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nmpadmin
26-03-16, 22:07
As admins we feel that a few things needed to be reiterated after occurrences on the forum over the last couple of months.

No More Panic is an inclusive forum, our youngest members can be from the age of 13. We are a large community and every one of our members are different, they have different opinions and different disorders BUT one thing which unites us is mental illness and all the problems that that entails

We have evolved over the years, from a small forum with a few members covering panic and anxiety to one that now covers many types of mental health…. Phobias, Health anxiety, ocd amongst others.

There are many different types of members in different stages of the illness and recovery, and at different readiness to accept advice.

Some of us keep ourselves to ourselves and just read the forums and never post, some post occasionally when we feel our worse and others feel the need to post what seems constantly about very minor things.

The latter can cause conflicts when there is constant posting, this can just be the member’s way of trying to cope with their illness and it can be really frustrating for other members when they are trying to give advice and sometimes it appears that the OP isn’t listening to what they have to say.

We would therefore appreciate if the OP could acknowledge the advice given and even thank the members that have given the advice. It is then up to the OP if they take up the advice or not.

OP Have you taken up some of the advice given? did it work for you? I am sure a lot of the people who try to help would like to know how it went, and would go some way to our members feeling appreciated for helping you out and make them more likely to advise you in the future.

If you become frustrated with other members constant posting then the best way to deal with that is to ignore the threads, don’t give the advice if people do not seem to appreciate it, that way it doesn’t add to your frustration.

Public arguments on the forum are really not needed and just serve to cause tension amongst members and increase people’s anxiety which is of course the opposite of what NMP is here for. Verbal abuse of any member is very much frowned upon and you open yourself up to warnings and ultimately a ban from the forum.

If you have problems with what a member is saying on a thread then PM that member to ‘discuss’ it, do not initiate an argument on the thread, if you have a problem with what has been said on a thread then another option is to report the thread/reply using the report triangle at the top right of the thread/post

All of the arguments tend to distract from the original question asked and sometimes the OP never gets the answer/advice they are looking for, please try to keep threads on topic.

99.9% of us on NMP suffer or care for someone with mental health problems, so treat members, how you would like to be treated yourself with your illness

Above all please remember the aim of No More Panic, to give help and support to people who are sufferers of mental health problems.

Thanks for reading and we wish you well in your battle with Mental Illness, please help us keep NMP a happy and supportive place to be

NMP Admin team

BABY123
05-04-16, 15:37
id like to say thank you

sandie
05-04-16, 17:02
Thanks.

debs71
06-04-16, 20:19
Great post. Thank you. x:hugs:

graham58
07-04-16, 09:07
Good thread, and no doubt a timely one.

I have noticed one problem which may be worth mentioning though; some people seem to have a problem if I or perhaps others use dramatic or graphic means of describing our experiences of anxiety attacks, as if by doing so we're saying we're the only people who have had this experience (I actually had this said to me on one thread).

For me, part of trying to recover from what I've had to deal with seems to be to describe it as honestly as possible, and there is certainly no implication on my part that no one else has had the same experience.

There is, however, a world of difference between an anxiety attack where the anxiety level peaks rapidly and dies away equally rapidly, and an attack where it doesn't and one seems to be stuck in the very high anxiety state for what may be minutes (where a minute can seem a lot longer than that!), and I don't see how it serves anyone's interests to say or maintain that this doesn't happen. Not least because other people may have the same thing happen to them and want to know how to deal with it when it happens.

Fishmanpa
07-04-16, 22:21
If you become frustrated with other members constant posting then the best way to deal with that is to ignore the threads, don’t give the advice if people do not seem to appreciate it, that way it doesn’t add to your frustration.

There is also an "ignore" function that can be found on a members profile in the drop down menu under "user lists". This effectively hides posts from that specific member. While you can still read them if you're not logged in and can choose to read them while logged in, it's still an effective way to avoid frustrating posts or members.

Positive thoughts

MyNameIsTerry
23-06-17, 04:00
Personal abuse on this forum is sadly getting common.

Bigboyuk
23-06-17, 12:05
So True Terry and another way to combat it is if the OP isn't happy on a thread they have started they can moderate their thread and even delete the whole thread with out any intervention from the moderators so every one has control over their own threads so I find this very useful thank you :) Cheers

snowghost57
23-06-17, 12:57
I would like to thank everyone I have communicated with, on posts, in chat or pm. I have made some friends that have helped me on my journey of healing. This forum has led me to these people and I will be forever grateful.

Thank you,

Terri

Bigboyuk
23-06-17, 13:13
Another point I will add on another forum (totally different type of forum0 they did have a useful tool on every post directly below the username in the form of red triangle you simply click on it and it reports the content of the post and the poster and it save arguments and is down to the mods to decide the best course of action to take. Would a feature like that work on this forum? Just a thought. As said before if I was a newbie and thread of mine had argumentative comments in it may push me away from the forum all together, how ever I have got used to these arguments even on threads I have started and wont tolerate it and will delete any threads I have started, but not every one is the same. Cheers

MyNameIsTerry
23-06-17, 13:33
Another point I will add on another forum (totally different type of forum0 they did have a useful tool on every post directly below the username in the form of red triangle you simply click on it and it reports the content of the post and the poster and it save arguments and is down to the mods to decide the best course of action to take. Would a feature like that work on this forum? Just a thought. As said before if I was a newbie and thread of mine had argumentative comments in it may push me away from the forum all together, how ever I have got used to these arguments even on threads I have started and wont tolerate it and will delete any threads I have started, but not every one is the same. Cheers

Dave,

I think you are a total, utter & complete...nice bloke!!! :yesyes:

We've got a triangle too, it's at the top right of the post by the post number. That opens a new page with a free form text box to report your reasons with it.

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I would like to thank everyone I have communicated with, on posts, in chat or pm. I have made some friends that have helped me on my journey of healing. This forum has led me to these people and I will be forever grateful.

Thank you,

Terri

A great positive message and a good reminder the good always by far outweighs the bad. It's the people that have kept me here when things have got hard and I am to have met them. :flowers:

Bigboyuk
23-06-17, 13:46
Dave,

I think you are a total, utter & complete...nice bloke!!! :yesyes:

We've got a triangle too, it's at the top right of the post by the post number. That opens a new page with a free form text box to report your reasons with it.

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A great positive message and a good reminder the good always by far outweighs the bad. It's the people that have kept me here when things have got hard and I am to have met them. :flowers: Ahh thanks Terry that means a lot but I aint sending you any flowers ha ha and yes see the triangle now perhaps in the wrong place and bit small but it's there :) How I missed that I will never know. And yes the good over rules the bad it has to :yesyes: Yes its helped me too in my darkest days :) CHeers

Darwin73
24-06-17, 12:03
Yes, I have noticed a lot of aggression / abuse on here in recent years; both overt and passive-aggressive. The atmosphere does seem different to when I first joined 8 years ago. I still read, but don't post much as I just don't want to get caught up in arguments.

Catherine S
24-06-17, 12:59
I quite agree Darwin, ive been here some years now too, and before 2014 there wasn't much conflict on the forum. I took a break in 2014 along with some other members because it became too much.

There will always be some conflict with different personalities and different advice styles...what is seen as offensive to one, might just be seen as being honest by another. Take emojis for example, some members like to use borderline porno emojis because they think theyre funny, but others might be offended by them or think them inappropriate for a forum with minimum age 13...so you see, It depends how you look at it.

:)

MyNameIsTerry
24-06-17, 16:20
Some of the subject topics on here aren't even suitable for children, in my opinion. The sex ones are potentially too graphic and every parent will understandably have different opinions on that.

I think that's worse than a cartoon graphic, which I've been guilty of. And to point out, there is swearing emoji on the standard forum list. Actually there are several. "Finger", "WTF". I've removed them if a member raises a concern and I understand why, I tend to post comical ones most of the time.

Swearing at members too. That's not language I would use in front of a child. That needs to be kept in mind. We do get cheeky on the games threads but it's not used against other members. I'm not sure about Admin's opinion there but it's the intent I've looked at more but realise I'm guilty of it in the lighthearted threads.

I've found the abuse I've had has been off members with join dates that go back many years, not just more recent. I remember when I joined there were already arguments going on.

Amayatylor
13-08-17, 21:44
This is indeed a very good post. Learned a lot from it. Thank you very much and keep up your good work admins.

MyNameIsTerry
29-12-17, 04:51
Bump

For all the good it will do :wall: even at Christmas...

Elen
29-12-17, 05:12
And a reminder that if Admin think people are posting just to have a go at others, their posts will be deleted and they will be barred from that particular thread.

Blunt is acceptable under the correct circumstances, but ridiculing is not.

It affects more people than the OP and will not be tolerated.

Elen

Bigboyuk
29-12-17, 13:32
Yes this is all good, but what I want to ask is on certain posts (no names mentioned) and a poster keeps asking for reassurance should we all take notice of this harmful destructive cycle and not keep giving reassurance? I certainly think we should and I have made this very clear in my replies. As for arguments well think NMP had less of this many years ago based on lots of very old posts I have read. Lets all hope we can all be helpful and kind to every one in 2018 :) ATB

susie1
29-12-17, 21:53
Me too. thankyou for everyone's support

MyNameIsTerry
30-12-17, 03:43
And a reminder that if Admin think people are posting just to have a go at others, their posts will be deleted and they will be barred from that particular thread.

