Any tips to relax?

[lil-bubble]

Hi Everyone,

Today is the first day in the last 7 that I find myself feeling a little more human, still agitated but more with it and less weepy , but as much as i want to do something, i keep finding myself wandering around the house aimlessly, there's lots around the house I should be doing but I'm too restless to settle to any particular thing and it's becoming quite frustrating !

I did manage to go to supermarket and around 50 mins, in my usual indecisive state, picking up a new adult colouring book (ridiculous given there was only 8 to actually pick from :shrug:) but now have no concentration to get into it.

1) Could this be due to meds I starts last week ? (fluoxetine & diazepam)

2) if anyone else finds themselves like this, What do you do to try and relax?

xx

[mezzaninedoor]

i often find that I can't relax, often its an inability to make a decision regards what to do to relax and what book to read etc etc
For some reason I find decision making torturous and I just cant decide what to do.

I tried creating a wish list and going through it but that didnt work. I have taken to engaging in some mindfulness first and then for a short while im a little more relaxed, not for long ........ then I cycle round different things

Meds can make a difference in the early days but after 7-10 days things should settle

I find that the best I can hope for is to find some short things to relax me, a short story, a short TV show or comic book or something

[Carnation]

Drawing, gardening, singing, listening to music, playing an instrument, playing with a pet, walking a dog, swimming, walking, yoga, meditation, reading, riding a bike, massage, knitting or craft, writing a letter or poetry, bubble bath, foot-soak, watching a good movie, looking at photos, baking a cake, eating cake and camomile tea. :)

[jerryperry]

Everywhere, nowadays, people are complaining of feeling stressed and burnt-out with all the demands of work, family, and even studies. The phrase “so little time, so much to do”, is becoming truer. The psychological stress manifests itself in various ways, through the lowering of a person's resistance to sickness, through the cramping of muscles, or through an unpleasant change in one's mood. Because of this, people now have a greater demand for a way to escape the toxicity of their lifestyle and find a place of escape where they can just relax and enjoy even for just awhile.

The truth is one does not need to go far just to be able to relax and have an enjoyable time. Even with just a simple stretching exercise, a basic yoga session, or a beginner's dance lesson will do as a relaxation and fun activity. If places where these activities can be done are hard to find within one's area or town, there are available demonstration VCDs and DVDs which are already for sale or for rent in stores and shopping malls.

For additional guidelines on how to maximize the relaxation and enjoyment with the suggested activities, below is a list of to-do things that should not be missed.

Find a companion – It is always better to do certain activities with a partner or some friends. Especially when the activity to be undertaken will only be done for the first time, it is less worrying or awkward to discover a new experience with someone familiar. However, in case a person chooses to be alone in doing this, it should still be kept in mind to stay open for the possibility of meeting new friends. A friendly and easy attitude should be kept from the very start. Do not let the pressure or stress overcome in the situation of being alone. Be open, take it easy, and try to meet new friends.

Make the most of the experience – Learn as much as possible from the activity. Do whatever that is required even if it feels uncomfortable doing it the first time. Do not fret too much over the mistakes or inadequacies; remember that the goal of this activity is for a person to be able to relax. This is the time to learn how to laugh at one's own mistakes and strive to be better, however, not in a pressured or struggling way. Leave all that are negative behind, especially before going to the activity. This is supposed to be an escape, thus, do not let the negativities find its way through. Simply give it your best.

Take a certain caution – Despite giving it your best and making the most out of it, those are still different from really overdoing it. The suggested activities are obviously those that require a certain level of effort, however, not to the point that one's body will experience over-exertion and suffer from muscle injuries. Just in case, it is necessary to bring emergency medications such as topical ointments or muscle relaxants such as Carisoprodol for anything untoward that might happen. Sometimes, accidents do really happen despite taking a certain level of caution. It is still better to be ready for the just-in-case events rather than be left unprepared during emergency situations.

These three pointers should be enough guidelines to further make the most out of the escape plan, no matter how brief or how near it may be. Opting for a costly one is one option for those who are capable of handling the expenses. However, for those who are still in a limited budget or limited time, the suggestions above are the most appropriate activities to get into.

[SLA]

Hi Everyone,

Today is the first day in the last 7 that I find myself feeling a little more human, still agitated but more with it and less weepy , but as much as i want to do something, i keep finding myself wandering around the house aimlessly, there's lots around the house I should be doing but I'm too restless to settle to any particular thing and it's becoming quite frustrating !

I did manage to go to supermarket and around 50 mins, in my usual indecisive state, picking up a new adult colouring book (ridiculous given there was only 8 to actually pick from :shrug:) but now have no concentration to get into it.

1) Could this be due to meds I starts last week ? (fluoxetine & diazepam)

2) if anyone else finds themselves like this, What do you do to try and relax?

xx

Concentration is something to be trained. But ultimately, colouring in shouldn't require much concentration. It should be relaxing, and therapeutic.

Sometimes, you just have to push on and force yourself to make a start.

The brain loves to put things off, but it loves to achieve things even more. So break down the barriers, and start colouring!

[mezzaninedoor]

SLA,
Im at work full time and one thing i find really hard to keep up is concentration, i find that my woolly head and anxiety/mania means that I flit in and out of concentration.
You say concentration can be trained, but how would you propose?

Tony

[MyNameIsTerry]

SLA,
Im at work full time and one thing i find really hard to keep up is concentration, i find that my woolly head and anxiety/mania means that I flit in and out of concentration.
You say concentration can be trained, but how would you propose?

Tony

How about using your Mindfulness for this to ground you when you wander? Perhaps using an object do it brings in your senses?

[mezzaninedoor]

No thats fair comment.
I do often fail miserably to do things mindfully outside of meditation, I should try harder with that.

I do walk mindfully though, taking in the autumn colours at the moment, the last vestiges of the autumn colours now I guess.

[TheChangingMan]

I Work up to 50hrs a week.. and there is two things that are essential to my relaxation...

Bathing and Music!

Also i like candles (27 year old male here LOL) But nevermind whatever helps is the key!

TCMx

[mezzaninedoor]

A bath can be a wonderful thing, 52 year old male here ;)

However I often will always shower because its so much quicker, need to slow down and take more baths. I used to love a long soak with music, essential oils and a book.


Another good way to relax is a like to play boardgames but often theres just not enough people about who want to play them with me.