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Yet again ive done it!im back here i really thought id cracked it this time but ive been sat here in bed panicking after only a few hours sleep.i had a drink on saturday so i needed a drink yesterday morning before going to a family meal at the pub where i just started knocking pints back like they where water.once i was already drunk i decided i was going to the pub to meet some friends and watch the football.i won on a bet so of course that meant i drank even more and no doubt i remember acting an idiot before blackout.my mum came and picked me up from the pub and i dont know whats happened but i had a text saying i owe her a big apology and she wont ever pick me up from the pub again.ive been disturbing my girlfriend all night i feel like a low down failure.im like a broken record i keep coming back to this site for reassurance and i will just fail again in another few weeks because im so weak
Abusing alcohol like this will worsen your anxiety. Even in moderation, any benefit from alcohol it is lost a few hours later when the blood sugars go nuts leading to panic attacks..
I gave up alcohol last Feb after a trip to A&E with a MAJOR panic attack. That was enough for me. I never wanted to feel like that again and the trigger was the 7% beer I'd had a few hours earlier.
All the reassurance in the world won't help you if you don't do something about it. If you can't address the problem yourself, get some help.
Aside from coming on here for reassurance, what have you done to help yourself?
We've all been pissed, well most of us anyway and we - the pissed - have no concept about how annoying we are to everybody else. You're not alone by any means but you need to get this sorted sooner rather than later.
All the best.
Ive tried all different kinds of meds zoloft,paxil,citalopram etc etc but nothing has helped me.ive seen different phsycologists and therapists and dont get anything out of it.im currently on my third month on fluoxitine but thats just something else that isnt going to work.i take mertrazipine at night but its starting making me gain weight so thats just going to make me more socially anxious.i had a severe brain injury about 10 years back and physically made a good recovery learning to walk and talk again but i would rather still be in a wheelchair than be left with this horrible anxiety im just a hermit now and im missing out on my sons life
Ive tried all different kinds of meds zoloft,paxil,citalopram etc etc but nothing has helped me.ive seen different phsycologists and therapists and dont get anything out of it.im currently on my third month on fluoxitine but thats just something else that isnt going to work.i take mertrazipine at night but its starting making me gain weight so thats just going to make me more socially anxious.i had a severe brain injury about 10 years back and physically made a good recovery learning to walk and talk again but i would rather still be in a wheelchair than be left with this horrible anxiety im just a hermit now and im missing out on my sons life
You're not drinking that much alcohol while taking your meds are you?
Firstly, good hear you made a good recovery from your injury. So, you aint weak because it takes guts to get better from anything major like that.
Second, anxiety can be cured or worst case, managed.
Third, I know what you mean about your son. I'm the same so let him be your focus for beating anxiety and you WILL beat it.
Fourth, alcohol (especially excessive) and medication don't go well and can seriously make your anxiety symptoms worse.
You'll get through this. You will.
Hi Mat think you realise you have a problem with drink which is addictive. Meds and drink don't mix so kind of defeats the object of taking them!!! Peer pressure doesn't help either If I was having pint with you ( I can drink sensabily and still have a good time) you wouldn't need to be constantly knocking them back!! it's not a competition to see who is still standing at the end of the night ;) Seriously this is now one day at a time and I am sure you have heard of the AA meetings 12 step programme etc been to a sister group for Gambling run exactly the same way as AA groups but certain words are changed to do with the condition, And most importantly we are here for you :) Cheers
I know that alcohol is making my problems worse in the long run but i still enjoy having that fix for a few hours a week i dont mind spending the next day in bed.i cant work so ive not got responsibilities and my girlfriend doesnt mind seeing to the baby herself for the day(today is one of these)i was allways the biggest drinker out of my mates before my injury and problems started so once im in the pub i childisly want to live up to it after a few drinks and try to prove im still the alpha male like some drunken teenager 'i can drink more than you'thanks for the replies nora and bigboy im tired of battling this but tommorow i know i will be a little more upbeat.im going to beat this and give my son the good childhood i never had
I know that alcohol is making my problems worse in the long run but i still enjoy having that fix for a few hours a week i dont mind spending the next day in bed.i cant work so ive not got responsibilities and my girlfriend doesnt mind seeing to the baby herself for the day(today is one of these)i was allways the biggest drinker out of my mates before my injury and problems started so once im in the pub i childisly want to live up to it after a few drinks and try to prove im still the alpha male like some drunken teenager 'i can drink more than you'thanks for the replies nora and bigboy im tired of battling this but tommorow i know i will be a little more upbeat.im going to beat this and give my son the good childhood i never had Well at least you aren't in denial :) it's ok having that fix, its controlling it though my friend!! Can I ask how old you are? The Alpha male thing well it's not well I am the top man oh no you all are equal there is nothing to prove and if you think your mates will think you are weak then are they mates?? And sorry I am going to be blunt here you actually do have responsabilities you have a baby that is yours not just you GF's and i's ok saying well she doesn't mind maybe she doesn't mind that's not the point Go Figure :) Rant over LOL
I know that alcohol is making my problems worse in the long run but i still enjoy having that fix for a few hours a week i dont mind spending the next day in bed.i cant work so ive not got responsibilities and my girlfriend doesnt mind seeing to the baby herself for the day(today is one of these)
Is that few hours 'fix' worth how shit you feel for the rest of the time though?