Blunt is acceptable under the correct circumstances, but ridiculing is not.

It affects more people than the OP and will not be tolerated.

Elen

Bump

MyNameIsTerry
02-01-18, 04:30
Bump.

Lola-Lee
02-01-18, 04:43
BUMP.

MyNameIsTerry
03-01-18, 01:24
Just a thank you from me to our Admin's for continuing to steer the forum and take notice of people's concerns. Thank you. :hugs:

MyNameIsTerry
05-01-18, 03:01
Bump

MyNameIsTerry
06-01-18, 03:00
Bump

Elen
06-01-18, 03:05
Shit started to post but stopped cause it would just cause ructions

there are times it would be nice to be a normal member and be able to speak your mind at times. lol

MyNameIsTerry
06-01-18, 03:24
Sometimes it's best not to. Differing opinions will just mean it becomes a discussion and emotive issues often spiral into unpleasantness.

As a member, I don't feel I can say what I truly think on these subjects as it's not going to go down well but those who disagree or dislike my opinions or how I come across are entitled to have their say too and it will just run on. Hence I bump this in the hope things just move on.

It reminds me of my management days. You appeal for everyone to get on but if they can't, you wheel out the disciplinary procedures because at the end of the day you have to get along. If you can't you keep it to yourself or find another job.

To be honest, this is a very lenient forum. There are advantages & disadvantages to that.

I hope that's a balanced comment, it's not meant to point to anyone.

Elen
06-01-18, 03:27
lol Terry you made me laugh anyway

MyNameIsTerry
06-01-18, 03:35
Laughing is essential therapy! :yesyes:

MyNameIsTerry
06-01-18, 16:30
Bump.

Even when Admin ask people to stay out of a thread so they can try to deal with it certain members still demand their say. :wall:

Phuzella
06-01-18, 16:34
I consider my wrists slapped :blush:

Elen
06-01-18, 16:36
I consider my wrists slapped :blush:

It happens to us all from time to time.

It is done and dusted and no harm done:yesyes:

Phuzella
06-01-18, 16:38
:)

MyNameIsTerry
06-01-18, 17:03
I consider my wrists slapped :blush:

Sorry Phuzella, I was thinking about those that have been told across multiple threads in the last week. Some people may not realise with not being on as regular.

Bigboyuk
06-01-18, 17:31
Yes me guilty too going to make a huge effort and leave certain threads alone talk about flogging a dead horse ahh ATB

venusbluejeans
06-01-18, 17:43
NPAA (not posting as admin)

This was posted over 9 months ago, I am glad that people are now getting the idea :)

MyNameIsTerry
06-01-18, 17:50
Yes me guilty too going to make a huge effort and leave certain threads alone talk about flogging a dead horse ahh ATB

Imagine how Admin feel. Some just won't leave alone and Admin have to babysit threads despite being sufferers themselves.

Please look after your own health, Venus. You don't need extras on top of your own struggles right now. :hugs:

Fishmanpa
06-01-18, 18:36
There is also an "ignore" function that can be found on a members profile in the drop down menu under "user lists". This effectively hides posts from that specific member. While you can still read them if you're not logged in and can choose to read them while logged in, it's still an effective way to avoid frustrating posts or members.

Positive thoughts

Bigboyuk
06-01-18, 19:00
I feel for you VBJ try and take a complete break from the forum for a few days :hugs:ATB

MyNameIsTerry
09-01-18, 17:11
Bump

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I feel for you VBJ try and take a complete break from the forum for a few days :hugs:ATB

^ This. I can see Venus on there a lot and I hope she is prioritising herself. There is a never ending stream of HAers through here.

Elen
09-01-18, 17:18
Bump

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^ This. I can see Venus on there a lot and I hope she is prioritising herself. There is a never ending stream of HAers through here.

No she isn't and is about to get a huge BOOOOOOOOOOOOOT from me.

Between here and chat she is doing far too much

Bigboyuk
09-01-18, 17:27
Yes I tend to agree with you Elen she does mean well but she needs time away for her own sake to recharge her batteries :D I got a feeling that booooooooooot is a big one, and will do the trick Ouch ;) ATB

MyNameIsTerry
09-01-18, 17:29
No she isn't and is about to get a huge BOOOOOOOOOOOOOT from me.

Between here and chat she is doing far too much

Good. I learnt a very hard lesson thinking I had to do everything, it's what caused my GAD in the first place.

My GF is still like this. When her employer is demanding everything yesterday I ask her whether the consequence of not working yourself into the ground is a senior manager with a grump on for not getting their way. I also point out the sector she works in isn't stopping global terrorism or saving lives in a hospital.

It's part of our personality but balance is important. Heaping more stress on yourself when the reality is there are others to take the strain is something to learn to recognise.

I'm glad to hear she has friends watching out for her.

MyNameIsTerry
10-01-18, 05:52
Bump!!!

Shall we think about the mental health of the Admins? Why make things harder for them?

MyNameIsTerry
11-01-18, 17:19
As admins we feel that a few things needed to be reiterated after occurrences on the forum over the last couple of months.

No More Panic is an inclusive forum, our youngest members can be from the age of 13. We are a large community and every one of our members are different, they have different opinions and different disorders BUT one thing which unites us is mental illness and all the problems that that entails

We have evolved over the years, from a small forum with a few members covering panic and anxiety to one that now covers many types of mental health…. Phobias, Health anxiety, ocd amongst others.

There are many different types of members in different stages of the illness and recovery, and at different readiness to accept advice.

Some of us keep ourselves to ourselves and just read the forums and never post, some post occasionally when we feel our worse and others feel the need to post what seems constantly about very minor things.

The latter can cause conflicts when there is constant posting, this can just be the member’s way of trying to cope with their illness and it can be really frustrating for other members when they are trying to give advice and sometimes it appears that the OP isn’t listening to what they have to say.

We would therefore appreciate if the OP could acknowledge the advice given and even thank the members that have given the advice. It is then up to the OP if they take up the advice or not.

OP Have you taken up some of the advice given? did it work for you? I am sure a lot of the people who try to help would like to know how it went, and would go some way to our members feeling appreciated for helping you out and make them more likely to advise you in the future.

If you become frustrated with other members constant posting then the best way to deal with that is to ignore the threads, don’t give the advice if people do not seem to appreciate it, that way it doesn’t add to your frustration.

Public arguments on the forum are really not needed and just serve to cause tension amongst members and increase people’s anxiety which is of course the opposite of what NMP is here for. Verbal abuse of any member is very much frowned upon and you open yourself up to warnings and ultimately a ban from the forum.

If you have problems with what a member is saying on a thread then PM that member to ‘discuss’ it, do not initiate an argument on the thread, if you have a problem with what has been said on a thread then another option is to report the thread/reply using the report triangle at the top right of the thread/post

All of the arguments tend to distract from the original question asked and sometimes the OP never gets the answer/advice they are looking for, please try to keep threads on topic.

99.9% of us on NMP suffer or care for someone with mental health problems, so treat members, how you would like to be treated yourself with your illness

Above all please remember the aim of No More Panic, to give help and support to people who are sufferers of mental health problems.

Thanks for reading and we wish you well in your battle with Mental Illness, please help us keep NMP a happy and supportive place to be

NMP Admin team

Bump

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And a reminder that if Admin think people are posting just to have a go at others, their posts will be deleted and they will be barred from that particular thread.

Blunt is acceptable under the correct circumstances, but ridiculing is not.

It affects more people than the OP and will not be tolerated.

Elen

Bump

venusbluejeans
12-01-18, 12:26
Just catching up on here....

I am trying to step back I promise but it is difficult especially when people continue posting on threads even when they say they have had enough..... stop posting folks, do what you say you are going to do and stop keeping threads going and then complaining to the admins that we/ they are doing noting.

Anyway going back to my corner now... :) :)

swgrl09
12-01-18, 13:27
Just catching up on here....

I am trying to step back I promise but it is difficult especially when people continue posting on threads even when they say they have had enough..... stop posting folks, do what you say you are going to do and stop keeping threads going and then complaining to the admins that we/ they are doing noting.

Anyway going back to my corner now... :) :)

I think it would be lovely to see all of that energy poured into posts that don't get any or very few responses ... I know I haven't been on much, as I started a new job and am feeling so huge with pregnancy, but enough to get the gist of things.

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Also Venus, please take care of yourself. I got so burnt out putting others before my mental health earlier this year. No shame in taking an NMP vacation.

Bigboyuk
12-01-18, 14:41
I think it would be lovely to see all of that energy poured into posts that don't get any or very few responses ... I know I haven't been on much, as I started a new job and am feeling so huge with pregnancy, but enough to get the gist of things.

