Sylver1975
02-12-16, 10:51
My Mother-in-Law is very ill in hospital, my OH is an only child so he's struggling with it all. She's 92 and has dementia and is in hospital with respiratory sepsis. She has responded to treatment and improved a little but realistically with her age and the fact that she's losing her ability to swallow because of the dementia, the long term prognosis isn't good.
I've been doing my best to support my OH, trying to be the strong one. He's not been into work all week, has been spending all of his time at her bedside. I've been going into work and then travelling the 40 miles to the hospital afterwards, though I took a night off last night. I've had panic attacks each morning I've woke and today feel really unwell, nauseous and dry retching. I know it's all from stress but I daren't tell my OH because he has enough on his plate.
I know that ultimately what he's going through is far worse than what I'm experiencing so I have to suck it up and be there for him but it's getting harder by the day. I'm not focusing too well at work either, just so tired.
I've often wished there was a fast-forward button we could press on life, I think the worst part about my MIL being so ill is the waiting and not knowing what the future will bring.
I've been doing my best to support my OH, trying to be the strong one. He's not been into work all week, has been spending all of his time at her bedside. I've been going into work and then travelling the 40 miles to the hospital afterwards, though I took a night off last night. I've had panic attacks each morning I've woke and today feel really unwell, nauseous and dry retching. I know it's all from stress but I daren't tell my OH because he has enough on his plate.
I know that ultimately what he's going through is far worse than what I'm experiencing so I have to suck it up and be there for him but it's getting harder by the day. I'm not focusing too well at work either, just so tired.
I've often wished there was a fast-forward button we could press on life, I think the worst part about my MIL being so ill is the waiting and not knowing what the future will bring.