If you have a baby you have responsibilities and don't take it for granted that your GF is OK with it because the female mind is a complex thing. Trust me. :scared15:
i was allways the biggest drinker out of my mates before my injury and problems started so once im in the pub i childisly want to live up to it after a few drinks and try to prove im still the alpha male like some drunken teenager 'i can drink more than you'thanks
Thing is, you know it's doing you harm and keeping you unwell. It's not your mates who have to deal with the after effects of the drinking...it's your GF who already has her hands full with the little un. You need to change how you think and how you see yourself. You know that, don't you?
The most important thing in your life is your boy. He deserves the effort it will take for you to do this. I have little reminders everywhere to keep me focused. Photographs of my son or pictures he's drawn for me. I WILL get better because he needs a strong mum and you will get better because your son needs a strong dad.
You can do it, I have faith in you but please don't be afraid to ask for professional help.
Hope tomorrow is a better day for you.
Im 33 going on 93 lol.its all me and my mates have ever done since being young teenagers meet up in the pub at weekends most of us are just glorified drinking buddies if we didnt meet in the pub we wouldnt see each other.I understand where your coming from i know ive got responsibilities to my son i just meant i dont have work commitments.i am a bad dad today but tommorow he will have me back and i will do my best to make it up to him.my girlfriend is in work tommorow so we will have a good old dad and lad day
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Is that few hours 'fix' worth how shit you feel for the rest of the time though?
If you have a baby you have responsibilities and don't take it for granted that your GF is OK with it because the female mind is a complex thing. Trust me. :scared15:
Thing is, you know it's doing you harm and keeping you unwell. It's not your mates who have to deal with the after effects of the drinking...it's your GF who already has her hands full with the little un. You need to change how you think and how you see yourself. You know that, don't you?
The most important thing in your life is your boy. He deserves the effort it will take for you to do this. I have little reminders everywhere to keep me focused. Photographs of my son or pictures he's drawn for me. I WILL get better because he needs a strong mum and you will get better because your son needs a strong dad.
You can do it, I have faith in you but please don't be afraid to ask for professional help.
Hope tomorrow is a better day for you.
Thanks i have to get through this for my son hes the only thing keeping me going lately.i wont be a deadbeat dad like i had i just keep losing focus and i need a way of reminding myself how it affects everyone else when i go on a bender
Im 33 going on 93 lol.
Tell me about it...46 going on 106 here.:winks:
i wont be a deadbeat dad like i had i just keep losing focus and i need a way of reminding myself how it affects everyone else when i go on a benderYou don't have to make the same mistakes as your dad. It's your story and you get to write it. One of the best books I've ever read is by Viktor Frankl who survived the Holocaust and of his horrendous experience in the concentration camps, he said this..
Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.
It's as simple as that.
No matter what the situation, it's our choice how to deal with it.
Whenever I have a really bad day, which happens often, I think of this and know that if he could come through something as terrible as that with a positive attitude, I can certainly give it a go.
Change the inner dialogue and think positively. You will have bad days and it's on those days that you have to work the hardest but your reward will be recovery and your life back.
All the very best.:)
Im 33 going on 93 lol.its all me and my mates have ever done since being young teenagers meet up in the pub at weekends most of us are just glorified drinking buddies if we didnt meet in the pub we wouldnt see each other.I understand where your coming from i know ive got responsibilities to my son i just meant i dont have work commitments.i am a bad dad today but tommorow he will have me back and i will do my best to make it up to him.my girlfriend is in work tommorow so we will have a good old dad and lad day
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Thanks i have to get through this for my son hes the only thing keeping me going lately.i wont be a deadbeat dad like i had i just keep losing focus and i need a way of reminding myself how it affects everyone else when i go on a bender LOL Mat :) Iam 45 going on 105!! so yeah know what you mean but you are still a young lad lol ;) Nothing wrong with having a few beers with the boys! But think you need some hobbies to :) What neck of the woods you come from if you don't mind me asking? And no one is suggesting you are a bad person or trouble maker at the pub Hey a lot are and do my bloody head in and I give them a wide berth :) Can I ask what your brain injury is, and how did it happen Mat? Cheers
The other thing is which you know is you have to look after you as there is one of you if you get me. So while you have found a good outlet don't over do it!!! And we all make mistakes lol after all we are human :) Have a good day with your son!!
