Anathema
03-08-16, 05:39
I have a good friend I message daily, and sometimes call for long periods of time.
Everytime we talk (usually about writing or just our days in general, or similar feelings of depression or anxiety, sometimes serious moral conversations, really anything), I am self-conscious that my messaging is annoying him, even when he messages first or is responding with multi-paragraph additions to the conversatio,.
Sometimes I lose track of time, and we message back and forth all day, and I apologize for doing so, and sometimes if we've been talking for a while and I notice, I ask if he would rather be left alone, whatever...
He always responds with something alone the lines of, "Sorry? No, don't be," and assures me he loves speaking to me, has said I could never be an annoyance to him, and that I'm genuinely his favorite person to speak with, that he greatly appreciates and looks forward to hearing from me, and promised that he meant it and wasn't just saying that to be nice. If I don't message for a couple days out of being self-conscious, he usually asks me if I'm okay and seems upset.
But like...it isn't sinking in. I don't know. We get along so well, but I'm convinced I'm just being humored and that I'm a nuisance to him. And he has done more than enough to assure me otherwise. I can't ask for reassurance because that actually WOULD be annoying, and it's unrealistic to expect that. How can I make this click?
Everytime we talk (usually about writing or just our days in general, or similar feelings of depression or anxiety, sometimes serious moral conversations, really anything), I am self-conscious that my messaging is annoying him, even when he messages first or is responding with multi-paragraph additions to the conversatio,.
Sometimes I lose track of time, and we message back and forth all day, and I apologize for doing so, and sometimes if we've been talking for a while and I notice, I ask if he would rather be left alone, whatever...
He always responds with something alone the lines of, "Sorry? No, don't be," and assures me he loves speaking to me, has said I could never be an annoyance to him, and that I'm genuinely his favorite person to speak with, that he greatly appreciates and looks forward to hearing from me, and promised that he meant it and wasn't just saying that to be nice. If I don't message for a couple days out of being self-conscious, he usually asks me if I'm okay and seems upset.
But like...it isn't sinking in. I don't know. We get along so well, but I'm convinced I'm just being humored and that I'm a nuisance to him. And he has done more than enough to assure me otherwise. I can't ask for reassurance because that actually WOULD be annoying, and it's unrealistic to expect that. How can I make this click?