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Also Venus, please take care of yourself. I got so burnt out putting others before my mental health earlier this year. No shame in taking an NMP vacation. Yes you are right swgrl09 I have started to reply to single posts a lot more think it's good to try and help others how ever you are feeling :) And understand NMP is part of Venus's life but for now leave the site for a few days and take a break. Think many of us could do with a NMP vacation I know I would love that perhaps have sub forum for that I would be the first to sign up :shades: ATB

venusbluejeans
12-01-18, 14:58
Yes you are right swgrl09 I have started to reply to single posts a lot more think it's good to try and help others how ever you are feeling :) And understand NMP is part of Venus's life but for now leave the site for a few days and take a break. Think many of us could do with a NMP vacation I know I would love that perhaps have sub forum for that I would be the first to sign up :shades: ATB


I will still be responding to my post and in the chat room distracting (not helping) :noangel::noangel:

Bigboyuk
12-01-18, 15:04
I will still be responding to my post and in the chat room distracting (not helping) :noangel::noangel: Well there's no stopping you lol free you self from Admin duties for now and get better soon:hugs: ATB

MyNameIsTerry
13-01-18, 03:33
Bump.

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Just catching up on here....

I am trying to step back I promise but it is difficult especially when people continue posting on threads even when they say they have had enough..... stop posting folks, do what you say you are going to do and stop keeping threads going and then complaining to the admins that we/ they are doing noting.

Anyway going back to my corner now... :) :)

Bump to that! :yesyes:

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I think it would be lovely to see all of that energy poured into posts that don't get any or very few responses ... I know I haven't been on much, as I started a new job and am feeling so huge with pregnancy, but enough to get the gist of things.

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Also Venus, please take care of yourself. I got so burnt out putting others before my mental health earlier this year. No shame in taking an NMP vacation.

I agree with you. There are plenty of threads and as frustrated Admin's are trying to tell us, it's up to us to click off such threads and spread ourselves around more.

Bigboyuk
15-01-18, 23:02
Folks I often see new members join and only 1 welcome from Admin remember your first day on NMP did you get welcomed by other members? Think we all should make a effort even just to say hello to new members :) ATb

MyNameIsTerry
16-01-18, 17:00
Bump

venusbluejeans
16-01-18, 17:41
Folks I often see new members join and only 1 welcome from Admin remember your first day on NMP did you get welcomed by other members? Think we all should make a effort even just to say hello to new members :) ATb

And mine is an autopost one which automatically posts when someone posts in the Intros forum so they at least get one hello..... completely agree it would be nice to have some more people welcoming our new members, even if it is just a "Welcome To NMP"

Ps folks having a goodish day so allowing myself a couple of posts on here today...... thank you to everyone for their concern xxx

MyNameIsTerry
16-01-18, 17:47
And mine is an autopost one which automatically posts when someone posts in the Intros forum so they at least get one hello..... completely agree it would be nice to have some more people welcoming our new members, even if it is just a "Welcome To NMP"

And here was me thinking Alex had wired up your alarm clock to NMP so that every time someone posted, night & day, you awoke to post! :winks:

venusbluejeans
16-01-18, 18:05
oh yeah of course..... that is what happens ;)

MyNameIsTerry
17-01-18, 16:01
I've noticed some repetitive threads have started being moved away from the HA forum. But people are still following them over there and the frustration seems to continue. :shrug:

pulisa
17-01-18, 18:54
All we can hope for is that the HA board starts to change and becomes more helpful for those who truly want to manage their HA successfully and as best they can once they have been diagnosed with anxiety.

MyNameIsTerry
18-01-18, 04:03
All we can hope for is that the HA board starts to change and becomes more helpful for those who truly want to manage their HA successfully and as best they can once they have been diagnosed with anxiety.

I don't share in the positivity as someone who was negatively affected by the frustration over repetitive posters. You may not see it but it doesn't mean it's not happening and I don't believe it is fair to push it onto individuals because some members disagree with it in public.

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Bump.

pulisa
18-01-18, 09:25
Sorry, Terry-I don't understand what you are getting at here? All I was saying was I hope that the HA board can become more proactive in actually helping people manage their HA as opposed to being mainly concerned with symptoms.

swajj
22-01-18, 06:39
Just because threads get moved away from the HA board to a board more suitable to their content doesn’t mean that people should just abandon those threads. That’s sending the message that your thread is not important unless it’s on the HA board. Not everyone has shady motives for “following them”. The mods are doing the right thing by moving threads away from certain boards to other boards more suitable to their content. I’ve also seen them move threads from boards to the HA board.

MyNameIsTerry
22-01-18, 08:30
Sorry, Terry-I don't understand what you are getting at here? All I was saying was I hope that the HA board can become more proactive in actually helping people manage their HA as opposed to being mainly concerned with symptoms.

At the time there was an assumption that the board was quiet because an issue had gone away. The issue in question just shifted onto individuals and I don't think that's fair.

pulisa
22-01-18, 09:13
Sorry but I still don't understand. When is the HA board ever quiet? The admin team have taken control of a particular thread and in my opinion that needed doing. The individual is still receiving attention but it's targeted at the behaviour and restricts others being drawn into the thread. How is that unfair?

Elen
22-01-18, 09:15
Public arguments on the forum are really not needed and just serve to cause tension amongst members and increase people’s anxiety which is of course the opposite of what NMP is here for. Verbal abuse of any member is very much frowned upon and you open yourself up to warnings and ultimately a ban from the forum.

If you have problems with what a member is saying on a thread then PM that member to ‘discuss’ it, do not initiate an argument on the thread, if you have a problem with what has been said on a thread then another option is to report the thread/reply using the report triangle at the top right of the thread/post

99.9% of us on NMP suffer or care for someone with mental health problems, so treat members, how you would like to be treated yourself with your illness

Above all please remember the aim of No More Panic, to give help and support to people who are sufferers of mental health problems.



Despite what members may feel repetitive posters do not cause nearly as much of a strain on Admins as the arguing it seems to generate in people.

This forum was never set up to be HA site, it has just taken over the boards.

If moving boards helps to cut down on the re-assurance seeking behavior that has to be a good thing.

I understand what you are saying re helping people on the HA part of the forum. Sadly I feel that is something that we have not been so good at as a whole.

Yes we offer sound advice to try and break the cycle but I have seen people come back when they are struggling to keep the dragon at bay and they receive much fewer answers.

Sad to say it is the "help me I really am dying" posts that get the most attention.

Anyway just my thoughts, there are a lot of strong personalities on this forum and you all have something valuable to offer. Please do not allow petty differences and sniping detract from the great work that you all do on here.

Elen

For clarity I am not picking on any one person, nor am I posting on behalf of admin.

MyNameIsTerry
22-01-18, 09:37
No probs, Elen. I was just responding to explain the previous point. That's done now.

pulisa
22-01-18, 14:12
It's always been the case in life that those who shout loudest get the most response and it's the same on here. I suppose that's what causes the friction. It must be very hard to be a moderator on a forum such as this one.

MyNameIsTerry
26-01-18, 02:58
Bump

Bigboyuk
26-01-18, 11:51
I tend to agree on this Pulisa there's still a couple of those HA threads on the go no doubt with the same reassurance seeking going on We are told and rightly so to stop feeding the strays and do we I know I have stopped. Think more proactive advice should be given on the HA board and especially those 2 threads as I don't believe those members are going to get better. Sorry just needed to get this across folks :) ATB

MyNameIsTerry
28-01-18, 06:07
Bump.

Catherine S
28-01-18, 06:46
As admins we feel that a few things needed to be reiterated after occurrences on the forum over the last couple of months.

No More Panic is an inclusive forum, our youngest members can be from the age of 13. We are a large community and every one of our members are different, they have different opinions and different disorders BUT one thing which unites us is mental illness and all the problems that that entails

We have evolved over the years, from a small forum with a few members covering panic and anxiety to one that now covers many types of mental health…. Phobias, Health anxiety, ocd amongst others.

There are many different types of members in different stages of the illness and recovery, and at different readiness to accept advice.

Some of us keep ourselves to ourselves and just read the forums and never post, some post occasionally when we feel our worse and others feel the need to post what seems constantly about very minor things.

The latter can cause conflicts when there is constant posting, this can just be the member’s way of trying to cope with their illness and it can be really frustrating for other members when they are trying to give advice and sometimes it appears that the OP isn’t listening to what they have to say.

We would therefore appreciate if the OP could acknowledge the advice given and even thank the members that have given the advice. It is then up to the OP if they take up the advice or not.

OP Have you taken up some of the advice given? did it work for you? I am sure a lot of the people who try to help would like to know how it went, and would go some way to our members feeling appreciated for helping you out and make them more likely to advise you in the future.

If you become frustrated with other members constant posting then the best way to deal with that is to ignore the threads, don’t give the advice if people do not seem to appreciate it, that way it doesn’t add to your frustration.

Public arguments on the forum are really not needed and just serve to cause tension amongst members and increase people’s anxiety which is of course the opposite of what NMP is here for. Verbal abuse of any member is very much frowned upon and you open yourself up to warnings and ultimately a ban from the forum.