LOL Mat :) Iam 45 going on 105!! so yeah know what you mean but you are still a young lad lol ;) Nothing wrong with having a few beers with the boys! But think you need some hobbies to :) What neck of the woods you come from if you don't mind me asking? And no one is suggesting you are a bad person or trouble maker at the pub Hey a lot are and do my bloody head in and I give them a wide berth :) Can I ask what your brain injury is, and how did it happen Mat? Cheers
Im from wigan so not much else to do apart from drink lol.i got Punched outside the pub and fell back on the kerb fracturing my skull and i got a bleed on the brain.i was really lucky they told my family there wasnt much chance of me pulling through i was in an induced coma for a while
Every thread you've started since last year is the same issue. People repeatedly have advised getting help with your drinking issue.
Serious question: What do you expect people to say at this point?
I hope you take the steps needed to help yourself.
Positive thoughts
Im from wigan so not much else to do apart from drink lol.i got Punched outside the pub and fell back on the kerb fracturing my skull and i got a bleed on the brain.i was really lucky they told my family there wasnt much chance of me pulling through i was in an induced coma for a while LOL Yeah know what you mean their isn't much round there to do :) Ouch that's bad I would say you were mate :) The thing is you did pull through which is great news but that was bad a experience for you. What effects does it have on your daily life?
Seems like you're stuck in a cycle.
Which is normal. I am stuck in many cycles.
My advice would be look at the long-term, and decide if alcohol is negatively effecting your life.
If it is...
...please do not wait until its too late to change. Do not wait for a "wake-up call" because by then it might be too late.
Every thread you've started since last year is the same issue. People repeatedly have advised getting help with your drinking issue.
Serious question: What do you expect people to say at this point?
I hope you take the steps needed to help yourself.
Positive thoughts
Thanks for the reply.Like i said im abroken record it just helps to talk to people im not expecting any miracle advice i know that its me that needs to get it sorted my girlfriend has given up on me ever getting my head around it
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LOL Yeah know what you mean their isn't much round there to do :) Ouch that's bad I would say you were mate :) The thing is you did pull through which is great news but that was bad a experience for you. What effects does it have on your daily life?
Physically im pretty much back to myself its the mental issues ive been left with that affect me most.the other thing is the fatigue i get shattered half way through the day and have to cat nap
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Seems like you're stuck in a cycle.
Which is normal. I am stuck in many cycles.
My advice would be look at the long-term, and decide if alcohol is negatively effecting your life.
If it is...
...please do not wait until its too late to change. Do not wait for a "wake-up call" because by then it might be too late.
I should be able to just cut it out when i can see how its affecting my life but the thing is in a few weeks i will tell myself im not doing any harm going for a few pints and the cycle starts again i dont know what it will take to drill it into my thick head!
Thanks for the reply.Like i said im abroken record it just helps to talk to people im not expecting any miracle advice i know that its me that needs to get it sorted my girlfriend has given up on me ever getting my head around it
Thank you for the honest reply.
Good luck and as always...
Positive thoughts
Thanks for the reply.Like i said im abroken record it just helps to talk to people im not expecting any miracle advice i know that its me that needs to get it sorted my girlfriend has given up on me ever getting my head around it
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Physically im pretty much back to myself its the mental issues ive been left with that affect me most.the other thing is the fatigue i get shattered half way through the day and have to cat nap
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I should be able to just cut it out when i can see how its affecting my life but the thing is in a few weeks i will tell myself im not doing any harm going for a few pints and the cycle starts again i dont know what it will take to drill it into my thick head! Yes that's me too Chronic Fatigue and I don't have to do a lot to get me at that state either so can relate to this deffo!
Feeling a lot better today i hope i can remember how bad ive felt the last few days this time although i never have done before.
Feeling a lot better today i hope i can remember how bad ive felt the last few days this time although i never have done before.
Good to hear you are feeling better.
Feeling a lot better today i hope i can remember how bad ive felt the last few days this time although i never have done before. Hey great news mate :yesyes: Keep it up!! Cheers
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