lilac kitten
14-10-04, 13:55
My therapist leaves today to go and work with cancer patients. He's been excellent to me over the years and today I was given the option to continue or be discharged - with the option of course that I can be rereferred if I need to be.
He says I have now hit a brick wall where I need to sort my home life out with my partner who has a drink problem, is selfish, lies, and relies on mental abuse to manipulate me. He says he knows its scary and has given me lots of numbers for support groups to get the ball rolling, and told me to start to try and build up a small network of very good friends so I am strong and will not feel alone.
I can talk the talk, but I need the confidence and strength to walk the walk. If my partner isn't going to change - I need to. It will be hard with two young kids and babysitters are in short supply, but where there is a will theres a way.
I'll keep you posted as to how I get on, and will obviously need to come here for support (and cheering up), but I can and will do this for me and the kids. I have and own my own house, and I work so apart from my responsibilities as a mother there's no reason no to start the ball rolling slowly and make a few changes. I will give my partner chance to change as I change, but if he doesn't he will have to make the decision to be part of a great family unit, or talk/slur to a can/pint of lager all the time.
Ruth
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He says I have now hit a brick wall where I need to sort my home life out with my partner who has a drink problem, is selfish, lies, and relies on mental abuse to manipulate me. He says he knows its scary and has given me lots of numbers for support groups to get the ball rolling, and told me to start to try and build up a small network of very good friends so I am strong and will not feel alone.
I can talk the talk, but I need the confidence and strength to walk the walk. If my partner isn't going to change - I need to. It will be hard with two young kids and babysitters are in short supply, but where there is a will theres a way.
I'll keep you posted as to how I get on, and will obviously need to come here for support (and cheering up), but I can and will do this for me and the kids. I have and own my own house, and I work so apart from my responsibilities as a mother there's no reason no to start the ball rolling slowly and make a few changes. I will give my partner chance to change as I change, but if he doesn't he will have to make the decision to be part of a great family unit, or talk/slur to a can/pint of lager all the time.
Ruth
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