If you have problems with what a member is saying on a thread then PM that member to ‘discuss’ it, do not initiate an argument on the thread, if you have a problem with what has been said on a thread then another option is to report the thread/reply using the report triangle at the top right of the thread/post

All of the arguments tend to distract from the original question asked and sometimes the OP never gets the answer/advice they are looking for, please try to keep threads on topic.

99.9% of us on NMP suffer or care for someone with mental health problems, so treat members, how you would like to be treated yourself with your illness

Above all please remember the aim of No More Panic, to give help and support to people who are sufferers of mental health problems.

Thanks for reading and we wish you well in your battle with Mental Illness, please help us keep NMP a happy and supportive place to be

NMP Admin team



Bump!

Autumn4
28-01-18, 13:12
Thank you for all the work i know it takes to keep this working !:)

hanshan
29-01-18, 00:01
I'd like to thank Admins for merging posts from posters who keep starting multiple posts on a particular topic that relates to them. As well as making it easier for those reading to follow, I think it helps the poster to keep owning the the whole story, and not just jump ship and start over afresh the next day.

Elen
02-02-18, 12:32
As admins we feel that a few things needed to be reiterated after occurrences on the forum over the last couple of months.

No More Panic is an inclusive forum, our youngest members can be from the age of 13. We are a large community and every one of our members are different, they have different opinions and different disorders BUT one thing which unites us is mental illness and all the problems that that entails

We have evolved over the years, from a small forum with a few members covering panic and anxiety to one that now covers many types of mental health…. Phobias, Health anxiety, ocd amongst others.

There are many different types of members in different stages of the illness and recovery, and at different readiness to accept advice.

Some of us keep ourselves to ourselves and just read the forums and never post, some post occasionally when we feel our worse and others feel the need to post what seems constantly about very minor things.

The latter can cause conflicts when there is constant posting, this can just be the member’s way of trying to cope with their illness and it can be really frustrating for other members when they are trying to give advice and sometimes it appears that the OP isn’t listening to what they have to say.

We would therefore appreciate if the OP could acknowledge the advice given and even thank the members that have given the advice. It is then up to the OP if they take up the advice or not.

OP Have you taken up some of the advice given? did it work for you? I am sure a lot of the people who try to help would like to know how it went, and would go some way to our members feeling appreciated for helping you out and make them more likely to advise you in the future.

If you become frustrated with other members constant posting then the best way to deal with that is to ignore the threads, don’t give the advice if people do not seem to appreciate it, that way it doesn’t add to your frustration.

Public arguments on the forum are really not needed and just serve to cause tension amongst members and increase people’s anxiety which is of course the opposite of what NMP is here for. Verbal abuse of any member is very much frowned upon and you open yourself up to warnings and ultimately a ban from the forum.

If you have problems with what a member is saying on a thread then PM that member to ‘discuss’ it, do not initiate an argument on the thread, if you have a problem with what has been said on a thread then another option is to report the thread/reply using the report triangle at the top right of the thread/post

All of the arguments tend to distract from the original question asked and sometimes the OP never gets the answer/advice they are looking for, please try to keep threads on topic.

99.9% of us on NMP suffer or care for someone with mental health problems, so treat members, how you would like to be treated yourself with your illness

Above all please remember the aim of No More Panic, to give help and support to people who are sufferers of mental health problems.

Thanks for reading and we wish you well in your battle with Mental Illness, please help us keep NMP a happy and supportive place to be

NMP Admin team

And unbelievably this is having to be bumped yet again

Bigboyuk
04-02-18, 14:54
Bump :)

MyNameIsTerry
09-02-18, 02:54
Bump

Magic
09-02-18, 16:20
Bump!

MyNameIsTerry
18-02-18, 06:16
Bump.

MyNameIsTerry
19-02-18, 18:08
Bump

MyNameIsTerry
25-02-18, 03:10
Bump

MyNameIsTerry
19-03-18, 17:49
Bump

MyNameIsTerry
29-03-18, 19:51
Bump

venusbluejeans
15-04-18, 23:45
BUMP!!!

https://image.ibb.co/m07Xu7/1_yo_IR2nfm_Ug_ZDS7_FNXb5p_LQ.jpg

MyNameIsTerry
16-04-18, 02:32
BUMP!!!

https://image.ibb.co/m07Xu7/1_yo_IR2nfm_Ug_ZDS7_FNXb5p_LQ.jpg
Just typical, even though no one is in the queue for gratitude the bloke is sciving with a book! :winks:

MyNameIsTerry
06-05-18, 17:42
Bump

MyNameIsTerry
04-08-18, 01:53
Bump

MyNameIsTerry
09-08-18, 16:38
Bump

MRS STRESS ED
09-08-18, 17:56
A big thank you to all the admins
it is hard to not get abit frustrated sometimes but im going to step back and think how they must be feeling, but l do think everyone should give a thank you for people taking the time to answer them xx

---------- Post added at 17:56 ---------- Previous post was at 17:44 ----------

its amazing how many people have looked at this thread yet only 87 replies :doh:well what can you say :D

MyNameIsTerry
15-08-18, 01:40
Bump

You can bet those reading this thread won't be the ones causing this stuff...and some who do read it refuse to comply with Admin anyway. So on it goes as there is no consequence to it all.

venusbluejeans
15-08-18, 17:09
The thing is, what ever we do as admins we get slaughtered for it...

Moaned at for closing the thread, moaned at for not closing the thread, moaned at for not closing anyone elses thread if we do close a thread, moaned at for favouritism, moaned at for not doing anything, moaned at for doing something..... (no one apart from the admin know what we are actually doing, most is done behind the scenes) moaned at for merging threads, moaned at for not merging threads, moaned at for banning people, moaned at for not banning people, moaned at for messaging people and then for not messaging people and so the list continues.....

It is fun being an admin knowing you are not going to be liked whatever you do :roflmao:

****Edit****...... Just read this back.... it reads as so 'woe is me' but it isn't meant that way, just telling it how it is, you learn to let most of it go over your head.

venusbluejeans
15-08-18, 17:14
A big thank you to all the admins
it is hard to not get abit frustrated sometimes but im going to step back and think how they must be feeling, but l do think everyone should give a thank you for people taking the time to answer them xx


Sorry just seen this again, I saw it before and forgot to reply.... thank you MRS STRESS ED :)

MRS STRESS ED
15-08-18, 17:24
Sorry just seen this again, I saw it before and forgot to reply.... thank you MRS STRESS ED :)

your very very welcome you all do a fantastic job :hugs:

venusbluejeans
15-08-18, 17:30
your very very welcome you all do a fantastic job :hugs:

:flowers::hugs:

Elen
15-08-18, 17:40
A big thank you to all the admins
it is hard to not get abit frustrated sometimes but im going to step back and think how they must be feeling, but l do think everyone should give a thank you for people taking the time to answer them xx

---------- Post added at 17:56 ---------- Previous post was at 17:44 ----------

its amazing how many people have looked at this thread yet only 87 replies :doh:well what can you say :D

Thank you MRS STRESS ED

MyNameIsTerry
15-08-18, 18:54
The thing is, what ever we do as admins we get slaughtered for it...

Moaned at for closing the thread, moaned at for not closing the thread, moaned at for not closing anyone elses thread if we do close a thread, moaned at for favouritism, moaned at for not doing anything, moaned at for doing something..... (no one apart from the admin know what we are actually doing, most is done behind the scenes) moaned at for merging threads, moaned at for not merging threads, moaned at for banning people, moaned at for not banning people, moaned at for messaging people and then for not messaging people and so the list continues.....

It is fun being an admin knowing you are not going to be liked whatever you do :roflmao:

****Edit****...... Just read this back.... it reads as so 'woe is me' but it isn't meant that way, just telling it how it is, you learn to let most of it go over your head.

I'm afraid it's the price of management. I think it's harder for you because this place is small and you naturally get to know people. On a large forum they have enough distance to worry less about the upsets from any actions that need to be taken.

But I also think some know this and take advantage. And some refuse to follow what this thread is saying thereby causing you more work as well as the frustration onto your own mental health. Again, this place is lenient and to some people that signals they can act however they wish.

Thankfully it's always minorities. But some members attract certain people, it's obvious.

Like everything else, the negative is seen more and positive feels like it's taken for granted because that's done everyday. I'm sure there is plenty of support for what you all do, it's just not said much.

People moan when they get pulled up because they're not acting as they should. I'm afraid that's tough, allowances I'm sure are made for the high emotions that can be in play but it doesn't mean a free pass to treat others like dirt either. I guess learning to stop anxiety making you doubt your decisions is a challenge for you guys as well as you are compassionate people.

Elen
15-08-18, 19:50
Bump

As admins we feel that a few things needed to be reiterated after occurrences on the forum over the last couple of months.

No More Panic is an inclusive forum, our youngest members can be from the age of 13. We are a large community and every one of our members are different, they have different opinions and different disorders BUT one thing which unites us is mental illness and all the problems that that entails

We have evolved over the years, from a small forum with a few members covering panic and anxiety to one that now covers many types of mental health…. Phobias, Health anxiety, ocd amongst others.

