Anxious about telling my mum what I want to buy

[Peterthegreatworrier]

Hi everyone.
I still have $100 left to spend from my birthday, and I really want a Ren and Stimpy DVD that I saw in the shopping center a few days ago. However, my mum wants to know what I want to get, and I feel very apprehensive about telling her. I don't know if she likes the show, doesn't care or hates it. I'm Really worried that she'll express distaste and that I'll get extremely embarrassed. I'm sure she would allow me to get it if it's what I want, but I am still very anxious about telling her.
Any suggestions or reassurances are welcome.
Regards, Peterthegreatworrier

[Pepperpot]

Well, you're a grown man so you buy what you want to buy. Just tell her you've saw a few dvds you like, so may buy one of them. You're not lying, you're just being vague:)

[Fishmanpa]

Hmmm... if it were some porn video, I might be apprehensive about telling Mom but it's an adult animated show. It's not like you're having them tattooed on you ;) Ren and Stimpy is a rather funny program albeit twisted ~lol~

Positive thoughts

[MyNameIsTerry]

Yeah, like Pepperpot says just be vague and she may not care to ask any further. Problem solved.

It's a cartoon, it's funny. It's probably not going to be to her taste but many things won't be due to the generation gap anyway but the point is parents just have to accept that their kids like things they may not. It's nothing bad, it's not a snuff vid or something condoning something with a serious lack of morals behind it so from a parents point of view it's just perhaps something they will see as a bit of trash but then they did exactly the same at your age and worried just like you do. The circle of life!

[Peterthegreatworrier]

Thanks all of you for your kind words!
I told her a and she was completely ok with it, and even told me not to worry about what she might think of anything I want! :welcome:
Regards, Peterthegreatworrier

[MyNameIsTerry]

Does that teach you something, Peter?

Due to the complexity of things in your family that you have described, could it be that you have perception issues? So, you jump to conclusions, mind read, catastrophize, etc? I would suggest you spend some time learning (and using) Cognitive Distortions which explain these negative thinking styles. The Wiki page is accurate.

[Peterthegreatworrier]

Haha, that was a really good article Terry. Thanks!
PS. Yesterday I discovered that my Dad very much dislikes the show and seems amazed that I would want to buy it, but that cognitive distortion article definitely prevented me from getting all worked up about what he was going to think before he actually said anything (in my mind I just retort with YOU EEDIOT!) there, problem solved :yesyes:
Best regards and thanks again, Peterthegreatworrier

[MyNameIsTerry]

I'm glad it helped, Peter.

These are taught as part of the Cognitive Restructuring module component of CBT and they are very useful. I learnt to use them to spot them by practicing on here as it helped me to more easily do it on myself.

I originally came across it as the charity walk-in groups I spent a year going to. It was a free walk in for anyone but they would always try to work through a module with the group and all were CBT based. This was one of the modules and it made a lot of sense to me.

So, in the future, use it and see if it keeps helping. The more you do these things, the more they become second nature and to be honest I'm surprised you engaged with them so quickly so that's a good indicator that these methods suit you. Well done!