worry about it happening which in turn causes it to happen
Due to the way my mind works I need information to be able to fix this, i've read a book which indicates pelvic floor muscle relaxation is key to being able to achieve erections. Where as i have also read other articles indicating the kegal exercises are ideal for this issue. What i can't work out is why that is the case, if you are supposed to relax the muscle completely (like you would when urinating) then why would you learn to strengthen it?
If anybody can share knowledge on this issue or can point me in the right direction i would be greatly appreciative. Even if you could just explain how you personally go about achieving an erection (what muscles you use or dont use etc.)
Any help would be amazing. Sorry for the embarrassing content and thank you.
---------- Post added at 15:30 ---------- Previous post was at 13:26 ----------
To give you an idea of how this affects me, I can be in a really happy mood and absolutely loving life with not a care in the world. This happens and I start to have suicidal thoughts. I never think like that normally but when this happens I physically don't want to live anymore because of it, which is not good for my overall progress in overcoming depression and anxiety.