There are many different types of members in different stages of the illness and recovery, and at different readiness to accept advice.

Some of us keep ourselves to ourselves and just read the forums and never post, some post occasionally when we feel our worse and others feel the need to post what seems constantly about very minor things.

The latter can cause conflicts when there is constant posting, this can just be the member’s way of trying to cope with their illness and it can be really frustrating for other members when they are trying to give advice and sometimes it appears that the OP isn’t listening to what they have to say.

We would therefore appreciate if the OP could acknowledge the advice given and even thank the members that have given the advice. It is then up to the OP if they take up the advice or not.

OP Have you taken up some of the advice given? did it work for you? I am sure a lot of the people who try to help would like to know how it went, and would go some way to our members feeling appreciated for helping you out and make them more likely to advise you in the future.

If you become frustrated with other members constant posting then the best way to deal with that is to ignore the threads, don’t give the advice if people do not seem to appreciate it, that way it doesn’t add to your frustration.

Public arguments on the forum are really not needed and just serve to cause tension amongst members and increase people’s anxiety which is of course the opposite of what NMP is here for. Verbal abuse of any member is very much frowned upon and you open yourself up to warnings and ultimately a ban from the forum.

If you have problems with what a member is saying on a thread then PM that member to ‘discuss’ it, do not initiate an argument on the thread, if you have a problem with what has been said on a thread then another option is to report the thread/reply using the report triangle at the top right of the thread/post

All of the arguments tend to distract from the original question asked and sometimes the OP never gets the answer/advice they are looking for, please try to keep threads on topic.

99.9% of us on NMP suffer or care for someone with mental health problems, so treat members, how you would like to be treated yourself with your illness

Above all please remember the aim of No More Panic, to give help and support to people who are sufferers of mental health problems.

Thanks for reading and we wish you well in your battle with Mental Illness, please help us keep NMP a happy and supportive place to be

NMP Admin team

MyNameIsTerry
16-08-18, 18:37
Bump

MyNameIsTerry
17-08-18, 01:43
Bump.

It won't make a difference but anyway...

pulisa
18-08-18, 13:14
It's interesting that those who receive the most aggressive responses on these contentious threads always come back for more.

MyNameIsTerry
26-08-18, 01:50
Bump

MyNameIsTerry
27-08-18, 05:01
Bump

MyNameIsTerry
18-09-18, 02:31
Bump

MyNameIsTerry
02-10-18, 16:55
Bump

MyNameIsTerry
29-11-18, 19:37
Bump

MyNameIsTerry
30-11-18, 02:31
Bump

MyNameIsTerry
30-11-18, 15:02
Bump

MyNameIsTerry
09-12-18, 05:43
Bump

Elen
09-12-18, 09:15
As admins we feel that a few things needed to be reiterated after occurrences on the forum over the last couple of months.

No More Panic is an inclusive forum, our youngest members can be from the age of 13. We are a large community and every one of our members are different, they have different opinions and different disorders BUT one thing which unites us is mental illness and all the problems that that entails

We have evolved over the years, from a small forum with a few members covering panic and anxiety to one that now covers many types of mental health…. Phobias, Health anxiety, ocd amongst others.

There are many different types of members in different stages of the illness and recovery, and at different readiness to accept advice.

Some of us keep ourselves to ourselves and just read the forums and never post, some post occasionally when we feel our worse and others feel the need to post what seems constantly about very minor things.

The latter can cause conflicts when there is constant posting, this can just be the member’s way of trying to cope with their illness and it can be really frustrating for other members when they are trying to give advice and sometimes it appears that the OP isn’t listening to what they have to say.

We would therefore appreciate if the OP could acknowledge the advice given and even thank the members that have given the advice. It is then up to the OP if they take up the advice or not.

OP Have you taken up some of the advice given? did it work for you? I am sure a lot of the people who try to help would like to know how it went, and would go some way to our members feeling appreciated for helping you out and make them more likely to advise you in the future.

If you become frustrated with other members constant posting then the best way to deal with that is to ignore the threads, don’t give the advice if people do not seem to appreciate it, that way it doesn’t add to your frustration.

Public arguments on the forum are really not needed and just serve to cause tension amongst members and increase people’s anxiety which is of course the opposite of what NMP is here for. Verbal abuse of any member is very much frowned upon and you open yourself up to warnings and ultimately a ban from the forum.

If you have problems with what a member is saying on a thread then PM that member to ‘discuss’ it, do not initiate an argument on the thread, if you have a problem with what has been said on a thread then another option is to report the thread/reply using the report triangle at the top right of the thread/post

All of the arguments tend to distract from the original question asked and sometimes the OP never gets the answer/advice they are looking for, please try to keep threads on topic.

99.9% of us on NMP suffer or care for someone with mental health problems, so treat members, how you would like to be treated yourself with your illness

Above all please remember the aim of No More Panic, to give help and support to people who are sufferers of mental health problems.

Thanks for reading and we wish you well in your battle with Mental Illness, please help us keep NMP a happy and supportive place to be

NMP Admin team

Bump

whispershadow
14-12-18, 13:47
I got a question, I got a learning difficulty which makes understanding long messages difficult, if admin or mods ever needed to speak with me over anything and if I didn't understand what I was in trouble for, what would happen to me? :sofa:

Elen
14-12-18, 15:48
I got a question, I got a learning difficulty which makes understanding long messages difficult, if admin or mods ever needed to speak with me over anything and if I didn't understand what I was in trouble for, what would happen to me? :sofa:

No need for you to worry, we would pm you and make sure that you understood what we were saying

venusbluejeans
14-12-18, 20:14
I got a question, I got a learning difficulty which makes understanding long messages difficult, if admin or mods ever needed to speak with me over anything and if I didn't understand what I was in trouble for, what would happen to me? :sofa:


Also of you feel that there is anything you don't understand about the forum then message one of us admins and we can try to explain

whispershadow
14-12-18, 22:58
No need for you to worry, we would pm you and make sure that you understood what we were saying

So you wouldn't do what a different forum did yesterday and ban me for not understanding what was said to me?

venusbluejeans
16-12-18, 17:09
So you wouldn't do what a different forum did yesterday and ban me for not understanding what was said to me?


Nope :)

MyNameIsTerry
18-12-18, 02:59
Bump

MyNameIsTerry
21-12-18, 18:06
Bump

MyNameIsTerry
23-12-18, 13:10
Bump :doh::wall:

---------- Post added at 12:10 ---------- Previous post was at 11:47 ----------

Just a thought, it is nearly Christmas Eve and I'm sure our hardworking Admin's have better things to be doing. At the minimum, they deserve a break from dealing with stuff so how about some Christmas cheer and we all give them the lovely present of getting along? It's better for our mental health and our Admin's are sufferers too.

http://yoursmiles.org/tsmile/christmas/t07017.gif (http://yoursmiles.org/t-christmas.php)http://yoursmiles.org/tsmile/christmas/t07016.gif (http://yoursmiles.org/t-christmas.php)http://yoursmiles.org/tsmile/christmas/t07012.gif (http://yoursmiles.org/t-christmas.php)

And for anyone who isn't a Christian or doesn't celebrate this time of year for religious reasons or otherwise, I'm sure we would all agree peace is good. :yesyes:

http://yoursmiles.org/tsmile/proposal/t5103.gif (http://yoursmiles.org/t-proposal.php)

If men fighting against each other in a war can achieve it, surely we can?!

http://yoursmiles.org/tsmile/hug/t4624.gif (http://yoursmiles.org/t-hug.php)

MyNameIsTerry
12-01-19, 21:26
Bump

MyNameIsTerry
09-03-19, 14:19
Bump

MyNameIsTerry
15-03-19, 19:17
Bump

MyNameIsTerry
16-03-19, 03:01
Bump.

whispershadow
16-03-19, 10:24
*brings presents into the thread for the admins* :flowers:

Just because they deserve to be spoiled :emot-partyblower::footy::bighug::yahoo:

KK77
16-03-19, 16:23
*Grabs a present and leaves thread* :shades:

whispershadow
16-03-19, 16:46
*Grabs a present and leaves thread* :shades:

*KK opens the present and finds it's chocolate* :whistles:

venusbluejeans
16-03-19, 17:01
Thank you Whisper :)

whispershadow
16-03-19, 20:02
In all seriousness now, what's the best present everyone on this forum can give the admins?

venusbluejeans
16-03-19, 20:22
ummmm the best present would be a day of no argumentative posts, No duplicate accounts to sort, members putting their threads in the correct subforum and members not starting a new thread about the same topic they posted about before so we have to merge them :) .... that would be the perfect present lol

whispershadow
16-03-19, 20:38
ummmm the best present would be a day of no argumentative posts, No duplicate accounts to sort, members putting their threads in the correct subforum and members not starting a new thread about the same topic they posted about before so we have to merge them :) .... that would be the perfect present lol

Would it help if I start a thread to pick a day and say that nobody is allowed to cause the admins any work on that day? Would that work? :hugs:

venusbluejeans
16-03-19, 23:11
There is always going to be work for admins to do, if you told everyone or not.... but thank you for the thought :)

KK77
16-03-19, 23:33
There is always going to be work for admins to do, if you told everyone or not.... but thank you for the thought :)


*Miss V puts feet up in front of TV and munches on her snacks*

venusbluejeans
17-03-19, 00:32
*Miss V puts feet up in front of TV and munches on her snacks*


Lol to be honest that is what I have been doing this evening :yesyes: On the settee in my cave waiting for casualty to come on the tv and cursing when football was on instead!!

https://scontent-lhr3-1.xx.fbcdn.net/v/t1.15752-9/54228762_2276329935915039_7133591411915489280_n.pn g?_nc_cat=101&_nc_ht=scontent-lhr3-1.xx&oh=6f438c5dfba7d37a672373b9abe5dce3&oe=5D229F7A


I wish my cave really did look like ^^^^^ instead of a semi-detached in the East Midlands :roflmao:

Fishmanpa
17-03-19, 03:45
Now ^^^THAT^^^ is a man cave! Literally!

