gypcyg
18-08-16, 23:28
Some background info:
I am 47 and have had Social Anxiety since my teens. It has lessened as I have gotten older or perhaps I have just learnt to deal with it better.
I have always had a low opinion of myself - although I've always been popular, I always thought that people would "see through me", so I've always kept people at arms length.
I got married 10 years ago but we split 5 years ago (although we tried again 2 years ago). She refuses to sign the divorce papers - she keeps asking for money and more money (we had no children), I have given her thousands but refuse to give her any more. She was violent and controlling, and is very unpredictable, so I keep away from her - our only contact is through Email.
She contacted me 2 weeks ago (after 18 months of silence) asking for money, then emailed a long list of why I'm a nasty person when I refused. I'm not too uspet about this as I was already resigned to having to wait 5 years for the divorce to happen.
My mum died 5 months ago. We never really got on. When I was 11, her dad died (my Granddad) and she blamed me - she said I had broken his heart (because I had stopped going to see him on my way home from school). I had buried this memory but it came to the fore when talking to a cousin in the pub a few years ago. I put this down as the event that made me hate myself. It was also the reason I could never get on with my mum.
I still haven't cried at my mum's passing - to be honest, it hasn't really made me feel sad (I am unsure if I am just blocking the emotions from surfacing, or if I just don't care - we weren't very close and she constantly criticised everything and everyone).
After I split with my wife, I have had 2 lovers. Both started as "friends with benefits" but I ended the relationships when the women wanted more from me. I don't feel like I want a long-term partner again. In fact my suicidal thoughts have returned. I seek the release of death! I've gotten to the point where I feel I have experienced everything I should've and now there is nothing left to live for. I know there is more happening because my blushing has returned (although it is much less now) and the shaking has begun to appear when I'm in situations where I feel nervous.
My job is usually stress free so why have these things started to recur? I'm not sure if I want answers or if I just wanted to write some of this down - I don't talk to anyone about my feelings - never have (well only to anonymous strangers on the internet).
I am 47 and have had Social Anxiety since my teens. It has lessened as I have gotten older or perhaps I have just learnt to deal with it better.
I have always had a low opinion of myself - although I've always been popular, I always thought that people would "see through me", so I've always kept people at arms length.
I got married 10 years ago but we split 5 years ago (although we tried again 2 years ago). She refuses to sign the divorce papers - she keeps asking for money and more money (we had no children), I have given her thousands but refuse to give her any more. She was violent and controlling, and is very unpredictable, so I keep away from her - our only contact is through Email.
She contacted me 2 weeks ago (after 18 months of silence) asking for money, then emailed a long list of why I'm a nasty person when I refused. I'm not too uspet about this as I was already resigned to having to wait 5 years for the divorce to happen.
My mum died 5 months ago. We never really got on. When I was 11, her dad died (my Granddad) and she blamed me - she said I had broken his heart (because I had stopped going to see him on my way home from school). I had buried this memory but it came to the fore when talking to a cousin in the pub a few years ago. I put this down as the event that made me hate myself. It was also the reason I could never get on with my mum.
I still haven't cried at my mum's passing - to be honest, it hasn't really made me feel sad (I am unsure if I am just blocking the emotions from surfacing, or if I just don't care - we weren't very close and she constantly criticised everything and everyone).
After I split with my wife, I have had 2 lovers. Both started as "friends with benefits" but I ended the relationships when the women wanted more from me. I don't feel like I want a long-term partner again. In fact my suicidal thoughts have returned. I seek the release of death! I've gotten to the point where I feel I have experienced everything I should've and now there is nothing left to live for. I know there is more happening because my blushing has returned (although it is much less now) and the shaking has begun to appear when I'm in situations where I feel nervous.
My job is usually stress free so why have these things started to recur? I'm not sure if I want answers or if I just wanted to write some of this down - I don't talk to anyone about my feelings - never have (well only to anonymous strangers on the internet).