phil06
14-04-16, 23:06
My anxiety has returned after around six months off or year. I sort of clutch into my OCD worries and this takes my anxiety away as I say in the other contamination thread.
I've had spells like this before so sometimes I need some refreshers for self help and what others do as I forget it all do I'm glued to relaxation CDs to try and calm down as when it comes back it's quite scary more so than OCD that's why I prefer when it's just hand washing or throwing out stuff because it's not a daily issue.
What's triggered it is I moved out six months ago first two months very easy got house great now since the new year I'm dealing with challenging issues and money worries.
*Mostly general work worries which I will explain below..
*I had a two week dose of flu this month not the cold bed flu nightmare and that set my anxiety bad. And in March I had a bug. November I had a quicker dose of flu.
*Had to call both a plumber and electrician so I'm learning quickly about unexpected costs. I'm 27 now so I know about this but it's a new challenge when I work and have to find money and keep a house and have that responsibility have to sort of grow up even more..so this is tough.
*Working with maybe a boss you don't like too much I just try and do my work quietly I feel this is best?
*I wanted a house with a garden so I got one but I thought the work was easy with the home improvements but now it's been hard to get the place as as I want it even though it was nice before. Result was I've had to work slower and do it bit by bit and regret getting a big garden.
*Having a house means I want a car again to carry shopping sadly I gave that up due to anxiety about 5 years ago after failing 4 driving tests.
*Fear changing to a new job as I'm in work 5 years previously had a spell out of work for just six months but hated that as may anxiety was more.
*Have a tidy house but learning about keeping it clean have OCD so I avoid bleach but with getting ants in the house I've had to push on and clean up to keep the place a tad more clean and not just tidy..
*Unexpectedley had to buy a new shed at the cost of £200.
*My girlfiend had her hours reduced so she had to find a new job. She now has one but every job has a trial period and you don't find out until 3 months if you get kept on.
*Also at my work some people had contracts halved or it was simply let go mine is safe for now they say
*Also worried about being 27 pressure of marriage if you have been in a long term marriage. I have to save and that's hard with a house just to afford that in the future.
*Perhaps not seeing friends as much meaning social life or more time in but I guess this has to happen to a degree as you get older. I try and make new friends but it's not a instant fix.
*Worries I maybe have to move house now or future I sit googling houses as I got that habbit house hunting for 2 years anyway..I know it's not helpful now only been here in this new house six months rushed up saving all in a year as previously I never saved money.
Coupes of forum members probably read about these issues in my other thread and it's just worrying me as my job is at risk and mortgage if I don't work. Perhaps general worries and not so much trivial ones I had at say maybe 21 not 27.
So yes perhaps others have had to be like me and do this stuff some of its travail but my anxiety is bad and I feel all tense and panicky or just depressed am saying it will get better again but I get anxiety about anxiety in a sense of more problems come or I have no idea how long this challenging spell can last. Possibly a tough year but I am coping and just trying to focus on doing a good job at work.
So basically just lots of worries and in the space of 4 months it's not been ideal for my anxiety. Anybody got any sort of advice as I'm hoping to get over this blip quickly and get back to working hard. Can't afford holidays or concerts now either so I'm findings a low wage I can only do well little much as I need to save? :blush:
Perhaps nothing to worry about but I'm anxiety prone and half of the worry comes with "what next" "what happens next" and "will it improve soon" these anxiety questions? And perhaps I have done too much home improvements so perhaps this has not been ideal ? Spent loads buying last year to get the house good, spent even more like hundreds possibly more (small ammount OCD) mostly just personal taste the rest. I have had to have it walk in condition for me, and now there's more stuff I want and I now can't afford to :/ I have to have it perfect as me and my girlfiend had people or family say you usually have to start with nothing so I've had to work 50-60 hours a week last year but now I do 24 a week. I mean working that hard as I had to save a few grand in a year as stuff for too much living with parents and renting actually is even more money. But this is partly why as people previously said I couldn't manage or not with anxiety so it pushed me to try harder. So just need some help to sort of keep working hard and stop being anxious or deal with this blip?
Also to add people may wonder why I can't replace the OCD with something else once anxiety isn't there I can't apply myself to a hobby or anything so sometimes I let the OCD sort of rule to keep that anxiety low..not ideal but anxiety sometimes has to be about managing it. I find distraction very tough when my anxiety is say 9/10 or 10/10 now as I sit and worry. So I don't seek more help for OCD or anxiety because just saying anxiety can tigger it I try and live as anxiety free a life as possible. And with some OCD people just putting up with it anxiety levels with OCD are only 5/10. Perhaps people can maybe offer more advice on that too? My anxiety is that bad now I would now be trying to watch a film as it gets so bad I flick through the tv and avoid any triggers for anxiety. So i worry maybe I tried too hard with the house so I need to now maybe relax and appetite the house.
