lonely427
14-11-16, 21:06
I'm 45 and have been married to my spouse for 3 years. We have known each other for 8 years. My husband has anxiety, social anxiety and panic attacks. I knew this when we were dating, but he tried to be more outgoing for me and my two kids. Now that we are married and dealing with every day life, I get lonely.
I understand more and more what he is going through and he helps out with the kids, but mostly it is me getting them to where they need to go. If their schedules overlap, I am looking for friends or my parents to help before I ask him. He loves my kids and will help out after having a moment of panic, but I hate to ask and send him into a panic attack.
I am a fixer and always want him to be happy and comfortable. I am lonely. I make sure his needs are met, but what about mine? I'm tired of crying myself to sleep or feeling all alone. Physical touch, going out, meeting people has to be on his terms. I just need a hug sometime but am afraid to ask, for it might set him off. I have friends, but can't have them over in large groups. He has very few friends and I know it is hard for him to make new ones.
I am wanting counseling for myself. I'm not sure how he would take it.
Just don't know where to start.
I understand more and more what he is going through and he helps out with the kids, but mostly it is me getting them to where they need to go. If their schedules overlap, I am looking for friends or my parents to help before I ask him. He loves my kids and will help out after having a moment of panic, but I hate to ask and send him into a panic attack.
I am a fixer and always want him to be happy and comfortable. I am lonely. I make sure his needs are met, but what about mine? I'm tired of crying myself to sleep or feeling all alone. Physical touch, going out, meeting people has to be on his terms. I just need a hug sometime but am afraid to ask, for it might set him off. I have friends, but can't have them over in large groups. He has very few friends and I know it is hard for him to make new ones.
I am wanting counseling for myself. I'm not sure how he would take it.
Just don't know where to start.