MissBee
28-12-15, 16:17
Hi guys,
Just looking for some advice or a general chat with people who have been in a similar position to me as I am really struggling at the moment.
I have always been a natural worrier but over the past few years this has stepped up a notch and gradually developed into full blown anxiety. I have read some of the stories on here and I feel lucky compared to some as I am still able to work and live a relatively normal life. However the anxiety is getting progressively worse and is sapping all enjoyment out of things for me.
My main symptom is that when I start feeling anxious I need to empty my bowels urgently. It's sudden, urgent and very embarrassing. I understand that it related to fight or flight and the stress hormone basically speeding up bowel movement. This symptom in itself began to cause me anxiety and over the past few years I have stopped going to certain places where toielts aren't immediately accessible. I avoid travel where possible. I get extremely nervous about meetings, weddings, school plays - basically anything where I am 'confined' and not able to immediately leave and find a toilet.
I have also begun to experience nausea and chest pain which does nothing for my health anxiety either.
I have a three year old son and I try to force myself out of my comfort zone for his sake. We go for days out and things but I'm always on edge. I only relax once I've found a toilet and I'm only truly at ease in my own home. All of my ambitions such as finding a new job have fallen at the wayside due to my anxiety and lack of confidence. I don't even feel able to visit friends who recently moved to London due to the travelling and the possibility of needing a toilet and not knowing where one is.
All of this is in my head and I need to find a way to change my thought processes. I did try CBT but it didn't help me. Maybe I just didn't click with the counsellor but a lot of the exercises he taught me seemed pointless and not relevant to my issues. I haven't tried medication yet as I have heard bad things about it and I can sometimes go through periods of relative calm. But the anxiety is becoming more and more prevalent in my life and I need to try and fix it. I am going to start going to the gym regularly as I hear exercise can be good. Also going to eat better once Christmas and new year are out of the way.
I just wondered if anyone had any other advice or experience they could share. I know anxiety is more common than we think but I honestly feel like I'm the only one suffering sometimes. I drop my son off at school and think 'none of the other mothers feel like this, why do I?'
I'd love to chat to others in the same boat so please let me know how you manage your anxiety and how it interferes with your daily life xx
Just looking for some advice or a general chat with people who have been in a similar position to me as I am really struggling at the moment.
I have always been a natural worrier but over the past few years this has stepped up a notch and gradually developed into full blown anxiety. I have read some of the stories on here and I feel lucky compared to some as I am still able to work and live a relatively normal life. However the anxiety is getting progressively worse and is sapping all enjoyment out of things for me.
My main symptom is that when I start feeling anxious I need to empty my bowels urgently. It's sudden, urgent and very embarrassing. I understand that it related to fight or flight and the stress hormone basically speeding up bowel movement. This symptom in itself began to cause me anxiety and over the past few years I have stopped going to certain places where toielts aren't immediately accessible. I avoid travel where possible. I get extremely nervous about meetings, weddings, school plays - basically anything where I am 'confined' and not able to immediately leave and find a toilet.
I have also begun to experience nausea and chest pain which does nothing for my health anxiety either.
I have a three year old son and I try to force myself out of my comfort zone for his sake. We go for days out and things but I'm always on edge. I only relax once I've found a toilet and I'm only truly at ease in my own home. All of my ambitions such as finding a new job have fallen at the wayside due to my anxiety and lack of confidence. I don't even feel able to visit friends who recently moved to London due to the travelling and the possibility of needing a toilet and not knowing where one is.
All of this is in my head and I need to find a way to change my thought processes. I did try CBT but it didn't help me. Maybe I just didn't click with the counsellor but a lot of the exercises he taught me seemed pointless and not relevant to my issues. I haven't tried medication yet as I have heard bad things about it and I can sometimes go through periods of relative calm. But the anxiety is becoming more and more prevalent in my life and I need to try and fix it. I am going to start going to the gym regularly as I hear exercise can be good. Also going to eat better once Christmas and new year are out of the way.
I just wondered if anyone had any other advice or experience they could share. I know anxiety is more common than we think but I honestly feel like I'm the only one suffering sometimes. I drop my son off at school and think 'none of the other mothers feel like this, why do I?'
I'd love to chat to others in the same boat so please let me know how you manage your anxiety and how it interferes with your daily life xx