I've had spells like this before so sometimes I need some refreshers for self help and what others do as I forget it all do I'm glued to relaxation CDs to try and calm down as when it comes back it's quite scary more so than OCD that's why I prefer when it's just hand washing or throwing out stuff because it's not a daily issue.
What's triggered it is I moved out six months ago first two months very easy got house great now since the new year I'm dealing with challenging issues and money worries.
*Mostly general work worries which I will explain below..
*I had a two week dose of flu this month not the cold bed flu nightmare and that set my anxiety bad. And in March I had a bug. November I had a quicker dose of flu.
*Had to call both a plumber and electrician so I'm learning quickly about unexpected costs. I'm 27 now so I know about this but it's a new challenge when I work and have to find money and keep a house and have that responsibility have to sort of grow up even more..so this is tough.
*Working with maybe a boss you don't like too much I just try and do my work quietly I feel this is best?
*I wanted a house with a garden so I got one but I thought the work was easy with the home improvements but now it's been hard to get the place as as I want it even though it was nice before. Result was I've had to work slower and do it bit by bit and regret getting a big garden.
*Having a house means I want a car again to carry shopping sadly I gave that up due to anxiety about 5 years ago after failing 4 driving tests.
*Fear changing to a new job as I'm in work 5 years previously had a spell out of work for just six months but hated that as may anxiety was more.
*Have a tidy house but learning about keeping it clean have OCD so I avoid bleach but with getting ants in the house I've had to push on and clean up to keep the place a tad more clean and not just tidy..
*Unexpectedley had to buy a new shed at the cost of £200.
*My girlfiend had her hours reduced so she had to find a new job. She now has one but every job has a trial period and you don't find out until 3 months if you get kept on.
*Also at my work some people had contracts halved or it was simply let go mine is safe for now they say
*Also worried about being 27 pressure of marriage if you have been in a long term marriage. I have to save and that's hard with a house just to afford that in the future.
*Perhaps not seeing friends as much meaning social life or more time in but I guess this has to happen to a degree as you get older. I try and make new friends but it's not a instant fix.
*Worries I maybe have to move house now or future I sit googling houses as I got that habbit house hunting for 2 years anyway..I know it's not helpful now only been here in this new house six months rushed up saving all in a year as previously I never saved money.
Coupes of forum members probably read about these issues in my other thread and it's just worrying me as my job is at risk and mortgage if I don't work. Perhaps general worries and not so much trivial ones I had at say maybe 21 not 27.
So yes perhaps others have had to be like me and do this stuff some of its travail but my anxiety is bad and I feel all tense and panicky or just depressed am saying it will get better again but I get anxiety about anxiety in a sense of more problems come or I have no idea how long this challenging spell can last. Possibly a tough year but I am coping and just trying to focus on doing a good job at work.
So basically just lots of worries and in the space of 4 months it's not been ideal for my anxiety. Anybody got any sort of advice as I'm hoping to get over this blip quickly and get back to working hard. Can't afford holidays or concerts now either so I'm findings a low wage I can only do well little much as I need to save? :blush:
Perhaps nothing to worry about but I'm anxiety prone and half of the worry comes with "what next" "what happens next" and "will it improve soon" these anxiety questions? And perhaps I have done too much home improvements so perhaps this has not been ideal ? Spent loads buying last year to get the house good, spent even more like hundreds possibly more (small ammount OCD) mostly just personal taste the rest. I have had to have it walk in condition for me, and now there's more stuff I want and I now can't afford to :/ I have to have it perfect as me and my girlfiend had people or family say you usually have to start with nothing so I've had to work 50-60 hours a week last year but now I do 24 a week. I mean working that hard as I had to save a few grand in a year as stuff for too much living with parents and renting actually is even more money. But this is partly why as people previously said I couldn't manage or not with anxiety so it pushed me to try harder. So just need some help to sort of keep working hard and stop being anxious or deal with this blip?
Also to add people may wonder why I can't replace the OCD with something else once anxiety isn't there I can't apply myself to a hobby or anything so sometimes I let the OCD sort of rule to keep that anxiety low..not ideal but anxiety sometimes has to be about managing it. I find distraction very tough when my anxiety is say 9/10 or 10/10 now as I sit and worry. So I don't seek more help for OCD or anxiety because just saying anxiety can tigger it I try and live as anxiety free a life as possible. And with some OCD people just putting up with it anxiety levels with OCD are only 5/10. Perhaps people can maybe offer more advice on that too? My anxiety is that bad now I would now be trying to watch a film as it gets so bad I flick through the tv and avoid any triggers for anxiety. So i worry maybe I tried too hard with the house so I need to now maybe relax and appetite the house.