Candyknitter
17-06-16, 19:58
I haven't posted in a long time but last night I was very bad and I need somewhere I can talk. I'm not on meds at the moment because I hate how I feel on them.
I've been stressed the last two weeks with builders doing work in the garden, we recently moved into my husbands old family home and I don't like it but I haven't told him. I thought a few days away would help but last night was only our second night away and I went into melt down. We had just got back to our room and although I could feel myself freaking inside all day I hadn't said anything. I started crying and shaking, told him I wasn't coping, and ended up being in the loo until 2am with vomiting and the diarrhoea.
We were meant to be away until tomorrow night but I told him I HAD to come home because I feel "safe" in my bed.
Well I'm home now but I just don't know how I can keep going on like this. I want to be better and STAY better permanently. I'm 43 and have 3 kids - when will I feel like a wise responsible adult full of sage advice? I feel more like a babbling neurotic burden. I love my kids and they love me but they notice sometimes I "zone out". I don't tell them I have depression and anxiety because my mum had it and I hated it. I don't want that "label"
My 2 younger kids (teens) are already showing signs of anxiety and I feel it's my fault, my genes that have done this. My husband is great but he doesn't understand. When I tell him my thoughts run away with me and make me imagine worst case scenarios, he tells me not to let them! I love him but I am a massive strain on him and he even gets bloodshot eyes when I'm down as it sends his blood pressure up.
The person I would always call when bad and who calmed me down was my mum, but she died 5 years ago and I just can't fill that void. I still cry so much and try to imagine what she would say to reassure me but I just need her so much. I can't cope! What on earth happens to people like me?
I've been stressed the last two weeks with builders doing work in the garden, we recently moved into my husbands old family home and I don't like it but I haven't told him. I thought a few days away would help but last night was only our second night away and I went into melt down. We had just got back to our room and although I could feel myself freaking inside all day I hadn't said anything. I started crying and shaking, told him I wasn't coping, and ended up being in the loo until 2am with vomiting and the diarrhoea.
We were meant to be away until tomorrow night but I told him I HAD to come home because I feel "safe" in my bed.
Well I'm home now but I just don't know how I can keep going on like this. I want to be better and STAY better permanently. I'm 43 and have 3 kids - when will I feel like a wise responsible adult full of sage advice? I feel more like a babbling neurotic burden. I love my kids and they love me but they notice sometimes I "zone out". I don't tell them I have depression and anxiety because my mum had it and I hated it. I don't want that "label"
My 2 younger kids (teens) are already showing signs of anxiety and I feel it's my fault, my genes that have done this. My husband is great but he doesn't understand. When I tell him my thoughts run away with me and make me imagine worst case scenarios, he tells me not to let them! I love him but I am a massive strain on him and he even gets bloodshot eyes when I'm down as it sends his blood pressure up.
The person I would always call when bad and who calmed me down was my mum, but she died 5 years ago and I just can't fill that void. I still cry so much and try to imagine what she would say to reassure me but I just need her so much. I can't cope! What on earth happens to people like me?