Munki
27-07-16, 18:06
This is an ongoing anxiety. I've posted before.
So I used to have a crazy social life, I was a party girl who went out loads with a circle of friends. As I've got older I've realised that I enjoy my own time and am quite a loner. I'm happily married with my 2 cats and a dog and my hubby is my best friend.
Don't get me wrong, I do have friends. I also have a large number of acquaintances. However, we don't do a lot with friends nowadays and we're fairly happy. We go for dinner with friends now and again and visit friends in different cities.
I've always been the sort of person that can hold an audience and when I'm out I seem to attract people (not in a sexual way). My mum has the same trait. The problem is that see Facebook and hear people talking about friends friends, friends all the time and I feel completely inferior; like I should be doing more and getting out with girlfriends more often. If I see a group of friends, I always get a dip in my mood. I truly don't understand why.
Another issue is that I'm breaking away from a couple of friends who I feel have been a negative influence but am equally feeling that I should stick around as I 'need to keep my circle of friends up'. My best friend lives in London so I don't get to see her very often.
Recently, my hubby has been talking about having a barbecue and I just feel like I can't invite anyone. He has quite a few friends and I'm good friends with the girlfriends but it just feels so co-dependant and I hate for it to look like I'm unpopular.
This is really plagueing me right now. My hubby doesn't bother with friendships much as he likes just doing stuff with me which is lovely. But it seems like he 'can' say that, I feel like a billy no mates even though it's not the case. I know I could call a number of people to go out for a drink at any point.
What's wrong with me? Why do I feel so horribly abnormal?
I really need some help with this. It may sound trivial but it eats away at me and makes me feel awful.
:weep:
So I used to have a crazy social life, I was a party girl who went out loads with a circle of friends. As I've got older I've realised that I enjoy my own time and am quite a loner. I'm happily married with my 2 cats and a dog and my hubby is my best friend.
Don't get me wrong, I do have friends. I also have a large number of acquaintances. However, we don't do a lot with friends nowadays and we're fairly happy. We go for dinner with friends now and again and visit friends in different cities.
I've always been the sort of person that can hold an audience and when I'm out I seem to attract people (not in a sexual way). My mum has the same trait. The problem is that see Facebook and hear people talking about friends friends, friends all the time and I feel completely inferior; like I should be doing more and getting out with girlfriends more often. If I see a group of friends, I always get a dip in my mood. I truly don't understand why.
Another issue is that I'm breaking away from a couple of friends who I feel have been a negative influence but am equally feeling that I should stick around as I 'need to keep my circle of friends up'. My best friend lives in London so I don't get to see her very often.
Recently, my hubby has been talking about having a barbecue and I just feel like I can't invite anyone. He has quite a few friends and I'm good friends with the girlfriends but it just feels so co-dependant and I hate for it to look like I'm unpopular.
This is really plagueing me right now. My hubby doesn't bother with friendships much as he likes just doing stuff with me which is lovely. But it seems like he 'can' say that, I feel like a billy no mates even though it's not the case. I know I could call a number of people to go out for a drink at any point.
What's wrong with me? Why do I feel so horribly abnormal?
I really need some help with this. It may sound trivial but it eats away at me and makes me feel awful.
:weep: