wecandoit
02-04-07, 17:32
Hello everyone, I'm here to ask for some advice.
Around 18 months ago, I was living abroad and I met a girl online. We instantly fell for each other and have emailed and talked on the phone almost every day since. She's amazing and has helped me through some really tough times - I feel more connected to her than anybody and we really love each other. She had a tough time last year, came through a traumatic famaily bereavement and in doing so lost a lot of confidence. Since then she's built her life back together and come through depression. I'm so proud of her and she's my inspiration.
Our only problem is meeting each other. I have to say I've been pushing for this since virtually the day we started talking. I wanted to help her through rough times and be with her. She wanted to leave it until she'd overcome her grief and depression as she wanted us to have the chance of a 'happier' relationship. I have found this very difficult at times, and at one point tried to move on with somebody else as I was afraid we'd never get to meet. But we always found our way back to each other, and I know she's the one for me.
She's scared she won't live up to my expectations of her and panics everytime we try to arrange meeting. She's so scared we'll lose what we have, we both know our dynamic might change a bit and can accept that, but she's scared she'll be awkward and act odd in front of me. We've discussed social anxiety disorder and she says she does have some of the symptoms - she's often shy and nervous around new people, and does experience general anxiety.
Can anyone advice how we can go about meeting each other? Its something we both want to do, and want to sort it out as we both miss each other so much and just want to be together. I'll see if she wants to post on this thread too, to give a balanced side of the story.
Any advice or success stories would be fantastic!
Thank you.
Around 18 months ago, I was living abroad and I met a girl online. We instantly fell for each other and have emailed and talked on the phone almost every day since. She's amazing and has helped me through some really tough times - I feel more connected to her than anybody and we really love each other. She had a tough time last year, came through a traumatic famaily bereavement and in doing so lost a lot of confidence. Since then she's built her life back together and come through depression. I'm so proud of her and she's my inspiration.
Our only problem is meeting each other. I have to say I've been pushing for this since virtually the day we started talking. I wanted to help her through rough times and be with her. She wanted to leave it until she'd overcome her grief and depression as she wanted us to have the chance of a 'happier' relationship. I have found this very difficult at times, and at one point tried to move on with somebody else as I was afraid we'd never get to meet. But we always found our way back to each other, and I know she's the one for me.
She's scared she won't live up to my expectations of her and panics everytime we try to arrange meeting. She's so scared we'll lose what we have, we both know our dynamic might change a bit and can accept that, but she's scared she'll be awkward and act odd in front of me. We've discussed social anxiety disorder and she says she does have some of the symptoms - she's often shy and nervous around new people, and does experience general anxiety.
Can anyone advice how we can go about meeting each other? Its something we both want to do, and want to sort it out as we both miss each other so much and just want to be together. I'll see if she wants to post on this thread too, to give a balanced side of the story.
Any advice or success stories would be fantastic!
Thank you.