KK77
17-03-19, 13:38
Have you both been renting your caves from Airbnb?

And I thought your cave had an Olympic sized swimming pool, Fish? :lac:

whispershadow
17-03-19, 14:01
redecorates venus's forum cave :flowers:

KK77
17-03-19, 14:06
redecorates venus's forum cave :flowers:

Hope you know Miss V only goes for royal purple and is known to blow her top at any shades of pink :whistles:

whispershadow
17-03-19, 16:24
Hope you know Miss V only goes for royal purple and is known to blow her top at any shades of pink :whistles:

No pink anywhere, I detest the colour pink as well :whistles:

whispershadow
17-03-19, 22:13
puts chocolate digestives in venus's forum cave for her to find when she sees it's been redecorated to her favourite colour :whistles:

And KK gets caught near her cave cause I scrammed as soon as I done everything :whistles:

KK77
18-03-19, 00:42
*Swaps the choc digestives for plain ones and exits cave swiftly*

venusbluejeans
18-03-19, 00:52
*Swaps the choc digestives for plain ones and exits cave swiftly*

https://media2.giphy.com/media/3o7H5gnJSq933JCk92/giphy.gif?cid=3640f6095c8edd1f5a3138485537754e

venusbluejeans
18-03-19, 00:53
As admins we feel that a few things needed to be reiterated after occurrences on the forum over the last couple of months.

No More Panic is an inclusive forum, our youngest members can be from the age of 13. We are a large community and every one of our members are different, they have different opinions and different disorders BUT one thing which unites us is mental illness and all the problems that that entails

We have evolved over the years, from a small forum with a few members covering panic and anxiety to one that now covers many types of mental health…. Phobias, Health anxiety, ocd amongst others.

There are many different types of members in different stages of the illness and recovery, and at different readiness to accept advice.

Some of us keep ourselves to ourselves and just read the forums and never post, some post occasionally when we feel our worse and others feel the need to post what seems constantly about very minor things.

The latter can cause conflicts when there is constant posting, this can just be the member’s way of trying to cope with their illness and it can be really frustrating for other members when they are trying to give advice and sometimes it appears that the OP isn’t listening to what they have to say.

We would therefore appreciate if the OP could acknowledge the advice given and even thank the members that have given the advice. It is then up to the OP if they take up the advice or not.

OP Have you taken up some of the advice given? did it work for you? I am sure a lot of the people who try to help would like to know how it went, and would go some way to our members feeling appreciated for helping you out and make them more likely to advise you in the future.

If you become frustrated with other members constant posting then the best way to deal with that is to ignore the threads, don’t give the advice if people do not seem to appreciate it, that way it doesn’t add to your frustration.

Public arguments on the forum are really not needed and just serve to cause tension amongst members and increase people’s anxiety which is of course the opposite of what NMP is here for. Verbal abuse of any member is very much frowned upon and you open yourself up to warnings and ultimately a ban from the forum.

If you have problems with what a member is saying on a thread then PM that member to ‘discuss’ it, do not initiate an argument on the thread, if you have a problem with what has been said on a thread then another option is to report the thread/reply using the report triangle at the top right of the thread/post

All of the arguments tend to distract from the original question asked and sometimes the OP never gets the answer/advice they are looking for, please try to keep threads on topic.

99.9% of us on NMP suffer or care for someone with mental health problems, so treat members, how you would like to be treated yourself with your illness

Above all please remember the aim of No More Panic, to give help and support to people who are sufferers of mental health problems.

Thanks for reading and we wish you well in your battle with Mental Illness, please help us keep NMP a happy and supportive place to be

NMP Admin team .

whispershadow
18-03-19, 12:12
*restocks venus's cave with choc digestives* :whistles:

MyNameIsTerry
26-03-19, 20:40
Bump

MyNameIsTerry
10-04-19, 16:19
Bump

MyNameIsTerry
17-04-19, 20:33
Bump

MyNameIsTerry
11-05-19, 22:42
Bump.

MyNameIsTerry
15-05-19, 02:14
Bump

Phill2
16-05-19, 01:31
Bump

And grind :winks:

MyNameIsTerry
16-05-19, 03:21
And grind :winks:

Can't remember what it is :ohmy::biggrin:

Phill2
16-05-19, 05:02
Me either
Heard it somewhere :shrug:

KK77
17-05-19, 00:37
BUMP :D


On behalf of Terry and HA Mismanagement

MyNameIsTerry
19-05-19, 02:03
BUMP :D


On behalf of Terry and HA Mismanagement

Thanks KK, and it's time for another bumpety bump.

MyNameIsTerry
19-05-19, 11:13
Bump.

Phill2
29-05-19, 09:32
Bumpity bump bump bump :shrug:

MyNameIsTerry
03-06-19, 02:00
Bump

MyNameIsTerry
03-06-19, 05:08
Bump

MyNameIsTerry
08-06-19, 01:55
Bump

MyNameIsTerry
21-06-19, 02:22
As admins we feel that a few things needed to be reiterated after occurrences on the forum over the last couple of months.

No More Panic is an inclusive forum, our youngest members can be from the age of 13. We are a large community and every one of our members are different, they have different opinions and different disorders BUT one thing which unites us is mental illness and all the problems that that entails

We have evolved over the years, from a small forum with a few members covering panic and anxiety to one that now covers many types of mental health…. Phobias, Health anxiety, ocd amongst others.

There are many different types of members in different stages of the illness and recovery, and at different readiness to accept advice.

Some of us keep ourselves to ourselves and just read the forums and never post, some post occasionally when we feel our worse and others feel the need to post what seems constantly about very minor things.

The latter can cause conflicts when there is constant posting, this can just be the member’s way of trying to cope with their illness and it can be really frustrating for other members when they are trying to give advice and sometimes it appears that the OP isn’t listening to what they have to say.

We would therefore appreciate if the OP could acknowledge the advice given and even thank the members that have given the advice. It is then up to the OP if they take up the advice or not.

OP Have you taken up some of the advice given? did it work for you? I am sure a lot of the people who try to help would like to know how it went, and would go some way to our members feeling appreciated for helping you out and make them more likely to advise you in the future.

If you become frustrated with other members constant posting then the best way to deal with that is to ignore the threads, don’t give the advice if people do not seem to appreciate it, that way it doesn’t add to your frustration.

Public arguments on the forum are really not needed and just serve to cause tension amongst members and increase people’s anxiety which is of course the opposite of what NMP is here for. Verbal abuse of any member is very much frowned upon and you open yourself up to warnings and ultimately a ban from the forum.

If you have problems with what a member is saying on a thread then PM that member to ‘discuss’ it, do not initiate an argument on the thread, if you have a problem with what has been said on a thread then another option is to report the thread/reply using the report triangle at the top right of the thread/post

All of the arguments tend to distract from the original question asked and sometimes the OP never gets the answer/advice they are looking for, please try to keep threads on topic.

99.9% of us on NMP suffer or care for someone with mental health problems, so treat members, how you would like to be treated yourself with your illness

Above all please remember the aim of No More Panic, to give help and support to people who are sufferers of mental health problems.

Thanks for reading and we wish you well in your battle with Mental Illness, please help us keep NMP a happy and supportive place to be

NMP Admin team

Bump

Phill2
21-06-19, 06:32
I'll see your bump and raise you one

MyNameIsTerry
21-06-19, 14:38
I'll see your bump and raise you one

Hmm...[checks cards, has a long stare at Phill for signs of a tell, he's bluffing!]...I see your one! :biggrin:

Phill2
22-06-19, 05:29
I'll call.
Full house 3 bumps and 2 grinds.

MyNameIsTerry
22-06-19, 14:10
I'll call.
Full house 3 bumps and 2 grinds.

Damn, you win. All I have is a low pair (seeing the doctor about it next week actually, it's probably why I was never a sailor as the rhyme goes :winks:)

Phill2
23-06-19, 00:14
:roflmao:

MyNameIsTerry
02-07-19, 00:43
Bump

MyNameIsTerry
26-07-19, 17:04
Bump

MyNameIsTerry
26-07-19, 23:33
Bump

MyNameIsTerry
30-07-19, 01:54
As admins we feel that a few things needed to be reiterated after occurrences on the forum over the last couple of months.

