Namoi
08-09-16, 05:56
Hello, just needed somewhere to write this out.
Me and my brother have been living in this house for over 20 years, looking after my mother who is heavily physically disabled. She's also had Alzheimer's for a while, but we didn't really know/know how bad it was getting until towards the end of last year when it progressed rapidly to a point where she wouldn't let anyone look after her. She doesn't know who we are anymore and she has gone into a home because we couldn't provide the care she needed.
This in itself has been distressing enough but we've been unsure what's going to happen with our home. It is a council house and we've been trying to take over the tenancy, but after a few months of trying we've been rejected today. Half expected it but hoped otherwise, as it has an extra bedroom, and they questioned over whether we'd be able to pay the bedroom tax and things.
I'm in pieces over it to be honest. This is my home, and with everything else going on right now losing it is just another thing thrown on top of the pile.
We've been accepted for another house already, after being asked to make ourselves available in case it was a rejection - but it's very much out of the way and it's supposedly not in the best of areas. The thought of moving makes me feel sick. I suffered with agoraphobia on and off over the years as a part of my anxiety - moving is a big deal, forcefully moving in a small timeframe is a complete nightmare. I'm stressing over every little detail, will it be a rough neighbourhood, how will I manage this and that. I feel so upset.
Has anyone been through similar which would have any advice?
Me and my brother have been living in this house for over 20 years, looking after my mother who is heavily physically disabled. She's also had Alzheimer's for a while, but we didn't really know/know how bad it was getting until towards the end of last year when it progressed rapidly to a point where she wouldn't let anyone look after her. She doesn't know who we are anymore and she has gone into a home because we couldn't provide the care she needed.
This in itself has been distressing enough but we've been unsure what's going to happen with our home. It is a council house and we've been trying to take over the tenancy, but after a few months of trying we've been rejected today. Half expected it but hoped otherwise, as it has an extra bedroom, and they questioned over whether we'd be able to pay the bedroom tax and things.
I'm in pieces over it to be honest. This is my home, and with everything else going on right now losing it is just another thing thrown on top of the pile.
We've been accepted for another house already, after being asked to make ourselves available in case it was a rejection - but it's very much out of the way and it's supposedly not in the best of areas. The thought of moving makes me feel sick. I suffered with agoraphobia on and off over the years as a part of my anxiety - moving is a big deal, forcefully moving in a small timeframe is a complete nightmare. I'm stressing over every little detail, will it be a rough neighbourhood, how will I manage this and that. I feel so upset.
Has anyone been through similar which would have any advice?