wheretobegin
17-08-16, 19:44
Hi all,
I'm new to the forum, so apologies if I'm posting this in the wrong section. I'm posting here in the hope that someone else may have experienced a similar situation and be able to offer some advice?
Basically I'm considering leaving my job because every day is a struggle, not because of the actual work, but because there are certain colleagues who's presence cause me to feel extremely anxious and annoyed. I have mild social anxiety so don't talk much at work, and prefer to concentrate and get my head down whilst there rather than sit and chat all day.
Unfortunately, two colleagues in particular seem to spend the majority of their day talking/laughing at full volume. This causes me to feel really anxious to the point where I have actually moved seats to get away from the situation. However, this hasn't helped as I can still hear them, and I can't stop "focussing in" in their conversations in my mind despite as much as I would like to just block them out altogether.
No-one else at work seems to be affected at all by them and can happily sit their getting along with their work, which has convinced me that the reason I am affected must be a symptom of my anxiety. I have always put off by loud overconfident personalities as I'm fairly introverted.
It's reached the stage now where even the sight of one of the colleagues makes me feel anxious, and I have started visibily reacting when they are shouting/laughing at full volume, sighing realy loudly, muttering "shut up" or just walking off in anger which is drawing the attention of my other colleagues.
Maybe I'm just an irritable person and this has nothing to do with my social anxiety. But either way I know I literally can't carry on as it is. Every day is a struggle and it's affecting my life outside of work as I come home every day in a terrible mood. I'm worried that if it carries on I'll start to become depressed. The problem is, I'm worried that if I leave this job, I'll end up in another in exactly the same situation.
Has anyone ever experienced anything similar at work? I'd really appreciate any advice possible as I'm at my wits ends and don't know what to do. Hopefully posting here will at least get it off my chest for a bit!
Thanks for reading :)
I'm new to the forum, so apologies if I'm posting this in the wrong section. I'm posting here in the hope that someone else may have experienced a similar situation and be able to offer some advice?
Basically I'm considering leaving my job because every day is a struggle, not because of the actual work, but because there are certain colleagues who's presence cause me to feel extremely anxious and annoyed. I have mild social anxiety so don't talk much at work, and prefer to concentrate and get my head down whilst there rather than sit and chat all day.
Unfortunately, two colleagues in particular seem to spend the majority of their day talking/laughing at full volume. This causes me to feel really anxious to the point where I have actually moved seats to get away from the situation. However, this hasn't helped as I can still hear them, and I can't stop "focussing in" in their conversations in my mind despite as much as I would like to just block them out altogether.
No-one else at work seems to be affected at all by them and can happily sit their getting along with their work, which has convinced me that the reason I am affected must be a symptom of my anxiety. I have always put off by loud overconfident personalities as I'm fairly introverted.
It's reached the stage now where even the sight of one of the colleagues makes me feel anxious, and I have started visibily reacting when they are shouting/laughing at full volume, sighing realy loudly, muttering "shut up" or just walking off in anger which is drawing the attention of my other colleagues.
Maybe I'm just an irritable person and this has nothing to do with my social anxiety. But either way I know I literally can't carry on as it is. Every day is a struggle and it's affecting my life outside of work as I come home every day in a terrible mood. I'm worried that if it carries on I'll start to become depressed. The problem is, I'm worried that if I leave this job, I'll end up in another in exactly the same situation.
Has anyone ever experienced anything similar at work? I'd really appreciate any advice possible as I'm at my wits ends and don't know what to do. Hopefully posting here will at least get it off my chest for a bit!
Thanks for reading :)