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Frankmakin
20-12-15, 23:40
Hello everyone
I am extremely anxious and cannot sleep due to issues with my mother.
I am a 27 year old guy and suffer from anxiety issues when I was told my mother had to go for a chest X-ray due to a cough that she's had for a long time I panicked and automatically thought lung cancer.
She has recently been diagnosed with diabetes also and has lost a bit of weight which is now steady this is how she discovered she was diabetic.
She does smoke and has for years so the lung cancer scare has always been there.
She gets blood taken every other week for her diabetes checks and also has bad asthma which she has had for a long long time.
The doctor sent her to the hospital for a chest X-ray after the asthma clinic said the cough wasn't suspicious.
She had the X-ray done and was told that she was to go back on the 29th of December for the results but that was more than three weeks after the X-ray was taken?
It has now been two weeks and I have barely slept and cannot eat or enjoy myself. If the doctor found something suspicious would they contact my mother straight away or wait until she went back three weeks later?
The doctor even said enjoy Christmas and I can't even think about it I thought it was rather cheeky saying something like that in the same sentence as saying come back in three weeks?
As far as I'm aware she has had this cough for years and has had it checked out and it was just her asthma. It is only at evenings and early morning no blood in flem when there is some it's usually dry.
Am I worrying over nothing? Would the doctor call if something was found?
Thank you in advance for your help

lior
20-12-15, 23:50
My colleague recently has been tested for cancer. She's become deaf in one in during the last two months. Her attitude is inspiring: she refuses to worry about it, because there is nothing that she can do. Worrying is not a proactive, useful emotion in this case.

What you are doing here is worrying more than other people would worry. Your anxiety is getting the better of you. Other people might worry a bit about this, but you sound like you're worrying sick.

You cannot make this situation better. You just have to wait til the doctor calls. It's no use wondering if they're going to call early. Every place has a different protocol based on how much money they have. Your mother will be looked after as best as she can be. If she needs treatment, she will get access to treatment.

You will be able to enjoy Christmas. You can give yourself a break. Put all thoughts on hold. There's nothing to be done about them - you can relinquish the responsibility for your mother's health - the doctor is looking after her.

Sending you love and comfort. I know how it feels to be this anxious. Be nice to yourself. Comfort yourself and make yourself feel good, and you will probably find that your anxiety does get a bit less intense.