No More Panic is an inclusive forum, our youngest members can be from the age of 13. We are a large community and every one of our members are different, they have different opinions and different disorders BUT one thing which unites us is mental illness and all the problems that that entails

We have evolved over the years, from a small forum with a few members covering panic and anxiety to one that now covers many types of mental health…. Phobias, Health anxiety, ocd amongst others.

There are many different types of members in different stages of the illness and recovery, and at different readiness to accept advice.

Some of us keep ourselves to ourselves and just read the forums and never post, some post occasionally when we feel our worse and others feel the need to post what seems constantly about very minor things.

The latter can cause conflicts when there is constant posting, this can just be the member’s way of trying to cope with their illness and it can be really frustrating for other members when they are trying to give advice and sometimes it appears that the OP isn’t listening to what they have to say.

We would therefore appreciate if the OP could acknowledge the advice given and even thank the members that have given the advice. It is then up to the OP if they take up the advice or not.

OP Have you taken up some of the advice given? did it work for you? I am sure a lot of the people who try to help would like to know how it went, and would go some way to our members feeling appreciated for helping you out and make them more likely to advise you in the future.

If you become frustrated with other members constant posting then the best way to deal with that is to ignore the threads, don’t give the advice if people do not seem to appreciate it, that way it doesn’t add to your frustration.

Public arguments on the forum are really not needed and just serve to cause tension amongst members and increase people’s anxiety which is of course the opposite of what NMP is here for. Verbal abuse of any member is very much frowned upon and you open yourself up to warnings and ultimately a ban from the forum.

If you have problems with what a member is saying on a thread then PM that member to ‘discuss’ it, do not initiate an argument on the thread, if you have a problem with what has been said on a thread then another option is to report the thread/reply using the report triangle at the top right of the thread/post

All of the arguments tend to distract from the original question asked and sometimes the OP never gets the answer/advice they are looking for, please try to keep threads on topic.

99.9% of us on NMP suffer or care for someone with mental health problems, so treat members, how you would like to be treated yourself with your illness

Above all please remember the aim of No More Panic, to give help and support to people who are sufferers of mental health problems.

Thanks for reading and we wish you well in your battle with Mental Illness, please help us keep NMP a happy and supportive place to be

NMP Admin team

Bump

Fishmanpa
30-07-19, 13:25
Above all please remember the aim of No More Panic, to give help and support to people who are sufferers of mental health problems.

Help and support and enabling are two different things.

Positive thoughts

MyNameIsTerry
30-07-19, 16:21
As admins we feel that a few things needed to be reiterated after occurrences on the forum over the last couple of months.No More Panic is an inclusive forum, our youngest members can be from the age of 13. We are a large community and every one of our members are different, they have different opinions and different disorders BUT one thing which unites us is mental illness and all the problems that that entailsWe have evolved over the years, from a small forum with a few members covering panic and anxiety to one that now covers many types of mental health…. Phobias, Health anxiety, ocd amongst others. There are many different types of members in different stages of the illness and recovery, and at different readiness to accept advice.Some of us keep ourselves to ourselves and just read the forums and never post, some post occasionally when we feel our worse and others feel the need to post what seems constantly about very minor things.The latter can cause conflicts when there is constant posting, this can just be the member’s way of trying to cope with their illness and it can be really frustrating for other members when they are trying to give advice and sometimes it appears that the OP isn’t listening to what they have to say.We would therefore appreciate if the OP could acknowledge the advice given and even thank the members that have given the advice. It is then up to the OP if they take up the advice or not. OP Have you taken up some of the advice given? did it work for you? I am sure a lot of the people who try to help would like to know how it went, and would go some way to our members feeling appreciated for helping you out and make them more likely to advise you in the future.If you become frustrated with other members constant posting then the best way to deal with that is to ignore the threads, don’t give the advice if people do not seem to appreciate it, that way it doesn’t add to your frustration.Public arguments on the forum are really not needed and just serve to cause tension amongst members and increase people’s anxiety which is of course the opposite of what NMP is here for. Verbal abuse of any member is very much frowned upon and you open yourself up to warnings and ultimately a ban from the forum.If you have problems with what a member is saying on a thread then PM that member to ‘discuss’ it, do not initiate an argument on the thread, if you have a problem with what has been said on a thread then another option is to report the thread/reply using the report triangle at the top right of the thread/postAll of the arguments tend to distract from the original question asked and sometimes the OP never gets the answer/advice they are looking for, please try to keep threads on topic. 99.9% of us on NMP suffer or care for someone with mental health problems, so treat members, how you would like to be treated yourself with your illness Above all please remember the aim of No More Panic, to give help and support to people who are sufferers of mental health problems.Thanks for reading and we wish you well in your battle with Mental Illness, please help us keep NMP a happy and supportive place to beNMP Admin teamBump

MyNameIsTerry
15-08-19, 17:51
Bump

MyNameIsTerry
26-08-19, 02:38
Bump

MyNameIsTerry
27-08-19, 01:34
Bump

MyNameIsTerry
11-09-19, 02:10
Bump

MyNameIsTerry
13-09-19, 03:39
As admins we feel that a few things needed to be reiterated after occurrences on the forum over the last couple of months.

No More Panic is an inclusive forum, our youngest members can be from the age of 13. We are a large community and every one of our members are different, they have different opinions and different disorders BUT one thing which unites us is mental illness and all the problems that that entails

We have evolved over the years, from a small forum with a few members covering panic and anxiety to one that now covers many types of mental health…. Phobias, Health anxiety, ocd amongst others.

There are many different types of members in different stages of the illness and recovery, and at different readiness to accept advice.

Some of us keep ourselves to ourselves and just read the forums and never post, some post occasionally when we feel our worse and others feel the need to post what seems constantly about very minor things.

The latter can cause conflicts when there is constant posting, this can just be the member’s way of trying to cope with their illness and it can be really frustrating for other members when they are trying to give advice and sometimes it appears that the OP isn’t listening to what they have to say.

We would therefore appreciate if the OP could acknowledge the advice given and even thank the members that have given the advice. It is then up to the OP if they take up the advice or not.

OP Have you taken up some of the advice given? did it work for you? I am sure a lot of the people who try to help would like to know how it went, and would go some way to our members feeling appreciated for helping you out and make them more likely to advise you in the future.

If you become frustrated with other members constant posting then the best way to deal with that is to ignore the threads, don’t give the advice if people do not seem to appreciate it, that way it doesn’t add to your frustration.

Public arguments on the forum are really not needed and just serve to cause tension amongst members and increase people’s anxiety which is of course the opposite of what NMP is here for. Verbal abuse of any member is very much frowned upon and you open yourself up to warnings and ultimately a ban from the forum.

If you have problems with what a member is saying on a thread then PM that member to ‘discuss’ it, do not initiate an argument on the thread, if you have a problem with what has been said on a thread then another option is to report the thread/reply using the report triangle at the top right of the thread/post

All of the arguments tend to distract from the original question asked and sometimes the OP never gets the answer/advice they are looking for, please try to keep threads on topic.

99.9% of us on NMP suffer or care for someone with mental health problems, so treat members, how you would like to be treated yourself with your illness

Above all please remember the aim of No More Panic, to give help and support to people who are sufferers of mental health problems.

Thanks for reading and we wish you well in your battle with Mental Illness, please help us keep NMP a happy and supportive place to be

NMP Admin team

Bump

MyNameIsTerry
28-09-19, 02:01
Bump

MyNameIsTerry
28-09-19, 23:17
Bump

MyNameIsTerry
30-09-19, 02:11
Bump

MyNameIsTerry
26-11-19, 04:48
Bump

MyNameIsTerry
28-11-19, 03:30
Bump

MyNameIsTerry
04-03-20, 06:19
Bump

MyNameIsTerry
09-03-20, 18:55
Bump

MamaCass
13-03-20, 19:23
I think I should start reading the threads a bit more. :doh:

This is what I was trying to explain on my current thread, but wasn't aware if the admins knew about it or not.

Its always nice to be nice. I like to speak and treat others as I would like to treated and spoken too. :)

MyNameIsTerry
31-03-20, 05:26
Bump

KK77
14-04-20, 11:41
As admins we feel that a few things needed to be reiterated after occurrences on the forum over the last couple of months.

No More Panic is an inclusive forum, our youngest members can be from the age of 13. We are a large community and every one of our members are different, they have different opinions and different disorders BUT one thing which unites us is mental illness and all the problems that that entails

We have evolved over the years, from a small forum with a few members covering panic and anxiety to one that now covers many types of mental health…. Phobias, Health anxiety, ocd amongst others.

There are many different types of members in different stages of the illness and recovery, and at different readiness to accept advice.

Some of us keep ourselves to ourselves and just read the forums and never post, some post occasionally when we feel our worse and others feel the need to post what seems constantly about very minor things.

