sevire
18-01-17, 09:58
I've just found and registered on this site and am already feeling positive.
In my work I have to be able to speak in front of a group of people and often lead meetings and workshops. I have always struggled a bit with this but have managed to deal with it through deep breathing and other techniques and it hasn't been a big deal that I felt I couldn't manage.
In the last few months my problem has deteriorated to the point where I don't feel I am able to control it at the moment. I have had a few situations where I was speaking to a group (in a completely positive environment of people who were interested in what I had to say) where I just completely dried up and had to stop and even leave the room for a few minutes.
Once this had happened, it seems to have lodged in my head and so now I start to dread any situation where I have to speak in front of even a small number of people. This has even happened when having a drink with a couple of my best friends!
For me the symptoms (which I don't feel are unusual) are that when I start to speak, it's like there is a separate identify in my head observing me speaking and telling me (not literally) that I don't know what I am saying. I can't ignore this and just end up drying up, or in some cases, I carry on speaking but am not really sure what I am saying so it comes out as very disjointed without any intonation.
I am determined to beat this and am absolutely sure that what's happened here is negative reinforcement of a single bad experience which has caused it to expand and I am sure that with the appropriate positive reinforcement I will be able to crack it, and it is very helpful to have found a site like this where I can read others' experiences and tips and success stories.
Thanks for reading, if you have been!
Thomas
In my work I have to be able to speak in front of a group of people and often lead meetings and workshops. I have always struggled a bit with this but have managed to deal with it through deep breathing and other techniques and it hasn't been a big deal that I felt I couldn't manage.
In the last few months my problem has deteriorated to the point where I don't feel I am able to control it at the moment. I have had a few situations where I was speaking to a group (in a completely positive environment of people who were interested in what I had to say) where I just completely dried up and had to stop and even leave the room for a few minutes.
Once this had happened, it seems to have lodged in my head and so now I start to dread any situation where I have to speak in front of even a small number of people. This has even happened when having a drink with a couple of my best friends!
For me the symptoms (which I don't feel are unusual) are that when I start to speak, it's like there is a separate identify in my head observing me speaking and telling me (not literally) that I don't know what I am saying. I can't ignore this and just end up drying up, or in some cases, I carry on speaking but am not really sure what I am saying so it comes out as very disjointed without any intonation.
I am determined to beat this and am absolutely sure that what's happened here is negative reinforcement of a single bad experience which has caused it to expand and I am sure that with the appropriate positive reinforcement I will be able to crack it, and it is very helpful to have found a site like this where I can read others' experiences and tips and success stories.
Thanks for reading, if you have been!
Thomas