danj
16-12-16, 12:16
Hi Everyone
It's been years since I posted to this forum but found it supportive in years gone bye...
I've been married (second time) for four years. My wife has decided she wants an open relationship and has now essentially 'taken' it i.e. is dating other men.
She says she loves me but needs this for her own development/life/spirituality/pleasure etc. She's now brick walled me and won't listen to my needs and I'm now for the past week in a state of panic, waking up with fear through my body and feeling that way through the day.
Despite the above I'm terrified of losing her so and worried that if I split up with her my panic will get worse.
This is also at a time where I have recently finished a work contract (IT) and don't feel up to getting another one which also terrifies me as I'm worried about paying the bills. I can probably survive 3/4 months without work.
I have a therapist and even a men's support group I'm in. I've told friends and some family but I don't know what else to do or at least I don't have the motivation to do anything else.
I've been on a basic dose of escitalopram for years and am thinking of upping it.
Other than that I don't know what to do.
I'd love some support from the community here.
Thanks
Dan
It's been years since I posted to this forum but found it supportive in years gone bye...
I've been married (second time) for four years. My wife has decided she wants an open relationship and has now essentially 'taken' it i.e. is dating other men.
She says she loves me but needs this for her own development/life/spirituality/pleasure etc. She's now brick walled me and won't listen to my needs and I'm now for the past week in a state of panic, waking up with fear through my body and feeling that way through the day.
Despite the above I'm terrified of losing her so and worried that if I split up with her my panic will get worse.
This is also at a time where I have recently finished a work contract (IT) and don't feel up to getting another one which also terrifies me as I'm worried about paying the bills. I can probably survive 3/4 months without work.
I have a therapist and even a men's support group I'm in. I've told friends and some family but I don't know what else to do or at least I don't have the motivation to do anything else.
I've been on a basic dose of escitalopram for years and am thinking of upping it.
Other than that I don't know what to do.
I'd love some support from the community here.
Thanks
Dan