The latter can cause conflicts when there is constant posting, this can just be the member’s way of trying to cope with their illness and it can be really frustrating for other members when they are trying to give advice and sometimes it appears that the OP isn’t listening to what they have to say.

We would therefore appreciate if the OP could acknowledge the advice given and even thank the members that have given the advice. It is then up to the OP if they take up the advice or not.

OP Have you taken up some of the advice given? did it work for you? I am sure a lot of the people who try to help would like to know how it went, and would go some way to our members feeling appreciated for helping you out and make them more likely to advise you in the future.

If you become frustrated with other members constant posting then the best way to deal with that is to ignore the threads, don’t give the advice if people do not seem to appreciate it, that way it doesn’t add to your frustration.

Public arguments on the forum are really not needed and just serve to cause tension amongst members and increase people’s anxiety which is of course the opposite of what NMP is here for. Verbal abuse of any member is very much frowned upon and you open yourself up to warnings and ultimately a ban from the forum.

If you have problems with what a member is saying on a thread then PM that member to ‘discuss’ it, do not initiate an argument on the thread, if you have a problem with what has been said on a thread then another option is to report the thread/reply using the report triangle at the top right of the thread/post

All of the arguments tend to distract from the original question asked and sometimes the OP never gets the answer/advice they are looking for, please try to keep threads on topic.

99.9% of us on NMP suffer or care for someone with mental health problems, so treat members, how you would like to be treated yourself with your illness

Above all please remember the aim of No More Panic, to give help and support to people who are sufferers of mental health problems.

Thanks for reading and we wish you well in your battle with Mental Illness, please help us keep NMP a happy and supportive place to be

NMP Admin team
BUMP

KK77
23-04-20, 22:40
BUMP

MyNameIsTerry
23-05-20, 04:43
Bump

MyNameIsTerry
23-05-20, 16:11
As admins we feel that a few things needed to be reiterated after occurrences on the forum over the last couple of months.

No More Panic is an inclusive forum, our youngest members can be from the age of 13. We are a large community and every one of our members are different, they have different opinions and different disorders BUT one thing which unites us is mental illness and all the problems that that entails

We have evolved over the years, from a small forum with a few members covering panic and anxiety to one that now covers many types of mental health…. Phobias, Health anxiety, ocd amongst others.

There are many different types of members in different stages of the illness and recovery, and at different readiness to accept advice.

Some of us keep ourselves to ourselves and just read the forums and never post, some post occasionally when we feel our worse and others feel the need to post what seems constantly about very minor things.

The latter can cause conflicts when there is constant posting, this can just be the member’s way of trying to cope with their illness and it can be really frustrating for other members when they are trying to give advice and sometimes it appears that the OP isn’t listening to what they have to say.

We would therefore appreciate if the OP could acknowledge the advice given and even thank the members that have given the advice. It is then up to the OP if they take up the advice or not.

OP Have you taken up some of the advice given? did it work for you? I am sure a lot of the people who try to help would like to know how it went, and would go some way to our members feeling appreciated for helping you out and make them more likely to advise you in the future.

If you become frustrated with other members constant posting then the best way to deal with that is to ignore the threads, don’t give the advice if people do not seem to appreciate it, that way it doesn’t add to your frustration.

Public arguments on the forum are really not needed and just serve to cause tension amongst members and increase people’s anxiety which is of course the opposite of what NMP is here for. Verbal abuse of any member is very much frowned upon and you open yourself up to warnings and ultimately a ban from the forum.

If you have problems with what a member is saying on a thread then PM that member to ‘discuss’ it, do not initiate an argument on the thread, if you have a problem with what has been said on a thread then another option is to report the thread/reply using the report triangle at the top right of the thread/post

All of the arguments tend to distract from the original question asked and sometimes the OP never gets the answer/advice they are looking for, please try to keep threads on topic.

99.9% of us on NMP suffer or care for someone with mental health problems, so treat members, how you would like to be treated yourself with your illness

Above all please remember the aim of No More Panic, to give help and support to people who are sufferers of mental health problems.

Thanks for reading and we wish you well in your battle with Mental Illness, please help us keep NMP a happy and supportive place to be

NMP Admin team

Bump

anx2005
28-05-20, 22:19
I have been a member for years but I also haven't been on in years. The last time I was on was when I was going through a divorce in 2016. I am getting married to someone wonderful in 2 days and I am an anxious mess. I need you all. I need my chatroom supporters but I see none? Is the chatroom not active anymore? It was my life saver. I am not sure who will read this. I guess I will post elsewhere also so that it is seen? It looks as if a lot has changed in 4 years. I hope by double posting I am not violating rules. Thanks all! Please assist!!!

stars1976
28-05-20, 23:16
People sometimes roll into the chat room between 10pm and 1 am British time. No one seems to come to chat room early these days:weep:

We would love to see you anx2005 (https://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/member.php?33663-anx2005)

anx2005
28-05-20, 23:34
makes me sad too! I must have always gotten on at that time before ???

WiseMonkey
29-05-20, 00:11
As I see it, if someone can be vitriolic towards you on a forum thread and you PM them (as suggested) to discuss the issue, then they will be even nastier to you in person (PM) and who's going to put themselves through that?! If you make a complaint to management (as suggested) and the vitriolic person is part of that management team, then how will that work?!! In that case it's a win-win to that person, even though they have had complaints against them before :huh:

MyNameIsTerry
29-05-20, 04:09
As I see it, if someone can be vitriolic towards you on a forum thread and you PM them (as suggested) to discuss the issue, then they will be even nastier to you in person (PM) and who's going to put themselves through that?! If you make a complaint to management (as suggested) and the vitriolic person is part of that management team, then how will that work?!! In that case it's a win-win to that person, even though they have had complaints against them before :huh:

Hi Lesley,

I agree. Actually, some forums even state you must not take it to PM for this very reason.

My experience of disputes is that PM is hidden and you may experience worse abuse as some seem to think they can let fly without repercussions.

Judge the person because nasty on the forum can mean worse in PM. And what's the point when you aren't going to change any minds?

Any problems with Admins then I know I would go straight to Nic. If an Admin is being unfair and you believe it may be due to their own stress levels then seeking out another Admin may be helpful.

Just my experience.

anx2005
29-05-20, 16:16
I highly recommend not doing PM's. I used to be on here a lot. I did the chat room back in 2016 during my divorce. I started PM's with people as friends. One person just wouldn't leave me alone. I finally just stopped getting on here. It has been 4 years and I am just now getting back on.

MyNameIsTerry
09-02-21, 02:30
It won't be read but...bump...

BikerMatt
09-02-21, 03:10
As admins we feel that a few things needed to be reiterated after occurrences on the forum over the last couple of months.

No More Panic is an inclusive forum, our youngest members can be from the age of 13. We are a large community and every one of our members are different, they have different opinions and different disorders BUT one thing which unites us is mental illness and all the problems that that entails

We have evolved over the years, from a small forum with a few members covering panic and anxiety to one that now covers many types of mental health…. Phobias, Health anxiety, ocd amongst others.

There are many different types of members in different stages of the illness and recovery, and at different readiness to accept advice.

Some of us keep ourselves to ourselves and just read the forums and never post, some post occasionally when we feel our worse and others feel the need to post what seems constantly about very minor things.

The latter can cause conflicts when there is constant posting, this can just be the member’s way of trying to cope with their illness and it can be really frustrating for other members when they are trying to give advice and sometimes it appears that the OP isn’t listening to what they have to say.

We would therefore appreciate if the OP could acknowledge the advice given and even thank the members that have given the advice. It is then up to the OP if they take up the advice or not.

OP Have you taken up some of the advice given? did it work for you? I am sure a lot of the people who try to help would like to know how it went, and would go some way to our members feeling appreciated for helping you out and make them more likely to advise you in the future.

If you become frustrated with other members constant posting then the best way to deal with that is to ignore the threads, don’t give the advice if people do not seem to appreciate it, that way it doesn’t add to your frustration.

Public arguments on the forum are really not needed and just serve to cause tension amongst members and increase people’s anxiety which is of course the opposite of what NMP is here for. Verbal abuse of any member is very much frowned upon and you open yourself up to warnings and ultimately a ban from the forum.

If you have problems with what a member is saying on a thread then PM that member to ‘discuss’ it, do not initiate an argument on the thread, if you have a problem with what has been said on a thread then another option is to report the thread/reply using the report triangle at the top right of the thread/post

All of the arguments tend to distract from the original question asked and sometimes the OP never gets the answer/advice they are looking for, please try to keep threads on topic.

99.9% of us on NMP suffer or care for someone with mental health problems, so treat members, how you would like to be treated yourself with your illness

Above all please remember the aim of No More Panic, to give help and support to people who are sufferers of mental health problems.

Thanks for reading and we wish you well in your battle with Mental Illness, please help us keep NMP a happy and supportive place to be

NMP Admin team

Cheers Terry, perfect!

MyNameIsTerry
09-02-21, 07:08
Cheers Terry, perfect!

Nice bump of the rules mate. The people that need to heed them most will just carry on sadly :doh:

MyNameIsTerry
09-03-21, 23:33
Defo needs a bump today!