Roosterruby
04-12-16, 00:58
Hi, there!
I've gotten myself into quite the problem because of my social anxiety. My ex (and best friend) has a good friend of theirs visiting and I was given the opportunity to meet her! I met her (lets call her Sarah for the sake of the story, and let's call my partner Hayden.) and we had a good time two nights in a row. One of the nights, my social anxiety and IBS made the situation really uncomfortable for me and I had to leave early, but other than that, things have gone smoothly between me and Sarah and Hayden.
So the issue is: Today we went out to eat all together and had a great time. Then, I decided to go home and they went to a nearby thrift store. A couple hours later, Hayden messages me saying that they are on the way to my house with Sarah (because they have bought something for me at the thrift store)! I am terrified because my house smells (my roommates are messy!!!) and I look unseemly, and there are clothes to be folded laying on my bed! I call Hayden in a panic and ask for Sarah not to come over because of this (I apologize profusely to both of them, because they are already at the bus stop closest to my house!). Hayden says it's okay and they take the bus back to Hayden's house.
A few minutes later, I message Hayden saying I am really apologetic and would love to buy them a pizza or something to make up for my bad behavior. I also state how bad I feel because they bought me a gift and I wouldn't even let them come in!
SO- In short, I feel like both Hayden and Sarah think I'm absolutely crazy and unlikeable and that I have alienated both of them. What do you all think of my situation? Has anybody else done something similar because of their social anxiety? Would love to get some support, stories of similar things happening. I feel so unlikeable and alone.
Thank you, everybody! This site truly is a Godsend for me!
:hugs:
I've gotten myself into quite the problem because of my social anxiety. My ex (and best friend) has a good friend of theirs visiting and I was given the opportunity to meet her! I met her (lets call her Sarah for the sake of the story, and let's call my partner Hayden.) and we had a good time two nights in a row. One of the nights, my social anxiety and IBS made the situation really uncomfortable for me and I had to leave early, but other than that, things have gone smoothly between me and Sarah and Hayden.
So the issue is: Today we went out to eat all together and had a great time. Then, I decided to go home and they went to a nearby thrift store. A couple hours later, Hayden messages me saying that they are on the way to my house with Sarah (because they have bought something for me at the thrift store)! I am terrified because my house smells (my roommates are messy!!!) and I look unseemly, and there are clothes to be folded laying on my bed! I call Hayden in a panic and ask for Sarah not to come over because of this (I apologize profusely to both of them, because they are already at the bus stop closest to my house!). Hayden says it's okay and they take the bus back to Hayden's house.
A few minutes later, I message Hayden saying I am really apologetic and would love to buy them a pizza or something to make up for my bad behavior. I also state how bad I feel because they bought me a gift and I wouldn't even let them come in!
SO- In short, I feel like both Hayden and Sarah think I'm absolutely crazy and unlikeable and that I have alienated both of them. What do you all think of my situation? Has anybody else done something similar because of their social anxiety? Would love to get some support, stories of similar things happening. I feel so unlikeable and alone.
Thank you, everybody! This site truly is a Godsend for me!
:hugs: